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Actor Chaplin once said: "Looking at it from a distance is a comedy, and looking at it up close is sadness." ”
Any emotion, from the perspective of difference, the consequences are different, and the feelings are different.
Instead of stumbling in a place, it is better to go out automatically and have the ability to jump out of the circle to see the circle.
The predecessor said: "Brothers love and friends, brothers respect and obey." ”
What is very valuable in the mortal world is brotherhood and sisterhood. Friends grew up and moved forward together. If there is a grudge, it will make the people cold.
How to redeem the feeling of defeat, we must control the "difference between near and far" principles. Take a moment to go all the way to the following places to see the survival in the distance, and realize that it is already a living door for people who have walked through.
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First, go to the place where your parents are located.
Lao She wrote in "My Mother": "My mother was born in a farmhouse, thrifty and sincere. For our food and clothing, my mother will wash and decorate her friends. In my impression, her hands were bright red and slightly swollen for many years. ”
For the parents to look back, you must have a lot of it. Even if you don't want to involve the poor survival of the hour, you still can't forget it.
When you grow up, no matter how far you go, you may want to go back to your parents. During the New Year's Festival, the family sat around the road, accompanied by their parents to eat a meal, and had a glass of wine with the old father, and their hearts were warm.
As parents, we must wait for the offspring to be kind and kind, and not to make noise.
Therefore, when brothers and sisters go to their parents' homes, they will feel the love of their parents and will also be touched by the harmonious picture of the family. Family feuds are acts of filial piety to parents.
If your parents have passed away, prostrate yourself on the grave and burn incense. With the help of the love left by parents, wake up your friends' confidants.
Already, in order to pull the offspring to grow up, the parents have tried their best. Especially the parents of a few tunzi, raising pigs, feeding sheep, farming, raising chickens and ducks... They are all sins, but the parents do not cry bitterness, but leave the demons on themselves, leaving happiness and hope to future generations.
In front of the "face" of parents, if you have something to say, the family style will also become better.
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Second, very poor relatives at home.
The playwright Balzac said: "The place where one side is probably dying, and the two sides are probably rescued along the way." ”
One-sided strength is limited, but the strength of a family is unlimited.
Good families help each other, not each other. When you feel "helpless", it will be much better to have a brother pull you along.
In actual survival, a small number of well-mixed people, although they say "hate their relatives", but at some point, or they will sponsor brothers and sisters, the truth of this love, can not be separated.
Go to the homes of very poor brothers and sisters, and you will have a feeling of "unbearable in your heart".
There is a saying that the people's morale is long for meat, so why are you willing to risk blood and bones? You are not obliged to drag the poor forward, but if you really sponsor the poor, you will have a leisurely heart. When you are old, you have a sense of peace of mind.
There is a saying in my hometown: "Give a hard hand to your family, count which skill, have the ability to fight the world." ”
As a person, we must be able to distinguish between the surface, do not always "blade inward", step on the shoulders of the poor and climb up.
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Third, the family of relatives of high moral character.
To be a person, we must learn from the model of morality. Friends understand the facts, but there are relatively few opportunities to touch the character model, and it is very difficult to inquire deeply about them.
If you really investigate, you will find out that among the relatives, some of the relatives' families are very solemn and worth learning.
In my hometown, when young people get married, they need to find a respected leader who has "both offspring and a solemn family" to help straighten out the bed. It is hoped that this young couple can also infect the blessings of the elders.
Every aspect is expected to get better, but there is no way to find the tricks to get better.
Go to the homes of relatives of high moral character, talk to relatives, and you will discover their benefits. Their advice will also be heard.
At the time of the New Year, my family and I went to my second uncle's house to celebrate the New Year. The second uncle said, "I gave the whole of the family to my eldest son." ”
We are confused in our hearts: "Isn't it true that the naked son will not complain?" The second uncle's approach is too eccentric. ”
The second uncle continued: "The naked son is working in Shenzhen, mixed well, and automatically proposed that he give up all of his hometown." The old house was renovated, and he sent ten thousand yuan. ”
"The belly can tolerate, tolerate the things that are difficult for the whole country to tolerate", brothers and sisters come and go, and you are "generous". This is the family of the second uncle, showing reason.
Brothers and sisters have a vendetta, and if they compare the grievances in their hearts with the true feelings of their relatives' families, they will be ashamed of themselves and will have the intention of repentance. There is also a bias towards tampering.
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Fourth, the hospital where the dead and the living coexist.
The Taiwanese writer Zhang Chenfeng once said: "If I am allowed to expose one more day of public mu day, I will certainly define it as promised: this day cannot be used for entertainment or sightseeing, but to force people to go to hospitals to visit the life and death of human beings." ”
Walking into the hospital, you will see the death of Bai Shuo, the birth of the child, the uncomfortable face of the patient, the busy figure of the doctor, and it is very valuable that a small number of people who have just recovered from serious illnesses have walked out of the hospital. Although the figure is not too good, but there is a smile on the face, it is like a relief.
In this ordinary life, except for dead or alive, there are few major events.
Relatively speaking, what is the revenge of brothers and sisters? When you are old, you can't always bring your grievances into the soil, right? Can't we treat grievances as heirlooms and leave them to the next generation?
If you are really sick, your relatives still look at you every three to five years, and give you money, such as Xu's emotions, is not ten thousand times better than revenge?
The mind turns, the motivation shifts, and the grudge creates the apparatus to let go.
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Huang Zongyi, a Ming Dynasty mindman, said: "Between bones and blood, one more point of simplicity is one more point of nature, and the short and long are meaningless and too bright." ”
They all say, brothers, settle accounts.
Any work, only to figure it out, it will be good. This is a superficial work, but it is actually impossible, and many emotions, money, and a lifetime are ignorant accounts. Only by learning to be ignorant and not to calculate can we truly be relieved.
The limitation of walking on one side is his life; the world he sees in front of him is his style.
When encountering a grudge, don't be busy, if it doesn't work out, then cover it.
May you and I go out for a walk and seek the sun.