As the saying goes, there is an old family if there is a treasure, but in this society many children and even grandchildren and their own elderly people have a lot of conflicts have been seen, although filial piety to the elderly is what we should do, but it is impossible to be born without making mistakes, many times our elders will also make some mistakes, for example, today we want to tell you this story, it perfectly explains the "old man is a dragon, to whom is poor" This sentence, I don't know what reason you can understand?
In fact, filial piety is the traditional virtue of our Chinese nation, and only in one family everyone has a heart of filial piety to the elderly, everyone can live in harmony for a long time, and the elderly have lived more than you in the world for decades, naturally all the insight and accumulation of wealth are stronger than everyone, so supporting the elderly is the obligation that each of us should fulfill.
But after people get older, it is inevitable to do some confusing things, for example, there are many elderly people who like to use the economy of a relatively smooth family to subsidize children who are not very smooth, and even before there was a grandmother who took her granddaughter's money to subsidize her son's family, which has always been a bit strange.
For the previous one-child society is better, whether it is wealth or disaster is only borne by one person, but in the previous situation where there were many children in a family, the parents' minds are more difficult to guess, there will be a situation of eccentricity to a certain child, and the result of such eccentricity is coddling, and the thing that finally destroys this child is also coddling.
In the story "Zheng Boke Duan Yu Yan", Zheng Guogong's mother Wu Jiang and his younger brother Duan Gong duan are a mother who is extremely unbalanced with the children, and after the father of the two brothers married Wu Jiang, she soon became pregnant with Zheng Guogong, but when she gave birth to him, there were some problems, because Wu Jiang had difficulty giving birth, and it is reasonable to say that such a thing should not blame the child, after all, the child does not have this idea to harm his mother.
However, Wu Jiang sprinkled all his temper on this poor child, and he has not been very kind to him in the rest of his life, just because he almost lost his life when he gave birth to him, and when he gave birth to his brother GongShu Duan later, it was very smooth, and soon gave birth to this child, so it caused Wu Jiang to like Gong Shu Duan very much and somewhat hated Zheng Guogong.
The obvious preference from childhood to adulthood did not change Zheng Guogong's mentality, but it made his brother Gong Uncle Duan have some bad habits, the whole person became lazy, and there was no brain, thinking about how to eat, drink and have fun all day, and the appearance of no ambition naturally could not become a big thing.
We all know that in ancient times, there was a rule that the eldest son must be established as his heir, and Zheng Guogong's performance was very outstanding at that time, and he had a very admirable ability in all aspects, so their father naturally wanted to pass this position to Zheng Guogong, but Wu Jiang did not agree much, she thought that this position should be GongShu Duan, and during the reign of Zheng Wugong, she had been secretly blowing the wind in his ears, wanting him to establish the heir to the gong uncle Duan position.
Fortunately, Zheng Wugong has not let up, after all, the eldest son is sensible and powerful, why should he choose the younger son who has achieved nothing? After Zheng Guogong became the monarch, he did not treat the mother and son of Gong Uncle Duan badly, but gave the best fiefdom and palace, but this Gong Uncle Duan did not know satisfaction, and under the cooperation of Wu Jiang's internal and external cooperation, he actually wanted to rebel.
However, because of Wu Jiang's doting on GongShu Duan from childhood, he did not learn any real military knowledge at all, but only relied on his mother's internal and external cooperation, a little bit of confidence, and finally was not defeated by Zheng Guogong, he could only escape from Zheng Guo, and he died outside, and he could not return home.
Therefore, the culprit who caused such an ending in this story is actually the doting of his mother Wu Jiang, and it is not wrong for parents to love their children, but if it is doting, it will definitely affect the child's life, and everything from childhood to adulthood is arranged for him clearly, so that he does not know how hard life really is, cannot experience the hardships of life, and how can he appreciate the true meaning of life?
Especially in a family with many children like this, when you prefer one child, the other child will grow up rapidly, and in this contrast, the child you dot on will become the weaker party, and in the future, when the older generation leaves this world, the relationship between the brothers and sisters left behind is not harmonious, and even turns against each other.
Of course, this is not the end that parents want to see, so as an old man or a bowl of water, you can't use the rightful one to help the other party because who is developing better, after all, whose money is not blown by the wind, and his own efforts are the most important.