Women who are more and more beautiful in marriage, because they want to be cherished and treated kindly, need to save capital and confidence for themselves more, and they should take better care of themselves than anyone.
Gentle, kind, do things decently, do not argue with people, do not talk to the neighbors, get used to discovering the strengths of others, and most importantly, do not complain.
Whether in parenting forums, in the mother-and-baby circle, or in the reality of married women's gatherings, one of the eternal and unchanging topics is the short complaints of parents.
A said: My mother-in-law always uses my mask, why doesn't she buy it herself when she is so rich? Although she also helps me watch my children buy vegetables and cook, it is not appropriate to use my mask, right?
B said: My husband goes out to socialize all day and does not know to accompany me. Alas, the child is disobedient, how is this family still living?
C said: Today is too hot, good sun, the food here is really unpalatable, the environment is not good, is no money, I have money to not come to this kind of small shop to eat.
D said: My husband hates me for being fat, and God knows how good I was before I got married. Didn't he say he wouldn't give up at the beginning, and why is he now talking about this? Complaining has become a weapon for women, or a vendetta.
She is dissatisfied when she is disappointed with the status quo, when she does not get the warmth and financial conditions she wants, when she thinks that men should be able to earn a lot of money and have time to accompany her around the world, but her men seem to never be able to do it.
She wanted to talk, to vent, to find a breakthrough to express her dissatisfaction with him. Her original intention was to urge him to correct, but he had not corrected it, and she had become a shrew in his eyes.
Thus, in a vicious circle, she was disappointed more and more often, as if she could only live in her own dissatisfaction; as if he had changed as a person, seriously deviating from her pre-marriage commitment. He also began to dislike her, completely unable to remember why he had married such a stubborn woman and accused his own man all the time. Women start crying, why are you treating me like this?
Why can't he treat you like this?
After all, it's you who give up on yourself first.
You have accumulated too much dissatisfaction, all his shortcomings have been infinitely magnified by you, you feel that you can't stand it, and you tell him over and over again: how good I am to you, how bad you are to me.
When you accuse, like a very xianglin sister-in-law, you constantly repeat the grievances you have suffered, and you live into a state of resentment.
Looks always change with experience and age, and when you look in the mirror again, do you find yourself ugly?
While envying the youthful girl's vigor and figure, while shuttling between the big mother and the yellow-faced woman; on the one hand, he was distressed by the trivialities of the seven aunts and eight aunts, and on the other hand, he was too lazy to manage every relationship; on the other hand, he was jealous of people's face and skills, and on the other hand, he did not wear a mask, and comforted himself that "the child is not ugly to the mother."
How do you get pretty?
Colleague Linlin, over thirty years old, is the mother of a four-year-old child.
The charm has not diminished. She works out, arranges flowers, reads, writes, prepares meals, and speaks and behaves gently. Her husband pampered her, and the two were married for six years, and there were still endless words.
I never heard her say that her husband's is not, mostly praise, Mr. earned some extra money, she was very happy to say that she knew that he had this ability; the mother-in-law helped with the child, she would tell us that it was really hard to take care of her granddaughter at such an old age; buying things was always double, mother and mother-in-law who were not many; the company organized activities, we complained that it was too hot, too tired, only she was very interested in taking pictures of the scenery, and also studied the names of the flowers on the side of the road.
Several people in the department signed up for the fitness class at the same time, we fished for three days and dried the net for two days, but she had to go three days a week, never slackening. Linlin's chai rice oil and salt is a real poetry song, not calculated, not empty talk; the weight loss is weight loss, the fitness is fitness, her mentality is the typical of not complaining. She is very good at discovering and amplifying the strengths of others, and always has good thoughts.
A woman with a peaceful mind has the most powerful strength, which makes her temperament better and better, which is the real internal and external cultivation.
Linlin is beautiful, inside and out.
Aside from making you ugly, complaining is the biggest useless work.
You need to put your mind in the right place, and the pattern is a little bigger. You need to be diligent, don't be lazy, don't get up, don't exercise, except for the extra flesh around your waist, it won't bring you any benefits. You also need to be in a better state of mind and figure out the true meaning of life a little earlier.
Earthly families need to be managed with care. Fireworks in the world, try to taste it well. Don't be a long-tongued woman, be an elegant woman.
You're a good girl, you're so pretty today.