In the first week of 2022, are you already busy with various summaries and plans? The New Year is coming, did you finish the flag you set up last year?
The plan of the day lies in the morning, and the plan of the year lies in the beginning of the year ah ~ ~ (made up, anyway, it is to plan)
Plans in the eyes of parents
In the eyes of many parents, if there is no plan for the holiday, the children will only play meaninglessly, so many parents will consider finding an institution for their children, finding a course, and helping their children "kill time".
In the variety show "Dear Little Desk", there is a little boy who is in the first grade, named Xu Jingkai. Compared with his peers, Xu Jingkai is busy every day. Because he not only had to do the homework assigned by the school, but also complete the extra tasks assigned by his mother. And once found lazy by his mother, Xu Jingkai will have to make one more test paper; if the questions on one test paper are more than three times wrong, they must also add another one.
When confronted with his mother, Xu Jingkai said that his wish was to buy all the examination papers of Xinhua Bookstore and finish it. But as soon as he turned around, he said that he didn't like to write homework and wanted to go out and play, and Fu Seoul pointed out the truth to the point:
"It seems that he listens to you very much, and I tell you, one day you will find that he is 'cajoling' you."
If parents blindly help their children make plans according to their own wishes, once the child loses the help and supervision of his parents, he will become confused and even willing to degenerate.
Before we talked to Tsinghua Xueba Lianmai, we talked about the god of learning with both character and excellence, from the opening and hanging of the first year to the fallen game of the sophomore and almost quit school... Behind it is because "mom is not forced"
Such a child will forever stagnate in the stage of "other discipline" and will not be able to progress to "self-discipline". Looking good can't hide the lack of intrinsic motivation.
The importance of making a plan
"Everything is predetermined, and if it is not predetermined, it is abolished." Life has a plan, every year has a plan, monthly self-scheduling, weekly planning is clear, today's events are completed today.
Knowing how to make a schedule can cultivate a child's ability to process and copy information and plan life, which can not only exercise the brain, but also be of great benefit to his growth and learning and future society.
When accompanying your child to make year-end plans and reviews, you must not simply criticize or deny, and remember the 2 principles.
Find out where to do it well:
The small things that must be done, as close as this month, as far as a whole year, feel that the place is particularly great, must give the child full affirmation.
Make a list of room for improvement:
Make a list of things your child can do better, especially specific suggestions, help your child improve, achieve expectations for everything, and use a good list table.
The plan in my eyes
Japanese child educator Shika Takatori and American experts have developed a set of time management methods, and several of the tables are very effective in helping children make plans. New Year's wishes and to-do list
This is the child's plan. The plan must be listed according to their children's wish list, the children want to do things first, do not interfere with the child's plan with the ideas of adults, parents can participate in the discussion, feedback, and modification of opinions. However, it cannot be based on parents.
What if the wish made by the child cannot be fulfilled, is obviously unreasonable or does not correspond to the actual situation?
At this time, we must guide the child to see more possibilities and make adjustments. For example, if a child wants to play video games for 2 hours a day, it may not be reasonable, and it may be unreasonable to discuss with the child and replace part of the time with a different interest.
But as long as it is reasonable, you must also satisfy your child's yearning for something, even if it is not so important to you.
Schedule of schedules
The purpose of the plan table is not to be a complex function formula, or an advanced statistical function. Instead, through the form of a table, the information is divided into different columns, quickly classified, form the list you want, and then use the text + space to make a [fill in the blank] form to stimulate the child's execution.
Daily time management table
Children are generally insensitive to time, you can help children recognize alarm clocks, look at electronic and physical watches, and use hourglasses and clocks to help children understand time. You can also turn Mom and Dad mantra "immediately" and "a moment" into specific minutes, seconds.
Of course, you can also make your own time-specific plan with your child, in fact, pie charts and tables are good.
Last winter vacation, Qianjie found a plate to use as a dial, and asked me to help write text prompts, draw and formulate them myself. Unlike her brother, who is 8 aches in the evening and 6 in the morning, Qianjie does not sleep for a nap, and sleeps in the evening and starts at 8 in the morning constitutes a complete clock.
It is basically divided into several major sections of "eating - homework - free play - sports", and there is enough time for her to adjust on her own.
Performed the whole holiday, with special rules. Because I painted for two days, I paid a lot, and Qianjie will also remind the whole family to do it, they are still quite serious, and they tick themselves every day, which is more effective than imagined.
Write at the end
Takatori Shizuka said: The human sense of time is determined by the hippocampus of the brain.
The adult hippocampus, stimulated long enough, has established a sense of time: we roughly know how long five minutes are. Children's time feels different from adults, and children in kindergarten and lower primary school do not have a clear sense of time.
When the child grows up one day, he will look back and remember the endless make-up classes and extracurricular training on the schedule arranged by his parents. It's one of the few things you loved to do in your own childhood. And planning and flexibility, direction and freedom, are meant to be one thing.
The New Year is just around the corner, what plans are you going to make for your children?
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