A few years ago, the derailment of Xu Zhi'an and Huang Xinying not only made a lot of noise in Hong Kong and Taiwan, but also dominated the hot search list in the mainland for several consecutive days.
The original match of Hui Zhi'an is the queen of heaven, Zheng Xiuwen, the two have been divided and combined for more than ten years of love and finally cultivated into positive results, and their love can be described as the faith in the minds of Hong Kong people. Nowadays, Xu Zhi'an's personality collapses, Huang Xinying is affected by the derailment incident, and the endorsement TV series variety show has been stopped.
In other words, your circle is really chaotic, handsome men and beautiful women in the entertainment industry have been seen frequently, and derailment incidents are also frequently broken, I believe that many people have already had immunity. So, has anyone ever thought about the reasons behind the infidelity? Why does a man who has a successful career and a happy family have to cheat on a third party?
There are still many husbands who do not want to divorce after cheating, nor do they want to break off with Xiao San, and some husbands abandon their original matches for Xiao San, do not remember the old feelings and resolutely divorce, and then marry Xiao San, why is his man eaten by Xiao San?
As the original match, you have paid so much for this family, but you have been cold-eyed and abandoned by your husband, why is this so?
Most of the original partners can't figure out why their husbands are so infatuated with Xiao San, and where is Xiao San better than himself?
The following will dissect the original matching doubts from the following five reasons:
Reason one: Little Three knows how to cater to men's hearts
In fact, many small three can grasp the hearts of men deadly, relying not only on beauty, but also on high emotional intelligence. Because he understands men and knows how to grasp men's needs.
For example, when a man buys a bouquet of flowers for a holiday to give to each other, the original partner will usually say "What are you wasting this money on?" With this money, you can buy two days' worth of food..." Although you are thinking about the family, but the man goes straight, and the romance he creates needs you to give back, so that he will be satisfied.
On the contrary, Xiao San never skimps on his praise and gratitude, and when he receives surprises, he will directly express his admiration for you, his happiness in receiving gifts, and even send fragrant kisses or say words of gratitude.
Therefore, in the face of such differential treatment, it is normal for men to prefer the third child. The same effort, but the return is very different. Xiao San knows how to cater to men's hearts and express gratitude at the right time, which is worth learning from some originals.
To understand the man's heart, be sure to give rewards and praise when the man pays, when you sincerely thank the man and let him know your gratitude, he will feel that the time and effort you have put in is worth it.
Reason two: Little three is not bothered
Human beings are inherently self-centered, and the wife talks endlessly about her own encounters or things around her, originally thinking that she can close the distance between each other and expect the other party to discuss with you, but forget to consider whether the other party wants to listen, and whether the other party is willing to discuss with you.
For example, when men sometimes come home from work, they are physically and mentally exhausted, unwilling to talk more, and just want to lie quietly on the sofa to look at the mobile phone, the wife likes to pull homely routines, crackling and talking a lot, but forgot to observe whether the other party wants to listen, and the interest is not high.
When men are silent and don't want to respond, they will press questions or lose their temper, such as which woman did you go out with today? Why don't you say anything to me, you don't trust me at all, etc., all of which will annoy men.
But Xiao San was different, first of all, she observed that men were tired and would not ask anything more, but just gently and simply asked if they were hungry or not.
If Xiao San really wants to talk about anything, he will also restrain self-centered thoughts and wait until the man wants to say it. In the eyes of many men, Xiao San knows how to observe and is not annoying, which is the most satisfactory to them.
Reason three: Little three makes men full of passion
Generally speaking, old husbands and wives have been married for many years, the mystery and passion have long faded, and they have long known each other. However, when the passion fades, if left unchecked, it will lead to a boring and boring state of feelings.
After most women get married, they tend to be realistic and lack of mood, and completely live a plain life of chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea. But men also have a hunting mentality, men will also seek fresh feelings, and Xiao San just satisfies men's feelings.
For example, when the wife is busy and busy with this family and gets carried away, Xiao San is paying attention to maintaining his skin, always letting himself show himself in front of the man with the best side, which is also a reason for men to be passionate. But the "yellow-faced woman" in the family does not necessarily bother to please her husband so hard.
Many wives lament for themselves that they do not have so much energy to manage their relationship with their husbands and keep themselves refined. Therefore, how to dispose of your own time is particularly important, and you must make efforts to run a marriage. You can create some small surprises in life from time to time, guide men to make some romantic moves, and will stir up ripples in the ordinary life.
When you run the passion of marriage, it's like Stanford psychologist Carol Dwick put it: "Over time, there becomes more excitement about developing passion and fulfilling it." ”
Reason four: Little Three will spoil and conquer men
It is best to spoil a woman, and this saying applies not only during love, but also in marriage.
You are very good, but the husband does not know your good; you pay a lot, but the husband thinks that you do not pay much; you are so good, you work so hard for this family, but the husband can't see,
Why is that? Did Little Three pay more than you? No, it's just that Xiao San will spoil, will conquer men, and will let him see his own efforts.
For example, some men feel that their wives are not considerate of themselves, why? For example, some wives see their husbands slumped on the couch and do not help with housework and get angry, and the man is too tired at this time, but the wife is not stubborn, and even forces the man to come and help, even if you do not force the man, complaining about doing all the housework, he still will not feel good.
And Xiao San is not doing this, she will not direct men, force men to do housework together, but silently finish the housework, even if she is angry in her heart, but she will not lose her temper, but turn to the man and say: "My hands have become thicker ~ but I see that you are too tired to let you help!" "Men will feel that Xiao San is the most considerate woman in the whole world at this time."
This is how Xiao San uses actions and words to prove that he is a considerate and good woman, which man can love her a little more?
Reason five: Little Three can talk about love
The life of the old husband and wife after marriage makes more and more couples more and more stingy to express their love directly in words.
Wouldn't it be more convincing to say that real action, you might say? However, both men and women like to hear praise, and they all want to be recognized and needed. A deep word from time to time can stop the quarrel and add more color to life.
Xiao San often expresses himself appropriately, "I love you, and I only have you in my heart." "Although I don't know if it's true or not, even if it's not, at least Xiao San will pretend." But men just love that and like the feeling of conquering women.
The love words spoken by Xiao San contain a kind of dependence on the weak, which can stimulate the protection and sense of responsibility of the big man, he can strongly feel that he is needed, and also enjoy the feeling of being a strong person. This is a powerful way to conquer men.
And some wives will not express their needs or weakness, which is the most fatal in marriage, in the eyes of men, you still have children, relatives, and friends, you can do anything, you are a strong woman, or you have the protection of people around you, and you don't need me.
And Xiao San needs him, because Xiao San only has him, he must assume the role of a strong person to protect this woman, so he is infatuated with this woman, and he is also obsessed with this feeling of being a strong person.
Emotional message: A man who is confused by the little three will not discuss the right and wrong of things with you, so if the original partner wants to save the marriage, can't bear his family being broken, and bringing harm to the children, don't dwell on the right and wrong of things. Instead, it is determined to achieve its own goals, learn to know oneself and know the other, learn the strengths of the enemy, and make up for your weaknesses. Thus defeating Xiao San and saving her husband's heart.
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