There are always some things that come unexpectedly when you are not ready, and people are caught off guard, what can we do at this time?
As I wrote this passage, the figures of the children were dangling in front of my eyes.
As a rural teacher, I am most exposed to children who live with my grandparents because my parents are divorced.
When they are not yet sensible, they have to face the first "difference" in life - the divorce of their parents. From then on, they have to learn to face many things alone.
Xiaowen is a fifth-grade child, when he was very young, his parents divorced, living with his grandparents, and his parents remarried successively. While chatting with the teacher, he said: Teacher, I feel that I am a superfluous person, in my mother's house, I am superfluous, and in my father's house, I am also superfluous.
A simple sentence, how much helplessness? How much pain ? "I'm a superfluous person. "This is a child's greatest injury, the deepest vulnerability.
Xiaoli is a first-grade girl whose grandmother just passed away this year and is currently living with her father and grandfather, whose parents divorced when she was two years old. At the age of two, when I don't understand anything, I don't have the care of my mother. Whenever a classmate talks about her mom, she will say: I don't have a mom.
"I don't have a mother" are just four simple words that constantly sting me.
"I don't have a mother." How much helplessness and sadness does this simple four words contain for a child?
Because there is no mother, so when she was very young, she had to learn to dress herself, wash her own hair, because there was no mother, when she was sick, she thought of her mother, and she could only miss her silently, because there was no mother...
As I wrote, I suddenly remembered a sentence:
Life kisses me bitterly, but I sing in return.
From a very young age, these children have no choice, because the pain can only be buried in the heart, they can only grow up with pain.
But no matter how much pain it takes, no matter what kind of attitude life takes to them, their eyes are always full of light.
Sometimes really appreciate their strength , and in silent growing up they have learned to adapt . In the face of Dad's new wife, they will happily call Out Mom. In the face of a visit from their mother, they will happily share it with the teacher, and their hearts are full of satisfaction...
"Life kisses me bitterly, but I give life a song." Not everyone wants to face the pain of life, but life can not be calculated, the pain of life often comes unexpectedly, when you have not yet learned to adapt, in the face of sudden pain, what can we do?
Only adapt, only accept!
Dear child, may your eyes always have light, may the sun heal your wounds, and may your future life be gentle with you...