Learning: How should children boast?
Parents are always worried that their children will be arrogant and arrogant if they exaggerate too much, and they are afraid that their children will not have self-confidence and no feelings, whether they will boast or not?
Many parents are poor in praising their children, and the most used are "hello awesome", "you are really good", "so powerful", etc. These empty praises often cannot lead children to find the direction of growth, and some even make children feel pure perfunctory.
Exaggerate well, and the child can grow;
Exaggeration is not good, the child is arrogant.
How to praise a child:
1. Through three aspects: attitude, ability, psychology
Attitude: More patient, more serious, more attentive than before...
Ability: Your writing is really neat, your vocabulary is very rich, your expression is very clear...
Psychology: You are very calm and calm in the face of problems...
2. Through three angles: start, process, result
Take the competition as an example:
Getting Started: It's a pleasure for you to be able to break through the barriers to compete.
Process: You stuck with it! And in the case of such a strong opponent, there are several times to win you, and you are not affected at all, very powerful!
Result: You win! Regardless of the outcome, you are already the champion in my heart!
3. In three ways: language, behavior, surprise
Language: As above
Behavior: high-fives, hugs, lifts...
Mystery: Understand what your child usually likes, and surprise your child in a mysterious way when he does it, maybe it is a tour, maybe a gift.
4. Adopt three principles: truth-seeking, details, and diversification
Truth-seeking: it will make children feel seen and concerned, and blindly exaggerated will make children feel very fake and unreal, and they cannot produce power.
Details: Affirming and enlarging in the details will make the child more clear about the point and direction of growth
Diversity: Let children feel a variety of ways to praise.
The expression of parents is of educational significance to children, and children will learn their parents' communication methods and how to behave in the world. We can't just blurt out randomly in front of our children without thinking.
Excellent children need their parents to lead them in the bits and pieces of life.