Text: Flower blossom tide
Since ancient times, when a girl reaches the age of marriage, the first thing to consider is the family situation of the man's family, to see if he can give himself long-term happiness.
Of course, there are also many girls who are willing to accompany the poor and white teenager and accompany him to grow up slowly.
But in real life, most girls will make a series of demands to the man before the girl marries, unless the other party can meet these, they will marry each other.
Ms. Fu will say her requirements every time she goes on a blind date, unless the other party can promise herself, she will not marry, Ms. Fu's request is that the man's family must have a suite and a car in full, and in the local third-tier cities to earn more than 10,000 yuan a month.
However, after repeatedly hitting the wall, Ms. Fu still does not feel that it is her own problem, she always thinks that the quality of her blind date is too low. But is that really the case? In fact, Ms. Fu ignored a very important issue, that is, she is 35 years old this year, and she no longer has any advantage in age.
Ms. Fu is the only daughter in the family, and it can be said that she has lived in a superior environment since she was a child, which has also created her paranoid temper.
Since she was a child, she has established a clear understanding that the person she marries when she grows up must be the existence of the dragon and phoenix among people and the haojie among people, so when she was young, she has always maintained a dismissive attitude in the face of contacts around her.
Over time, the suitors around me have withdrawn one after another, and Ms. Fu has also received the title of "Iceberg Beauty".
Because of this, Ms. Fu was depressed for a long time: you could not meet my requirements, but instead blamed all this on my head.
Time passes, the years are like shuttles, Ms. Fu sees her friends around her getting married and having children one by one, but she has always been alone, and her friends have advised her that the requirements for men are almost on the line, not so high.
But Ms. Fu still has no remorse, insisting that her own Prince Charming must be waiting for her not far away.
However, after Ms. Fu reached the age of 30, she gradually panicked in her heart, and when she was 35 years old, she had to embark on the road of blind date.
Although Ms. Fu stepped into the road of blind date, but the requirements she put forward are not low, not only require the man's family to have a house and a car, but also require the man to earn more than 10,000 yuan a month in the local third-tier cities, you know, according to the local living standards, the monthly salary of the vast majority of people is about 5,000.
Many blind dates heard Ms. Fu's request and turned around and walked away.
After repeatedly hitting the wall, when Ms. Fu talks about her requirements with her blind date, she will always add a sentence after that: This requirement is not high.
Ordinary men will only leave silently after hearing Ms. Fu's words, and some men will directly scold Ms. Fu: Are you not demanding? Don't you look at what conditions you have?
Ms. Fu therefore also feels very aggrieved, because she is not young, do not want to live a turbulent and displaced life, only want to live a peaceful and stable life, but behind the stable life must have the economy as a support, and her parents are old, in the follow-up pension problem, it is a big burden.
Under multiple considerations, Ms. Fu made this request.
But Ms. Fu thinks that her demands are not high, but according to the reality, almost no men will agree to her.
Conclusion: In fact, for anything, itself is a two-way choice process, hobbies or love, when you have enough value, the other party will have a preference for you, this is what we often say: only when you are at a high level, the people around you are also the same level of type as yourself.
Just like Ms. Fu, if the time goes back 10 years, when Ms. Fu is 25 years old, if she makes these requests, there may be men around her to agree, but at this time, Ms. Fu is 35 years old, and she does not have the advantages of the beginning of the people, and her requirements for having a house and a car and a monthly income of more than 10,000 yuan are really too high.
As a Ms. Fu, the first thing to consider should be to examine her actual situation, appropriately reduce her mate selection requirements, and pay a certain degree of sincerity and integrity, so that it is possible to seize the tail of the 35-year-old and harvest happy happiness.