Introduction: Zeng Guofan's wisdom in dealing with the world: to not lightly laugh at people to warn of pampering, careful words and cautious behavior is the first key
As the "first perfect person in China throughout the ages" and known as the "semi-saint", Zeng Guofan has been practicing the ideas of diligence and frugality and self-discipline all his life, and many other good teachings that have taught the world such as the "Family Letter", "Family Training", and "Tingjing" left behind are not sought after by people.
And today, what Yi Shijun wants to share with you is a sentence from the book of Zeng Guofan's family:
Words and words are not taken lightly, and people who do not laugh at people are the first righteousness.
This sentence says that in order to overcome the problem of abstaining from arrogance, do not discuss, gossip, and do not easily draw conclusions, to ridicule and ridicule others, which is the first thing to do in the world.
In fact, everyone can also see in life, especially if there is a problem with a certain star, the group begins to criticize, it is bound to get rid of this evil person quickly, but often wait to take the keyboard out and wipe it clean, but find that things are reversed, when you think about the belly draft, the plot is reversed again, which makes people very embarrassed, so let things fly for a while, do not immediately express their views.
When all the dust settles, it is not too late to talk about your own views.
There is a word that is particularly well said about this situation: Li Lingzhi fainting.
In the process of judging the right and wrong of the event, starting from their own interests, without considering the actual situation, they will often make wrong judgments, and in the long run, they will develop an arrogant and arrogant personality, seeing that anyone feels superior, natural contempt will appear, and then the language will also attack others everywhere, when there is a little achievement, it will be complacent, solipsistic, which is an extremely dangerous behavior and idea.
I wonder if you have heard the story of "fifty steps of laughter and a hundred steps"?
On the battlefield, the two armies faced each other and immediately began to fight, and when the war drums sounded, some soldiers charged forward, and some threw away their armor and fled in panic, at this time there was a great wisdom to escape, one ran fifty steps, one ran a hundred steps; as a result, the goods that ran fifty steps also laughed at the one who ran a hundred steps, saying that he was a coward.
So the question is, since they are all escapes, is there a difference between fifty steps and a hundred steps? The same is a deserter, fifty steps did not reflect on their own individual nature, but ridiculed it, did not correctly realize that they had the same problem, but relatively lighter than others. So not having self-awareness is scary.
According to historical records, during Zeng Guofan's tenure as an official, the family was sheltered by him, and local officials from all walks of life respected the Zeng family, which encouraged the bullying heart of the fourth zeng guohuang, the head of the family. He wrote to Zeng Guofan many times to describe how respected he was at home, and the words were full of pride and hesitation, which made Zeng Guofan very worried.
To know that the court is not so mixed, a thing, a sentence, even a word said wrong and its consequences are unimaginable, so he wrote back to his brother and said:
Because of me, let the family prosper, but this prosperity is not long-lasting; from your brother's letter, I only see arrogance, you must always remember that too proud will make mistakes, once you make mistakes, it will be doomed; whether you write or use your mouth to say that others are right and wrong, etc., it is not advisable, it is a manifestation of arrogance, and this habit must be changed.
If you want to get rid of the arrogant word, you always take not being light and non-small as the first meaning; if you want to remove the lazy word, you always take not to rise up as the first meaning.
Zeng Guofan has always understood that whether he is an official in the court or a person at home, he must be modest and cautious, and be careful in his words and deeds, one is the disaster of killing himself, and the other is the disaster of virtue; only by being humble and humble can everything go smoothly and blessings come, on the contrary, every day is seven, seven, eight, and eight, and naturally all kinds of disasters will follow.
Compared with arrogance, modest and cautious people go further, because they know that there are people outside the people, there are days outside the sky, and they look very lightly at the achievements that have been achieved, after all, there are more lofty ideals and goals waiting for them to challenge themselves; on the contrary, those who are proud and complacent feel that they have a little achievement and stagnate, and then point fingers at others, and finally end up miserable...