In order to actively respond to the official implementation of the "Family Education Promotion Law of the People's Republic of China", from January 1 to January 20, 2022, shandong education television station "The same lesson" program will successively broadcast 20 series of family education promotion law programs, inviting education experts to interpret the policy in an all-round way, so that parents can clarify what is family responsibility, take parents to identify the misunderstandings of family education, return to family responsibility, let parents and children work together, grow together, and create a better end.
This issue invited experts from the Shandong Provincial Family Education Publicity Group, Qu Zhengpeng, secretary of the Party Branch and principal of Hutun Town Junior High School in Feicheng City, to discuss with us the relevant topics of "respecting the personal dignity of minors, protecting the privacy and personal information of minors, and protecting the legitimate rights and interests of minors" in the Family Education Promotion Law.
Parents who do not respect the human dignity of their children
What are the manifestations of this?
Commanding type
Parents are very demanding and majestic on their children, directing their children to do everything, allowing children to strictly follow their parents' wishes to do things, and treating children as manipulative machines.
Packaged
As parents, you should learn to love your children rationally, not coddle them. Some parents regard their children as treasures in the palm of their hands, flesh in their hearts, and beads in their eyes, acting as a protective umbrella for their children, allowing them to open their mouths and clothes to reach out, and children only need to learn, and anything else, even if the children can complete things independently, parents also do it all.
Lesson type
Some parents are condescending, always like to nag and teach their children, do not allow children to explain, resist, and give different opinions, and educate a group of "well-behaved children", "obedient children", "good children", such children have no dignity and rights. On the surface, it seems to be obedient and obedient, but in fact, it may be oral disobedience, produce boredom, and the relationship with parents will gradually alienate and gradually produce estrangement.
Punitive type
Some parents believe that "filial piety comes out from under the stick" and punish their children indiscriminately, regardless of the consequences. This kind of scolding education method will often beat the child "skin", this kind of harm that touches the skin and flesh may lead to the child's mental numbness, so that the child has hatred and resistance psychology, resulting in the child's personality distortion and deformation.
How to respect the human dignity of children?
Personality is the sum of the characteristics of human personality, temperament, ability and so on, is the moral quality of the individual, and is the qualification of the subject of human rights and obligations. Every child is an independent social natural person, and as a parent, if you do not respect the personality of your child, you do not respect your child's rights and obligations. Parents must respect the personality of their children and do not regard their children as their own private property.
Communicate with your child equally. Between parents and children, it is not only a father-son relationship, a mother-child relationship, but also a friend relationship, and communication with children, to learn to squat, communicate with children equally, rather than condescending, domineering. The younger the child, the longer the memory that caused trauma to the child is stored. In the long run, the child's relationship with the parents will become more and more distant, the estrangement will become thicker and thicker, and the child may go astray.
Hug and kiss your child often. The more parents and children hug and kiss, the more secure and belonging the child will feel in the future, and the more he can feel the affection in the family.
Strengthen the study of theoretical knowledge. Parents study hard, and children improve every day. If you want to educate your children well, you must constantly strengthen the knowledge of psychology, family education and parent-child education, break the inherent and unscientific education mode of parents, and parents must change from the heart.
Take control of your emotions. Education is a slow act, an infiltration of emotion, and a manifestation of love. In the process of getting along with their children, parents should pay attention to controlling their emotions, bad temper and bad emotions will bring different degrees of harm to the child's body and mind.