This is a letter from a mother to her son, although it is only more than 3,000 words, but the mother has written a deep love, thick love. Don't say that good children are born, in fact, it is very important for parents to teach by example and hear by ear. There's no problem with your child getting happy, but don't let your child indulge in junk pleasure.
Let's start with ourselves, let the children feel the love and care, and take the children to experience more advanced happiness, in order to really pull back our children.
- Written before the text
Author | Qianhe
Source | Uncle Kai Storytelling (ID: kaishujianggushi)
Dear son,
Today is the first day of winter vacation.
It would have been your happiest moment,
We had a heated argument.
Now you have gone to sleep with tears in the corners of your eyes,
And I tossed and turned,
Difficulty falling asleep.
Just now,
Mom is about to go to bed after washing your clothes,
Only to find a slight noise coming from your house.
I push open your door,
Seeing that you should have gone to bed earlier, you hid in the quilt and played with your mobile phone obsessively.
Seeing the happy place, I can't help but smile,
I didn't even notice my arrival.
I snatched your phone,
I thought you would realize your mistake.
What I didn't expect was that you pounced on it and grabbed the phone back,
He also said to me provocatively:
"I want to go to sleep after reading this!"
I announced on the spot,
Confiscate this phone for your study for the time being.
And you are completely enraged,
I was asked three questions in a "straight to the soul":
"Why did you confiscate my phone?"
"Why can't I relax after the holidays?"
"Why can't I play with your phone?"
I didn't know how to answer for a while,
I can only say to you strongly:
"If I say no, I can't!"
You angrily threw your phone at me,
Slammed the door shut,
And I calmed down,
Seriously thought about the question of the phone.
There was a new word that was popular on the Internet called:
"Happy garbage".
What is "junk happiness"?
It refers to the short-term pleasure obtained from "electronic products" such as live broadcasts, games, and gossip.
In fact, Mom is not afraid of you playing with your phone,
It's the fear that you're addicted to some "junk pleasures."
In fact, my mother was also a little ashamed.
I should lead by example and replace the joy of nothingness with companionship.
Some electronics are happy
It's the addictive "junk joy"
Son, as you grow up day by day,
Your exposure to electronic products such as mobile phones and iPads is increasing day by day.
Once naïve, you may find a new and interesting world in these electronic products.
It may allow you to harvest convenient information when you are hard to explore;
When you are tired of studying, it brings you the pleasure of relaxation,
When you are bored and bored, it makes you feel fresh and exciting.
But there are also great dangers behind the benefits you can see.
That is, it plunges you deeply into the "garbage joy" of addiction without knowing it.
Remember we saw a news on TV.
A middle school student in Anhui jumped off a building to take his life,
The reason is that he really can't control playing with his phone.
In his suicide note, he wrote:
"Mom, I'm sorry, you go have a better one...
Goodbye, I can't control myself playing with my phone. ”
Now you may just think that the phone is fun,
But if used uncontrollably,
The temptation of mobile phones is difficult for even adults to resist,
Not to mention you guys with weak self-control.
The American Netflix Company once made a documentary called "Smart Trap".
The film reveals three things that most Internet companies do every day:
Research how to get users to spend a little longer in mobile apps;
How to plan different events to attract new users;
How to use these attentions to make money.
In addition, most Internet companies will also apply "persuasion technology".
That is, constantly rewarding the person in front of the electronic screen with fresh content stimulation,
Let it be "passively" led away by the electronic screen.
That's why when you play with your phone, you always feel that time passes quickly.
Brush videos, play games, chat about WeChat,
Seemingly innocuous little relaxation,
But not paying attention can be addictive.
And once you fall into this short-lived junk pleasure, you can only sink step by step.
Someone said:
If drugs are physiologically poisonous and addictive,
Then garbage happiness is a spiritual poison, and it is also addictive.
You're still young,
May not understand what is wrong with garbage happiness,
I think I just have to be happy.
But what Mom is going to tell you,
Happiness is also good and bad.
A sociologist named Barbara "went undercover" at the bottom for 8 years and found a phenomenon:
The more people at the bottom of society,
The more likely it is to seek pleasure in a consumptive way,
For example, soap operas, drugs, video games;
The higher the level of people,
The more they will seek happiness in a complementary way,
Like running, reading, learning.
And in the long-term happiness of games, gossip, live broadcasting, etc.,
Our nerves are constantly stimulated,
The short-lived pleasure brought by emotions is addictive,
As a result, our ability to feel happy is reduced.
Short-lived pleasure
In the end, you can only consume yourself
Son, I don't know if you've found out.
The joy that games or short videos bring to people is extremely short-lived.
Only in the moment you play.
This kind of pure pastime is not really happy.
Rather, it is a temporary mental self-paralysis.
Have you found anything?
Their pleasure gives you short-term pleasure.
And after stopping you will feel a deeper sense of loss and emptiness.
Although occasional recreational relaxation is necessary,
But if there is a fascination with this garbage pleasure,
In the end, you can only consume yourself.
Consume your health.
A 9-year-old boy,
Because of the long time to play with the phone down,
Serious problems with the cervical spine,
The original physiological curvature is completely straightened.
You are in the growth and development period,
Cervical spondylosis can affect overall bone development,
And there's no cure,
Pain lasts a lifetime.
Besides
Looking at the screen for a long time can cause irreversible damage to your vision that is not yet fully developed.
An online report said,
A 15-year-old boy in Guangxi is addicted to playing games,
Serious irregularity in diet and rest,
It eventually led to a stroke paralysis.
So don't ruin your health because of a momentary indulgence.
Although the purpose of our indulgence is to be happy,
But the result of indulgence is often not happy.
Consume your energy.
Son, remember that time you made up your homework late at night?
During the pandemic last year,
In order for you to take online lessons,
Grandpa gave you his phone to use.
Without parental supervision,
You play games with your phone after class.
Until the next day the teacher let me turn in my homework,
I found out that you didn't write a word.
In today's rapid development of electronic technology,
Mobile phones are an indispensable learning tool for us.
However, there are also many videos and game software in mobile phones that are invisible time killers.
Inadvertently draining your precious energy.
To you who are in your youth,
Time is the greatest capital.
Zuo Pengfei, a Huawei "genius teenager" with an annual salary of 2 million yuan, once said in an interview:
"What genius is there?" I just spend everyone else's playing time in the lab. ”
If you choose to study hard, you will grow rapidly;
If you indulge in garbage pleasures, you will fall into ruin.
Consume your future
Some time ago, I saw a program on the Internet.
Pan Jie, 34, is a post-80s college student.
But in his old age, he not only had no job,
And 60 blind dates have ended in failure.
As a teenager, he also had excellent grades.
But in junior high school, he self-destructed his future because he was addicted to games.
After graduating from college he couldn't find a job,
The daily routine is to play with the phone at home and chew on the old.
People of his age,
Some have successful careers, some have happy families,
And his future life is unimaginably difficult.
Playing games brings only temporary sensory stimulation,
What we are left with is endless regret.
Some people say that what is more terrible than drug addiction is garbage pleasure addiction.
That's true.
Play the game for a while, you can get a sense of refreshment immediately;
Watch a funny short video and laugh right away.
Delicious, but not necessarily nutritious.
Once a person indulges in sensual stimulation,
Lost in cheap and low-quality pleasures,
Faith is hard to shake him,
Morality is no longer difficult to stimulate him,
Even profit cannot spur him on.
It's all a pity.
True joy
It's real and long-lasting
Son, having said so much,
You must be asking me,
What exactly is true happiness.
In Mom's opinion,
True joy,
Does not stop at superficial sensory satisfaction.
It's not simply laugh-
Not indulgent arbitrariness.
Rather, it is a restrained upward growth drive;
It is knowledge that brings power;
Love brings happiness;
It is the fullness of the spirit and the abundance of the soul.
The beauty of the real world
We once saw a French movie together, Give Me Wings.
In the movie,
Toma, a 14-year-old boy, was originally an Internet addicted teenager.
But a summer vacation in the countryside changed his life.
In the countryside where there is no signal,
He followed his dad, who studied endangered birds, to discover a really interesting world.
The bird that broke out of its shell made him feel the magic of life;
The process of caring for the young birds allowed him to see the beauty of nature;
The bird's dependence on him made him feel the reality of being needed;
In the end, he successfully helped the birds find their way through the winter, and he found his own value in the praise of everyone.
Son, compared to the illusory world in the mobile phone,
The beauty of real life is more worthy of your cherishing.
Over here
Spring has a hundred flowers and autumn has a moon,
There is a cool breeze in summer and snow in winter,
Parents love you forever,
Friends can be with you for a lifetime.
If you have experienced it, you will know,
This real sense of need and value is irreplaceable by mobile phones.
The harvest of hard work
I once saw a small video online.
A primary school student won a certificate of award for a final exam,
On the way home from school,
With the certificate in hand,
Swinging and full of energy
Out of the "six relatives do not recognize the pace".
It's funny.
Son, you must have also experienced the joy of success after this kind of effort.
This happiness does not stop abruptly because of putting down the phone,
Everything will not return to zero because the screen is turned off.
Hard work in exchange for what you want,
Adhere to self-discipline to harvest a better self,
Every effort you give will become the best memory in the future.
In Tianshui, Gansu Province, there was a little boy who performed very well in the recitation competition.
Because of his rich body movements and expressions, he finally won the championship.
He walked shyly into the classroom, thinking of keeping a low profile.
But at this time, the whole class shouted:
"Liu Runze, champion! champion! champion! ”
Amid the cheers, he walked slowly to his seat.
There was a smile on his face, and he could see that he was very happy.
Mom doesn't ask you to have a good academic record.
Instead, I want you to be like them.
Experience the satisfaction of striving for a goal.
Regardless of the outcome, this process is invaluable,
This deep happiness will be the wealth you will receive for a lifetime.
Love from the heart
Some time ago,
Wei Dongyi, a genius in the mathematics department of Peking University, went viral online with three steamed buns and a bottle of mineral water.
In today's materialistic, noisy and impetuous today,
It's hard for you to imagine.
A young talent with outstanding achievements lives such a simple life.
Son, I remember when you thought this person was particularly incredible.
Because he doesn't watch TV, he doesn't use WeChat.
Only occasionally surf the Internet when looking up information,
His biggest hobby is listening to the radio.
You ask me:
"Is he stupid in learning?" How boring his life is! ”
But you're wrong.
Although there is no rich material life,
There is no tempting online world,
But Wei Dongyi has a mathematical kingdom that he loves from the bottom of his heart.
Here, there is no boring triviality,
There is no boredom, no emptiness and loneliness.
Some people say,
The greatest happiness in life is to find something you love,
And fight for it.
Because that fulfillment and contentment is a joy that comes from the heart.
Like Grandpa Yuan Longping, who dedicated his life to hybrid rice research,
Like Grandpa Xu Yuanchong, who is obsessed with the pursuit in the translation world...
Mom wants to be filled with that kind of joy in your life.
Lead by example
Start with yourself
You live in a fast-moving and transformative world.
Surrounded by the Internet and technology,
Your growth into a new era of "digital citizenship" is an unavoidable reality.
Mom is not preventing you from playing with your phone,
Instead, I want you to be outside of the necessary entertainment and relaxation,
Being able to fill this short vacation with deeper levels of joy.
Mom also deeply reflected on herself,
I'll find time to spend this holiday with you,
We arrange a trip to feel the magical beauty of nature together;
Go to an exhibition to improve your ability to gain beauty;
Read a book together and discuss with each other the joy of reading;
Cultivate a hobby and let the interest nourish yourself better.
Mom will start with yourself and spend more meaningful moments with you.
Mom also wants you to devote your limited energy and time to increasing the breadth of your soul and the thickness of your life.
Have a fulfilling and wonderful holiday.
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