In the workplace, your relationship with anyone is essentially an exchange of benefits.
When you don't have the ability to exchange, your connections are zero.
If you are a "good old man" who everyone is satisfied with, you will live more and more tired.
The so-called interests and fairness are earned by themselves, and kindness is true, but it is necessary to take thorns to protect themselves.
Introduction: Why do you help others everywhere at work, never take the initiative to embarrass others, do not criticize people, but in exchange for the disrespect of colleagues?
The world is very complex, and we can only understand the rules of this world after experiencing some world events.
Maybe you will be deceived and bullied, and will suffer some hardships and setbacks, but please don't be depressed, after all, everyone has come this way.
"Eat a trench, grow a wisdom", those things that torment us and make us feel tormented and painful, after clenching our teeth, will help our growth and make us become better people.
Maybe when you first enter the workplace, you hold the humble attitude of new people to learn more to treat everyone who has the opportunity to get to know, you help others everywhere, do not care about everything, and never take the initiative to embarrass and criticize others.
When they have cooperation and need help at work, you do your best to cooperate and help, but in exchange for other people's unappreciation and disrespect, just like "hot face sticking cold ass", making you uncomfortable and making you miserable.
But what I want to tell you is that how to treat others is our own choice, and we can't ask others how to respond or reciprocate, which is moral kidnapping.
After all, everyone is a "polyhedron", the real face is hidden behind the mask, the only thing we can do is to treat others without regret, follow the inner order and faith, so that we are fearless of gossip and bad words.
The following will talk to you about how to crack the dilemma of "you treat others like a bright moon" in the workplace, but others "bright moon shines in the ditch".
Learn to introspect often and meet your better self
It is said that the life of introspection is worth living, and learning to introspect is the premise for us to make progress, and it is also the most reliable way to effectively improve our competitiveness in the workplace.
Find reasons for everything from yourself, keep fighting with yourself, today's self and yesterday's self compared, ask with your heart, whether today's me is more advanced than yesterday's me, so that we will get better and better, see hopes and goals, and live a wonderful life.
In our lives, every day, big and small things are like actors waiting in line to perform on stage, so many of them, we can devote our efforts to doing things seriously.
Therefore, we must use our limited time to do more valuable things, and if there are some things that we really reflect on and consider carefully, then we don't have to worry and argue too much with people.
After all, we can't satisfy anyone, everything has opposites, if others are specifically provoking, we don't have to pay attention to it, you can laugh it off.
But if it is our inappropriate approach, which provokes the unhappiness of others, but we do not realize it in time, then we must look for the reason well, and then accept the face with an open mind, bravely admit the mistake, and then correct it.
There are principles in helping, and there is a bottom line in being a person
If you blindly give and help, you will only leave people with the image of "rotten good people".
If one day others ask you for help, and you don't help, others will think that you are an "evil person", no matter how many times you have helped him before, this is human nature.
Just like the song "Those who are favored have no fear", so we must pay attention to principles to help others, and we must adhere to the bottom line of being a person, and we cannot accommodate others everywhere, go with the flow or blindly follow the crowd, so that we cannot win the respect of others.
Especially in the workplace, once your "good bully" image is established, let alone the respect of others, even if it is respected, others are only superficial efforts, how to see it?
And see that he always finds excuses for you to help, superficially saying all kinds of good things, saying that you are really good as a person, secretly laughing at people that you are stupid, really a fool, such examples are really seen too much in the workplace.
Therefore, if we want to take the initiative and be respected by others as truly equals, we must establish a principled concept of helping, not doing everything to help or responding to everything.
Rather, it is the principle of doing things with our own bottom line, which can help us avoid falling into a thankless situation and live more calmly.
Politely divide the object, think and judge independently
A flesh-and-blood person is still a bit "temperamental" good, after all, perfect people do not exist in this world.
If you find that a person is extremely perfect, then you must be vigilant, it may be that he is good at disguise, always showing the best quality side.
And the gray real personality is hidden behind, such a person we try to stay away, because when he designs to harm you or betray you is not necessarily.
On this point, reference is made to the examples of those in the workplace who are unfathomable in the city government and who use various means to ascend to power.
If in the workplace, you do not want to be marginalized and have no right to speak, then you must put away your saintly courtesy, although treating others with courtesy is a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation.
But the display of this virtue we must also distinguish between the object, at least not to the wicked and the rotten, if we are insulted, we do not know how to fight, then we will lose more.
Therefore, polite people should be worthy people and kind people, in the face of those who misbehave and love to push work and play tricks, we don't have to talk about politeness, lest he think that you have no temper, and you have to be more inching forward.
In addition, it is also particularly important to develop the habit of independent thinking and judgment, we can not always listen to others, follow the butt of others, but have their own in-depth thinking and judgment based on factual experience.
In this way, we can achieve our own dreams, let people live meaningfully and value, may you and I encourage each other, and break out of a professional world that belongs to us.
Text/Lao Xia Analyst
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