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Su Mingyu, who has always liked Yao Chen's role, feels that she has a big pattern, encountering difficulties is not humble, not flustered, not busy, treating people who have hurt themselves is also rational and methodical, and dealing with emotional problems is also very measured. I think that's why she's been able to achieve so much.
You take a look, among the women around you, most of them can really achieve something, most of them have a big pattern, they continue to accumulate, gradually improve, let themselves be more relaxed in the face of difficulties, but also let themselves face the past of life more calmly.
I always believe that only when we continue to improve our own pattern, can we meet the right people on the right platform, and those high-level people and the environment will also affect us in turn, which is a virtuous circle of human growth.
Therefore, let's learn the characteristics of Su Mingyu together, learn how to be a woman with a big pattern, let yourself live a down-to-earth life, and bravely move forward to be happy.
independent
Su Mingyu is an independent person, and no one will doubt this. In the face of the eccentricity of parents, after the fruitless struggle, they did not give up on themselves, worked hard since college, and did not spend the family's money, which many people cannot do.
But it is also like this, Su Mingyu grew rapidly in adversity, reached a height that others could not reach, and had achievements that others did not have.
Independence is something that no one can't do, just depending on whether you want to or not, sometimes force yourself, you can achieve the desired achievements. Especially when you are not satisfied with the status quo, think of Su Mingyu, learn from Su Mingyu, become a strong person from the inside out, you will have the life you want.
composure
It is said that women are easily impulsive, probably because too many women cannot calmly deal with things when they encounter things, like to complain about themselves, and are easy to complain and give up.
At this point, Su Mingyu did a very good job. She knew that her parents could not give her the life she wanted, so she resolutely left home to work hard for herself, encountered ups and downs in her work, and also faced difficulties and worked hard for herself.
In this way, she met the noble Lao Meng, and had her own career and love, but she was not complacent because of everything she had.
Women, no matter what you encounter, don't give up easily, first calmly analyze, and then deal with it decisively, improve your own pattern, open the way in every mountain, build bridges in water, you must be able to.
Accept yourself
If we carry hatred, we will never be happy in this life, but only if we are strong enough to a certain level can we let go of hatred.
For this sentence, Su Mingyu gave a good interpretation with personal experience. When she was young, because she could not support the life she wanted, she hated the injustice of her family, so she left them and did not interact with each other.
But when she really has her own career and can have everything she wants without relying on anyone, she is much relieved, no longer cares about the hurt she has suffered, and is willing to shake hands with her past.
We can't live with hatred forever, but you and I may not really be able to let go of it now. Then, just work hard, like Su Mingyu, when you have reached a certain position, and then look back, you will feel that those grievances are not important, and it is best to let yourself live more calmly now.
Remember, never deny your past, and learn to accept yourself, whether it's good or bad.
Learn to refuse
I think women with patterns are smart, they know how to refuse what they don't want to do without hurting themselves and others, and they can protect themselves very well.
Just like Su Mingyu, in the process of doing sales, she encountered many difficult customers, but she was always able to get orders and protect herself. Although it was a little sad to watch her sleep in the bathtub every time she got drunk, I felt that this was the defense mechanism that a woman should have.
Moreover, Su Mingyu encountered so many people who made it difficult for him, rarely got angry, and was always able to laugh and say the most cruel words, so that the other party could not refute it.
Whether it is Meng Zong's wife, Xiao Meng, her uncles and aunts at home, or the leader of Su Mingcheng, she can say nice things and do what she wants.
Such abilities will not be easy to have, but we must strive to have ourselves, improve the pattern, protect ourselves, and refuel.
Continuous learning and self-improvement
Su Mingyu's ability is beyond doubt, I think this stems from her continuous learning. Although there are not many scenes in the play about her study, we can see the scene where she spends the night studying economic marketing books in her dormitory in order to do sales with Lao Meng.
A truly powerful woman, who never gives up learning, will always improve herself, and their pattern lets them know that only by learning all the time can they have the ability to solve problems.
Su Mingyu did this, and I hope we can all.
There are principles
I like Su Mingyu's humble attitude in the face of everyone, and I also like her principled attitude.
After his father's physical problems, Su Mingyu said goodbye to Lao Meng and wanted to take good care of his father and do some things he wanted to do.
Although Lao Meng gave her very good conditions and did everything to keep her, she still did not move. I think women should be like this, know what they want, know when to do, this is the pattern, but also the guarantee of our happiness.
There is a belly volume
When Su Mingyu helped his brother Su Mingcheng find his job, he told his own story to the female leader who was difficult for him.
At that time, she was still a small saleswoman, but there was a female leader who always embarrassed her. Everyone advised her to bow her head, but she just didn't, and she achieved success with her own hard work.
Later, when she became the leader of the woman, she did not try to harass her again, because she knew that she was already better than her, and there was no point in going back and beating people down.
Such a pattern makes me admire, such a belly is also worth learning, sometimes, too calculating will hurt yourself, put all your energy on how to improve yourself, when you become strong, those who have hurt you are not worth mentioning.
I hope everyone can understand this truth, I hope everyone can run forward, because when you are standing still, there is gossip in your ears, but when you run, there is only the sound of the wind in your ears.
Take a long-term view
Be a woman with a long-term vision, don't stick to the immediate interests, this was already able to be done when Su Mingyu was very young.
Therefore, when her Dream of Qinghua was shattered, she did not give up on herself, but worked hard to change her destiny.
Later, she did it, and let us understand that no matter what happens in the moment, don't rush to draw conclusions about your life, the future is very long, as long as you don't give up, you and I are dark horses.
Improve your own pattern, make your vision become long-term, be a brave and resourceful big woman, come on.
courageous and resolute
I think successful women all have a common trait, which is to be very bold. Decisions can be made quickly in the face of chaos.
Most women can't do this, because we are often indecisive, looking ahead, afraid of losing something, and afraid of hurting others.
But did you know that when you hesitate, you may have missed the best opportunity, or you may have hurt yourself and the people you love more?
Especially in the face of emotional distress, we must quickly cut the mess, do not hold a fluke mentality, do not fear that we will not meet better after the future, enlarge the pattern, you will see a broader world.
Can stop loss in time
The last thing I want to say is that the big pattern of women to have a very important trait, in time to stop loss.
In this life, we will encounter many tribulations, perhaps not as tragic as Su Mingyu, but there must also be many twists and turns. At such times, you need to have a timely stop loss ability, so that you can quickly pull out and continue to move forward.
Please remember, don't regret it, let the past pass, please remember, look forward, as long as you don't give up, everything will be fine.
What Su Mingyu has is the necessary trait for women in the big picture, and what Su Mingyu has is also a necessary condition for successful women.
If you want to control your own life, then work hard, I believe that you will be able to become the master of your life, and you will be able to become a woman in the big picture.
I am Xi Yan, columnist, older girl who is not old and not old, likes to write warm words, do emotional programs, has published "The Rest of Your Life, Related to Me", if you have a story, remember to come to me.