Water to desperate situation is a landscape, and man to desperate situation is rebirth.
When life is faced with "no way to go", when the mind can not find a breakthrough, it is better to learn to "break away", change an angle, change a way of life, maybe you can suddenly open up.
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When the road is not clear, learn to turn.
There is a thrilling scene in the documentary "Blue Planet 2": a treasure more than one meter long jumps out of the sea and swallows a small tern desperately flapping its wings to fly into its mouth.
The fish in the water actually ate the birds flying in the air, is this just a small probability event?
Scientists have found that at first, Zhenyi can only eat the small terns that accidentally fall to the sea because they learn to fly, but after the small terns slowly improve their flight ability, the small terns can only wait at any time when the small terns are close to the water. Later, when the young terns could no longer eat the little terns when they moved downstream on the surface of the water, they changed their strategy: swimming at high speed on the water, seeing the little tern swooping down from a high altitude, and when they were very close to the water, they swung their tail fins hard, freed up the water, opened their mouths in the air, and swallowed the small terns that could not change their flight trajectory.
When survival encounters difficulties, fish constantly change their feeding methods and strategies, turning the impossible into a possibility.
If the fish can think, they will probably be impressed by their wisdom.
Born as a human being, when a road does not work, the simplest way to do it is to walk around like a treasure. Maybe a slight change is another "way of life".
But the problem is that people are much more complex than fish, and are often burdened by "cleverness", stubbornly wanting to go all the way to the end, even if the mountains and rivers are exhausted, they are still not dead.
Cartoonist Zheng Xinyao said: "When the road is finished, it does not mean that we have reached the end of the road, but it reminds us that it is time to turn." ”
Therefore, repeatedly encountering walls in work and failing to start a business may not be a problem with their own ability, but just the wrong direction and the wrong major.
It is better to calm down and sort out yourself, analyze the market, and do what you are interested in and meet the market demand, and the probability of success will be greatly improved.
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When you can't ask for it, learn to let go.
In "The First Half of My Life", one of the most heart-wrenching scenes is when He Han tells Tang Jing in person that he loves Luo Zijun.
Ten years of love, after all, could not be exchanged for a good full moon, Tang Jing's injury and pain, across the screen makes people heart-wrenching. But she just looked at all this coldly, without anger, without retaliation, facing Luo Zijun's mother, still aunt and aunt short, without losing courtesy and decency.
Later, Tang Jing also went to visit the seriously ill Zijun's mother and comforted her, and found a boyfriend again.
The reason for this is that Tang Jing knows how to be grateful, and she has always remembered that she has been well received by Zijun's mother. For the betrayal of her girlfriend and lover, she chooses to let go, which is a respect for past love and friendship, and also a tenderness and redemption for herself.
On the road of life, unsatisfactory things are often eight or nine, and can be the same as people.
Instead of being trapped in unbearable memories for a long time, tormented by people and things that are difficult for you, you should be depressed and stagnant, but let yourself learn to turn the page and turn around gracefully.
Mountains and rivers are doubtful and there is no way, and the willows are dark and the flowers are bright and another village. Bravely go forward to meet more beautiful scenery.
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When you can't think about it, learn to be relieved.
The ancients said, "Whoever chews the root of a vegetable, Pepsi can do everything." "A person's true maturity is to be able to calmly cope with the adversity of life, no matter how bad the situation is, still have a heart and a direction."
Cao Xueqin's grandfather Cao Yin was very particular about porridge and compiled the book "Porridge". After the decline of Cao Xueqin's family situation, she read all the vicissitudes of the world, but did not sink there, but did not lose her grandfather's passion for tasting porridge, reviewed for ten years, added and deleted five times, and wrote a great realist work "Dream of the Red Chamber".
This is the most powerful counterattack against fate!
Don't envy others, always bright, always refreshed, in fact, everyone has unknown heartache and pain. Those who have cried bitterly in the dark night have all experienced the cruelty of life and felt the suffocating pressure.
But when they dried their tears and went out again facing the rising sun, they were already on the road of "changing their lives".
When you can't think about it, you might as well stop thinking about it. Those people and things that have formed "dead knots", let them slowly dissipate with the passage of time.
Everything is instantaneous, everything will eventually pass, and the past will become a permanent memory. So, don't be embarrassed about yourself, you have to find the answer in a moment and a half, some things, without an answer, is the answer.
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Conclusion:
There is a couplet in "The Window": spoiled and not shocked, watch the flowers blossom and fall before the court. Go to stay unintentional, look at the sky clouds cirrus clouds Shu.
If you're tired, give yourself a vacation. Even if it's just after work, on the way to the market, buy a bouquet of flowers and tell yourself that life is so colorful; or, order a cup of milk tea, like a child, and release all your grievances and unhappiness in the food.
Relax, relax, get a good night's sleep, and tomorrow, it's another good day.
Author: Like the wind is light as a cloud.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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