In the face of your child's unreasonable teasing, how to let him (her) calm down and recognize his or her mistakes

This morning,My husband made breakfast, there were porridge with oil cakes and stir-fry, and Dabao got up and washed up and began to watch TV, and he was not interested in eating.

My husband went to work after breakfast, and I started our chicken and dog jumping day at home with my two children.

Around 9 o'clock I asked Dabao to make him eggs and ham noodles. After the noodles were brought to the table, I suddenly found that Dabao was barefoot, and I asked him to quickly put on his socks, wash his hands and eat noodles.

Then the big drama of chicken flying dog jumping begins

I don't know whether Dabao deliberately or unintentionally put the soles of his socks on the back of his feet. I said: Bao'er, the soles of the socks should be worn on the soles of the feet, quickly change back, and then wash your hands and eat. Say it once and don't listen, continue to say it a second time, and then Dabao will not be willing and begin to be impatient.

First my mouth began to mumble and a dirty word came out, and I was a little angry, but I still patiently communicated with him. Then the bowl is pushed far away, meaning not to eat. I said: Then don't eat, if you're not hungry, you don't have to eat.

My anger is also rising...

The more I persuaded, the worse the effect became, so I simply carried the second treasure to the bedroom. Dabao was even more angry, and sat on the ground and began to sprinkle, his mouth was muttering, and his tears were also rushing.

Then Erbao was also scared to cry by Dabao, and the whole house was filled with the trumpets of two children crying, and I couldn't hold back the anger a little, while holding Erbao, I went to drag Dabao up, but I couldn't move and stubbornly crying Dabao.

There is no way to communicate, I can only think of another way

I carried Erbao into the bedroom and locked the door, and Dabao slammed the door outside the door and cried, but I still didn't open the door. It takes about a minute to coax Erbao not to cry (Erbao is better coaxed) and let her play with toys by the bedside. Then open the door and pick up the big treasure, almost 40 pounds to hold a little difficult.

I think mom's arms are what Dabao needs most now

Dabao was still crying, but he didn't resist his mother's embrace, and he felt even more wronged when he hugged him, and continued to cry and say that it was not right for his mother to be angry (the brain circuit made me cry and laugh). I said: Now we don't talk, and when you calm down, we will discuss right and wrong. Then he gently took Dabao in his arms and gently touched his head.

Soon Dabao stopped sobbing, and I asked him to look up at me and tell him: Is it okay now? Dabao instantly said with some grievance: Mom, I was wrong!

After both mother and son are calm, the communication is much smoother

I began to give him a squeeze from the beginning, where he was doing something wrong, and at the same time asked him where his mother did it made him uncomfortable. Soon we were relieved of our previous suspicions, and Dabao kept saying that he was wrong. I warmed the noodles again, and Dabao ate a bowl of his own, and his sister followed suit. After eating and drinking, the children had a lot of fun, and I also relaxed a lot.

Carrying a four-and-a-half-year-old treasure and a one-year-old second treasure at the same time, many times it is impossible to balance the attention of two children. Compared with Dabao, who has a certain ability to take care of himself, Erbao almost relies on my care to eat and drink enough. I pour more energy into the second treasure, and I will ignore a lot of the big treasure, and I believe that many mothers will do the same. We don't deliberately ignore Dabao, it's really a person who has no skills.

The child's unreasonable teasing makes the mother very distressed, and blindly scolding will only make the child disappear on the way to crying.

Children who are often hugged are more secure

Hugging is always more effective than blaming, at least for my babies. When I find that I can't communicate in words, and children don't know how to communicate with adults, they just cry, so hug them and give them more security.

Often do not use too many words to communicate, the child who is hugged can soon calm down, the adult will slowly calm down, and the next communication will be much smoother.

Every child has his own personality, and every parent has his own strategy. In the process of children's growth, parents will silently find ways to make children grow better. The growth of the body only needs to give enough rich nutrition, and the psychological growth needs to be slowly explored.

Parents with babies, how do you communicate with your children? Everyone shares a lot and learns from each other!