How should I chat with girls during the pursuit phase?

Hello everyone, your morning brother, suddenly appeared ~

Let's think about it first, when you interview a company you like, what you think about is definitely that I want to say well and strive to get an offer, so I more or less talk with a certain purpose.

To put it bluntly, I want people to think that you are not bad, right, then meet the stage when the girl you like begins to chase her, in fact, it is the same reason.

Although it sounds a little strange to put the people you like and the job together as an analogy, the truth here is the same, you don't sell yourself out, how people like you.

So at this stage, what should we talk about and listen to my details

#1 Create empathy

First think about one thing, when you feel that a person has a resonance with yourself, not how much you say, but what you talk about, that is, the emphasis is on quality rather than quantity, agree to deduct 1, I see how much.

Then on the basis of clarifying this big premise, and then solve a problem, it is known that Xiao Gang likes Xiao Hong, which of the following behaviors can get Xiao Hong's favor?

A. Guaranteed to send good morning and good night every day, all information seconds back

B. Guarantee that the chat time is more than three hours per day

C. The core of the chat revolves around the girl's interests or common hobbies of the two

Come, I look at your options, such a simple one to send a sub-question, if there is still a candidate A or B, I look at you, it is like this, can only brush the sense of existence in my praise.

Next, draw the point ah, what to talk about, so that she can feel that there is a resonance between us?

The obvious answer is to talk about what interests her.

Come, and then Teacher Chen's train of thought went down, talking about what is the premise of her interest? That is, to collect relevant information, where to collect it? Woo hoo, from all her social platforms.

When you collect a lot of information about her, the chat will be more effective, and my mother will no longer have to worry about my awkward chat and check the account, but what to pay attention to?

Leisurely chat, unexpected is a surprise, a whole brain, that is frightened.

#2 Create tacit understanding

Seeing a person look good, you may be quickly attracted to this person, but to really fall in love with her, it is not simple to say, it is not difficult to say, sometimes, even a moment.

Of course, I also know that such a plot rarely happens in life, but the meaning to be expressed is actually to make her feel that you know her very well, and there is a tacit understanding between you.

So how to find this tacit understanding?

So let's do the problem.

I know that you like Xiaohong, xiaohong said to you: I have always been forgetful lately, I have forgotten a lot of things, and I can't lift my spirits when I do anything. How do you get back?

A. I'll buy you brain capsules, address send me

B. It's so normal, who will be full of energy every day, ah, after a while it will be fine

C. A lot of pressure lately, right? Didn't sleep yet? Tell me about it

Choose A, is your family a pharmaceutical factory? There is also the choice of B, copy the nonsense a hundred times, and have a good understanding of the meaning of the two words of the crap.

So to draw the point, I want a girl to feel that you have a tacit understanding with her, that is, to learn to see the essence through the phenomenon, and to think from her point of view, the true meaning of her words.

Girls, of course, including many of our little brothers, some words will be around the bend to tell you, one is to say that they are quite stupid, the other is embarrassed to say.

Well, two tricks with you, some brothers have a really weak ability to observe and observe color, then there is a way to actually help you make up for it, that is, to talk to her more about the topic of childhood experience.

In my generation, many people's childhood experiences are actually similar, and you can definitely find a lot of tacit understanding on this point.

#3 Create ambiguity

If your relationship with her has gone through the above two steps, it can only be said that it has been fifty percent successful, why, two people have a tacit understanding and resonance, they will definitely be friends, but not necessarily lovers.

So what else is needed? feel.

Oh, yes, this is what girls always say, you can always hear, no feeling, let's still be friends. Familiar or unfamiliar?

Now it is true that many girls are very active, but among these girls, there will only be a small number of people who will take the initiative with friends who have reached a tacit understanding with themselves.

In this regard, they are still used to playing crush, because she is worried that if it is just my wishful thinking, it will not even be impossible for friends?

Then what you have to do is to break her concerns and create feelings, in fact, to put it bluntly, is to create an ambiguous atmosphere.

Then some of our brothers are going to say, then I am not the same, I am afraid that I am wishful thinking, ah, how do I know that people also have feelings for me?

Or the old rules, do the road multiple choice questions, which of the following options represent that girls have feelings for you?

A. She will go out with you alone

B. In relatively crowded occasions such as elevators and buses and subways, I am willing to be close to you

C. Start giving you nicknames

D. Do not refute the booing of the wingman

So, if the girl you like has these performances, you have to hurry up and take the initiative and create some ambiguous atmosphere appropriately.

Of course, it is not for you to find a bunch of earthy love words from the Internet, you can talk about her emotional history and occasionally make small jokes.

Well, today is almost talking about this, and finally Brother Chen repeats ah, the purpose of the chat is to reach a resonance and tacit understanding with her.

After completing these two steps, remember to hint at her that you have feelings for her, don't be sure to confess, girls are more picky than you in feeling.

But if she has a feeling, it doesn't matter whether you want to confess or not.