I don't know if you have brushed this elementary school girl on the Internet recently?
In the video, she is wearing a dark red school uniform, after being named by the teacher, she walks to the podium, each step is very elegant, not only looks very beautiful, but also has a faint smile on her face, and her confident and generous temperament makes her look very outstanding, like a supermodel walking on the catwalk.
The little girl's video is extremely popular on the Internet, and has gained everyone's full love, some netizens directly called her "childhood goddess", and some netizens joked that "they want to deceive me into having a daughter".
I have to say that just like this little girl, some children are indeed born "protagonists", and children with outstanding appearance and temperament are more likely to stand out and receive attention from others no matter where they are.
However, everything has two sides, for children, although the high appearance is indeed a congenital advantage, but at the same time in the process of growing up, it is easier to encounter some troubles, for families with girls, especially families with "beautiful girls", parents should pay more attention to family education.
Girls are beautiful, which is both an advantage and a disadvantage
Before a social media has such a hot search, a mother engaged in the early childhood training industry, in a serious tone to teach her daughter that "you look good with a bare face, the first glance, beautiful, the second glance is not interesting, cultural literacy will accompany you throughout your life."
Although the original intention of this mother's words was to teach her daughter not to pay too much attention to appearance, but to improve her self-cultivation, netizens have said that "to tell the truth, it is still useful to look good in reality", "it is useless to look good, this word will deceive the kindergarten children", most people do not agree with the opinion of the mother.
At first glance, it seems that the views of netizens are more correct, after all, in this society where "appearance is justice", there is a "good-looking skin bag", which can indeed bring a lot of advantages to themselves.
Take our usual walking baby in the community, see the beautiful child, even if it is not too familiar with the neighbors will leave a deeper impression, the next time you meet the child at a glance to recognize the child, but if the child looks flat, the child may just change a dress, even if the next day to meet again, the other party may not recognize it.
However, if you think about it, is it really only an advantage to be beautiful?
In fact, sometimes it is also a disadvantage, each of us in the process of growing up, will encounter all kinds of "temptations" from all sides, for girls with high looks, the probability of being "tempted" is often higher.
For example, there is such a situation around me, a friend's daughter is very beautiful when she is young, and the economic conditions at home are relatively solid, but because friends and lovers have been busy with work and pay little attention to the growth of their daughters, so girls are not outstanding in their studies, and they have also developed a petite and willful character.
As early as when she was in junior high school, the girl was criticized by the teacher as a typical because of the early love several times, although the friend began to worry about the child's education, but it was too late, and then the high school did not graduate, the girl dropped out of school and went home, relying on beauty and arrogance and refusing to work, and now staying at home to eat the old.
For this girl, the beautiful appearance undoubtedly became an obstacle to her growth path.
Therefore, as a parent of a child, there is nothing wrong with paying attention to the child's appearance, but it is more important to "promote the strengths and avoid the shortcomings", so that high appearance can become a boost for the growth of children, and avoid allowing children to be restricted because of their appearance.
How to raise a girl with high appearance at home?
1. Do a good job of "sex education"
For girls, sex education must be early, it is best when the child's gender consciousness at the age of 2-3 gradually begins, many parents are secretive about "sex", in fact, there is nothing to hide.
To know that criminals will never let the child go because of her young age, we do a good job of "sex education" for the child, that is, to protect her, and the smaller the child, the more simple the mind, and the more natural it is to talk about "sex" with parents, the better the effect.
2. Avoid being too spoiled with your child
Although we have always emphasized that "girls should be rich", the so-called "rich" does not mean that we only pay attention to the material satisfaction of the child, but should pay more attention to the spiritual "rich".
Especially for girls with high looks, if parents are afraid of being hurt and have been protecting them under their wings, it may backfire, because girls have lost their ability to be independent in such an education mode, and they cannot think independently when things happen, and they cannot withstand any storms.
3. Establish principles for children
Professor Li Meijin once mentioned that "if girls want to gain the respect of others, it is important to maintain principles."
When we educate our children, we must establish principles for them, so that children know what things are absolutely untouchable red lines.
For example, not returning at night, not knowing self-esteem and self-love, etc., only parents establish such principles for their children from an early age, and children can protect themselves when they grow up.
Crooked Mom Conclusion:
Every parent hopes that the child can have a high value, but the beautiful appearance is not only an advantage, but also brings some trouble to the growth of the child.
As parents of children, we must pay attention to guidance and help children cultivate their inner strengths, and only with cultivation and connotation can we maintain the advantages in appearance.
Today's topic: Do you think that high looks are good or bad for children?
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