I have seen a blogger share her daily life, the means of transportation is a luxury car, the house is a first-tier city, and buying a package is the salary of the ordinary working class for a year.
Seeing this, people can't help but sigh that this girl's life is really happy, standing at a height that others may not be able to reach in their lifetime, if they can be so lucky.
Admittedly, each of us hopes that we saved the galaxy in our previous life, and then this life can be born with a golden spoon, can not be so tired, when buying things to see their preferences instead of first looking at the price, can marry a good person, and then spend this life plainly.
However, in fact, most people have been struggling all their lives, and what is more, they may have struggled all their lives without finding anything, not living the life they want, and even marriage is unsatisfactory.
At this time, we should know how much "suffering" a woman will suffer in the future, which has long been doomed.
The impact of the family of origin is often deep-rooted
In the movie "The Life of the Abandoned Pine Nuts", the pine nuts were not concerned by their parents since childhood, because the younger sister was weak and sick, so more attention was poured into the sister's body and ignored the existence of the pine nuts, so the pine nuts studied desperately, just to win attention.
Finally, Matsuko achieved a good result of the first place, her father took her to the playground, but because of her sister's matter, her father has been sullen and sad, at this time, Matsuko made a grimace, it looks funny, and sure enough, the father saw it and smiled, from then on, as long as the father is not happy, Matsuko will play a grimace to make his father happy.
After growing up, due to the lack of family care, Matsuko is extremely insecure in her heart, and when she is with her boyfriend, she also stabilizes their relationship with each other through flattery, even if it is to make herself wronged.
Unfortunately, those people felt that the pine nuts were too cheap, and none of them cared about her, they all squeezed out her surplus value, and then left without looking back.
Lucky people use childhood to heal a lifetime, unlucky people use a lifetime to heal childhood, and the original family is a person's enlightenment teacher.
People who have experienced full of sweetness in the original family will certainly not be bitter in the future days, because the happiness given to them by the original family is enough for them to resist thousands of troops.
If you can't eat the suffering of self-discipline, then you can eat the suffering of mediocrity
Others have reasonable control over their diet, exercise and fitness every day, and develop their own interests and hobbies in their leisure time to accept new things, but what about you?
High-calorie things such as fried chicken beer don't fall, and every day I shout about losing weight, but the video of weight loss is just falling in the dust in the favorites, and you feel that you are too tired to accept new things, and you will not lie in bed and brush short videos for a while.
Therefore, there is a job that needs a good impression, a good temperament, and a person with special skills, and others meet the conditions to be hired, and you, nothing, can only fail.
Who is to blame for this? Life has always been for yourself, and what kind of ending life will eventually present, the key lies in how you operate.
Everyone wants to be comfortable, after all, ease is very comfortable, but ease means that life is stagnant, many opportunities will pass us by, such a life is consistent with mediocrity, how can it be happy?
If you can't eat the suffering of being alone, then eat the suffering of doing nothing
We live in an extroverted ideal value system, in which each of us firmly believes that the most ideal self is sociable, and the more friends the better, otherwise it is an outlier.
Even if we are very uncomfortable in the spotlight, in order to fit in, in order to get the approval of others, we can only force ourselves to talk and laugh freely.
In other words, we are told by the social system that good character is to be brave, happy, and sociable.
However, when we only pursue the evaluation of others and ignore our own value, our life means to spend for others, then, we will no longer be unique, what we think is just mechanically repeating the way of life of others, you say, what happiness is there in such a life?
Socrates once said, "A bird standing in a tree never worries that its branches will break, because they believe not in the branches, but in its own wings."
Therefore, we must understand a truth, that is, as a woman, the most important thing is independence.
Independent in life, independent in economy, but also independent in personality, independent in thinking, we don't feel that being alone means being lonely, and don't be blinded by a few words of authority, what we have to do is to maintain the ability to think independently, to do what we want to do, to learn to get along with ourselves.
Only when we learn to live independently and bear independently can we smile and face all setbacks, and only when we learn to get along with ourselves will we get the happiness we want in this world.