With the development of society and the change of people's ideological concepts, transnational marriage has begun to become a common way of union in Chinese society.
Sometimes we hear that a Chinese guy somewhere married a daughter-in-law from a foreign country, like the famous CCTV host Sa Bening and his wife Li Bai, a transnational couple. Sometimes we also hear that little Chinese girls marry into foreign countries.
It is worth noting that a detail in the wedding of the two people has gradually caused more and more controversy, and when a foreign girl wants to marry a Chinese boy, she generally does not want a bride price, and there is no special requirement for material conditions.
We can say that this is the difference between Chinese and Western cultures. In March 2017, an enviable cross-border wedding was held in a small town on the border between China and Russia, so let's take a look at what is going on.
The poor boy and the white rich beauty of the romantic encounter
In March 2017, a lively cross-country event was held in Heihe City, Heilongjiang, on the border between China and Russia, where the groom was a 28-year-old young man named Chen Jingyang, who worked as a local coal mine worker.
Beside him stood a blonde foreign girl, his Russian bride, Hussa. Beside them were a middle-aged couple from Russia, apparently Hughesa's parents, who had rushed to China to witness their daughter's happy moments.
According to media reports, when Chen Jingyang and Xiu Sha got married, the two had no house, no car, and no considerable savings.
This is very different from China's traditional concept of marriage, and many people may have to ask, what do they rely on to maintain the continued stability of marriage?
If someone asked the beautiful bride Hughesa in person, she would smile and tell him in fluent Mandarin: "Of course it is love!" ”
Chen Jingyang and Xiu Sha (first and second from the right)
In the Spring Festival of 1990, Chen Jingyang came to Heihe City, the home of Heilong, where he hoped to find a job where he could make a living. Chen Jingyang's childhood life was not smooth, his parents were ordinary workers, and many unpleasant things happened in the process of getting along between the two.
After a heated argument, the couple finally struggled to maintain their already precarious married life, and they decided to end the relationship.
In this way, Chen Jingyang's parents quickly went through the divorce procedures. Since then, the two have formed a new family, and the young Chen Jingyang has not been brought to a new environment by either of his parents, and has lacked the love of his parents from beginning to end.
When Chen Jingyang was raised by his grandmother and grandfather when he was a child, the family had a very hard time, always eating some cabbage and potatoes to maintain their lives. Due to the poverty of his family, Chen Jingyang dropped out of school at home when he was in junior high school. He began to look for ways to make a living and try many different careers.
Black River City
When Chen Jingyang first entered the society, he made many meaningful attempts. He first set up a stall in the market, relying on a few people to buy things for too little income. Chen Jingyang later chose to go to the construction site to move bricks for others, selling his physical strength to make a little hard money.
In the process of trial and error, Chen Jingyang grew from a half-grown child who graduated from junior high school to an adult who can rely on himself, he can earn enough money to support himself, and he regularly sends money to his hometown to subsidize living expenses for his elderly grandmother.
In 2014, Chen Jingyang came alone to the Sanjinjiao Mine in Heihe City, Heilongjiang Province, where he became a coal miner working in a coal kiln.
His working environment can be said to be very bad, to know that the mine is dark, long-term stay in such an environment, people will become taciturn, serious and even become depressed. Working in mines is dangerous and often encounters tricky situations.
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In order to survive, Chen Jingyang had to get up early and do heavy work in the mine, and every time he came out of the coal kiln, the whole person was soaked black, and he couldn't see the true face of his face.
The hard life made Chen Jingyang, who did not say much, more and more reticent. With the development of Internet technology, Chen Jingyang has kept up with the pace of the times and replaced him with a smart phone. What he did not expect was that he actually got to know the happiness of his life through online chat.
Husha is a young and beautiful Russian girl who likes Chinese culture so much that she decides to come to China to learn about melons. At the age of 17, Xiusha came to Heihe City, Heilongjiang, not far from Russia, to study, and her main professional direction was Chinese.
After learning more and more about Chinese culture, Husha fell in love with this beautiful country. After her studies, she made her next decision, which was to work in China. During her several years in China, Husha was fluent in Mandarin.
Husa
After graduating, Husa stayed at a foreign trade company in Heihe City, and due to its geographical location, the company mainly engaged in the export business of Russia.
Hughesa was reused by her boss for her proficiency in both Chinese and Russian, but she was paid a handsome salary in a short time. Curious about all sorts of things in China, Husha naturally uses local Chinese chat software, hoping to make some interesting friends in this way.
After Chen Jingyang finishes his hard work every day, the only fun is to talk to netizens on the Internet. On this day, he passed a friend application, and the person who added him was the Russian girl Husha.
They quickly became acquainted through the Internet, in the process of chatting, Chen Jingyang knew that Xiu Sha was working in Heihe City, and he wanted to meet his netizens, when he put forward his idea, Xiu Sha quickly agreed, and both of them carefully prepared for the first date.
Xiu Sha and Chen Jingyang
After a kiss and a promise, a romantic relationship is quickly established
The two exchanged photos on the Internet beforehand, chen Jingyang knew that Husha was a beautiful girl, and before the first meeting, he also specially prepared a beautiful bouquet of roses as a greeting gift.
Sure enough, girls like flowers, and Xiu Sha was very happy to see a large bouquet of roses in Chen Jingyang's hand, she happily took the roses, and made a surprising move - she directly went forward to kiss Chen Jingyang.
Chen Jingyang, who had always been very introverted, was very shy to receive such a reaction, and he removed Hu Sha from himself, unable to utter a complete sentence for half a day.
The two had a meal in the city, and they talked happily like friends who had not seen each other for many years, and when Husha asked Chen Jingyang what his feelings were for him, Chen Jingyang said with some embarrassment: "Thank you for liking me, but I don't have money." ”
Xiu Sha was originally worried that Chen Jingyang had no feelings for him, and when she heard this, her frustrated little face instantly brightened again. She said nonchalantly, "It doesn't matter, I don't care if you have any money." The big stone in Chen Jingyang's heart fell, and the two quickly established a romantic relationship.
Since then, Chen Jingyang, who is not rich in life, has sent a bouquet of roses to Xiusha every week to express his love for his girlfriend. Xiu Sha did not expect that Chen Jingyang, who was shy and shy in real life, was such a romantic man inside, and he was secretly sure in his heart that he had not chosen the wrong person.
But Xiu Sha is also a very considerate girl, she is distressed that Chen Jingyang does not have so much money, so she told him not to buy any more flowers, she is not willing to add new burdens to Chen Jingyang.
Chen Jingyang was very touched after hearing his girlfriend's voice, and he thought that since he could no longer send flowers, he would use other ways to express his love for his girlfriend.
He plans to get up an hour early every day to go to the market to collect ingredients, make a love bento for his girlfriend, and then let his friends take it to his girlfriend's company, Husha was touched by her boyfriend's careful and considerate behavior, and strengthened the idea of marrying Chen Jingyang in her heart.
After the two met for the first time to establish a relationship, Chen Jingyang hurried back to the construction site, the time of vacation in the mine is not fixed, and the time of the next meeting is difficult to determine.
About a week later, Xiu Sha took a special leave of absence to visit Chen Jingyang at the construction site, and specially brought him a lot of delicious food, and the workers of the mine praised him for finding a good girlfriend.
Not long after, Husha proposed to his boss to resign, and the boss curiously asked her why she suddenly had to resign if she was doing a good job and her salary was not low.
Xiu Sha told the boss the story of her and Chen Jingyang's love. Unexpectedly, the boss shook his head after hearing it, he kindly persuaded Xiu Sha, Chen Jingyang such conditions are too poor, and then you have not known each other for a long time, what if he wants to play with your feelings, it is too risky to quit your job.
In the face of the boss's earnest advice, the brave Husha chose to stick to her ideas, but she still insisted on quitting the job at hand. Packed up his luggage and went to the mine to join Chen Jingyang. The two of them lived in the family area of the construction site, Chen Jingyang worked hard under the mine, and Xiu Sha made meals for him and waited for him to come back to eat.
In fact, the living environment here is very bad, the rooms they live in are temporary, and there are not many people living in the rags. There is no place in the house where you can bathe and go to the toilet, and to solve these needs, you must go to the public toilet outside the house to solve it. If you want to take a bath, you have to spend dozens of minutes running to the collective bathhouse.
The construction site is full of rats and cockroaches and other small animals that girls are afraid of, and Chen Jingyang, afraid of wronging his girlfriend, proposes to let her move to the town to rent a better house.
These were rejected by Hughesa, who insisted on living with her beloved, recalling afterwards that living on the construction site was her hardest and happiest time.
Resolve the gap and eventually become a family member
Chen Jingyang did not want his girlfriend to accompany him to suffer in the construction site, and he began to study other ways out. Eventually they left the construction site and used the money they had saved to open a courier station, and the two of them lived a poor but happy life.
However, before long, due to the lack of experience in running the station, the income was not good, and it was slowly difficult to maintain.
In the face of the loss of the station, Chen Jingyang was very irritable in his heart, he returned home and his face was not good, Xiu Sha came forward to talk to him, Chen Jingyang's tone was a little impatient, the two tripped up because of a small matter, this is the first time since the two got along, Chen Jingyang was angry with Xiu Sha.
Husa immediately ran out of the house crying and never returned.
After Xiu Sha left, Chen Jingyang gradually calmed down, and he recalled the scene of the two quarreling, thinking that he was at fault. But Husa blacked out his contact information in one fell swoop. Chen Jingyang remembered that Husha's hometown was near St. Petersburg, so he decided to try his luck there.
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Chen Jingyang successfully reached Russia with the help of a friend, where he contacted Husa again and sincerely reflected on his mistakes. At this time, the two had been separated for several months, and after Xiu Sha saw Chen Jingyang, all the grievances were relieved, and the two quickly reconciled.
By chance, Chen Jingyang met Xiu Sha's parents and was recognized by the two parents. They learned from their daughters about the experience of the two falling in love, and thought that Chen Jingyang was a responsible young man who was glad that his daughter could marry him.
The matter of Chen Jingyang and Xiu Sha's marriage is on the agenda.
Chen Jingyang solemnly made a request for marriage to Xiu Sha, feeling guilty about not having a house and a car, but his partner Hu Sha said: "In the world of love, I think the lover is the most important. As long as we work together, I believe we will be able to buy a house and a car as soon as possible. ”
In March 2017, the two invited relatives on both sides of the Black River to hold a lively wedding. At the wedding scene, Husa wore a beautiful dress, with a black top and a long red skirt outlining Husa's figure. Xiusha's parents, who live in Russia, rushed to China to attend Hera's wedding.
Husa (second from left)
The Russian girl is very cheerful and enthusiastic, and in the process of Chen Jingyang and Xiu Sha's wedding, the two kissed many times, making Chen Jingyang shy in front of a group of relatives.
Not long after Chen Jingyang and Xiu Sha got married, the two ushered in the crystallization of love, Chen Jingyang decided to follow Xiu Sha to Russia to start a business, realize the desire to buy a house and a car as soon as possible, and improve the living standards of the whole family.
Xiu Sha also said that she plans to give Chen Jingyang three children and create a warm family atmosphere for him.
In an interview, Chen Jingyang said energetically that he could meet a good girl like Xiu Sha and he would definitely cherish it. Seeing the love of the two people, we believe that the future life of the husband and wife will definitely get better and better.
Mr. and Mrs. Chen Jingyang and Xiu Sha's parents
Before marriage, there are not a few couples who are scattered because of poor communication on the bride price, perhaps we should look at traditional customs from an objective perspective and not be too preoccupied.
After all, the husband and wife two people want to live together in the future, too much about money, how can they cultivate true feelings?
The love story of Chen Jingyang and Xiu Sha provides us with good enlightenment, provides us with a new way of solving problems, and hopes that there will be lovers in the world who will eventually become dependents.
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China Daily Network "No need for a house and a car, a 22-year-old Russian girl marries a northeastern man"