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01. Introduction
Zhang Ailing summed up love very appropriately: "Love is not complicated, it comes and goes in three words, not I love you, I hate you, or forget it, are you okay, sorry." ”
Love is a matter of two people, if you can't let go of learning and can't restrain your desires, then in love, women will always be at a disadvantage.
Woman, the more you pestered the man, the less he loved you.
Don't get tangled up with men, give each other some space, and if they really don't have a fate with each other, don't force it.
The more obsessive and posing a "non-monarch and no marriage" posture, the more men feel that women love very superficially and have no backbone.
Do not entangle, but let yourself shine more and more, even if you can't become a husband and wife with each other, in the hearts of men, you are also a very great woman.
Many times, the more you pursue and entangle, the less the other party takes you seriously. When you stop pestering and choose to leave, the other party will remember your good and hate that you can't come back right away.
Woman, the more you pestered the man, the less he loved you. Don't pestering men, love yourself.
02, the more entangled with men, the cheaper love
In the TV series "Know It or Not", Mo Lan was jealous of Minglan, so she designed to get Liang Han's attention, in order to marry into liang mansion, she can be said to be unscrupulous.
Before getting married, Mo Lan and Liang Han privately made a lifelong agreement, and at first Liang Han still attached great importance to Mo Lan, and also gave her the right to be the head of the family.
But later, the piles made by Mo Lan made Liang Han realize that she was not the simple and weak woman he first knew, and he turned to favoring the concubine room and threw Mo Lan aside.
Mo Lan still learned from his mother's set, playing tricks, thinking that he could get the pity of men.
However, in Liang Han's eyes, he had long felt that Mo Lan was annoying, and he didn't want to talk to her again, let alone take her seriously.
Pestering men is a means.
Possibly, it will get a man's temporary like, and it can also get what you want, but gradually the feelings will fade. The more entangled the woman is, the more disdainful the man becomes.
When women are entangled regardless of their disregard, they have already discarded their self-esteem, and even if they have more love in their hearts, they cannot attract the attention of men.
The more a woman pesters a man, the cheaper her love will be.
03, women, run yourself well
Managing yourself well is the best way to retain love.
Luo Zijun in "The First Half of My Life" was abandoned by Chen Junsheng, and under the guidance of He Han, it can be described as a change like a rebirth.
She is confident and attractive, and can support herself on her own strength.
At this time, Chen Junsheng regretted it. He regretted marrying Ling Ling, who was calculating everywhere, and gave up Luo Zijun, who truly loved him.
It was also Luo Zijun's transformation that made Chen Junsheng have such an idea, but everything could not be turned back.
Women, don't think that love is forever unchanging, and don't think that without divorce, you can stay with the person you love.
In fact, what is really useful is to make a complete change in yourself.
Leaving fiercely and returning with a more powerful aura can make men move their hearts.
When love dissipates, don't struggle to let go. Demanding can not change the other party's mind, only by running your own life well, you can be worthy of yourself.
When you have gone through the transformation and can get back up to face the various storms in life, love will surely return to your world in another identity.
04, women, please do not give up on yourself for love
Women deserve better happiness when you get better.
Jimmy said: "Don't dwell on an awkward thing, dwell on it for too long, dwell on it for a long time, you will be annoyed, you will be painful, you will be bored, you will be tired, you will be hurt, you will be heartbroken." ”
Women, if they can't experience the sweet taste in love, don't get entangled, learn to withdraw. If you can't change a man's heart, don't cling to it anymore.
Put your mind on your own life, pay attention to your own happiness, and plan more for your future, in order to have a brighter future.
Only when you are getting better and better and more confident, you will have more opportunities, and you will also meet better love and better yourself.
When love reaches the point where it is irretrievable, giving up becomes the only way. And the road of life is still very long, as long as you do not give up on yourself, there will be unlimited possibilities.
05. Hear the autumn voice
Woman, love yourself well, don't lose yourself in rotten love.
Eric Fromm said: "Almost no activity, no career like love, at the beginning is full of infinite hope and expectation, and at the end it is invariably disappointed." ”
The feeling of loving someone is strong and wanting to get a response from the other person.
If you don't get it, then don't give it anymore. If you can't get affection, don't force it, but you should be fierce and cut it clean, so that there will be no never-ending pain.
Feelings are fickle, and the more entangled and chased, the easier it is to hurt yourself.
Resentment, revenge, even the other party is not happy, but found that for themselves, in fact, it does not mean much.
The subject of life is always oneself. It is more important for anyone to be happy and happy, and loving yourself well is the real liberation.
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About the author: Smell the autumn sound, live by words. Autumn wind boiling rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.