Counselor's Note - 04 I am a lady, can I get married?

"I'm Miss, do you think I can get married?" This girl named "Qing" couldn't wait to ask as soon as she met. With a beautiful face and a fresh temperament, if she hadn't said it, I wouldn't have associated her with "Miss".

In this way, one of her questions officially began, and I was fortunate to walk into a story that seemed unbearable, but was actually touching.

Qing, in his student days, was a well-known beauty in the school, with many suitors. Unfortunately, she did not have any feelings for boys of the same age. Probably because Qing did not have a father, and lived with his mother, stepfather and half-brother since he was a child, Qing was always very sensible, lived carefully, and never let his family worry. However, in the depths of her heart, she always thinks of her father who died early, and she is very eager for his father's love.

In the third year of junior high school, a boy "key" who made her "call" appeared, and it was quite chivalrous.

On the way home from school, Qing was flirted with by several small hooligans, and at a very helpless moment, the appearance of the "key" made the little hooligans scatter. Just like the martial arts novel, after the hero saves the United States, the beauty will inevitably fall in love with the hero. And that's true of what happened after the story. The key's humor, humor and man's arms made Qing find an unprecedented sense of security. Whenever Qing qing is sad and sad, the key has a way to make her break into a smile.

However, the appearance of the key not only ended Qing's student days, but also completed the whole process of girl to woman.

Sex is not happy, even painful, for Qing, but when Qing sees a satisfied smile, she will tell herself that it is worth it. Later, because of the contradiction with her family and the rapid decline in academic performance, Qing decided to elope with the key and leave this place where she had nothing to linger on. So, Qing left a letter with tears and came to the metropolis with the key.

After a short period of happiness, the reality of life is forced step by step. No money, no jobs, no place to live. The cruelty of life strikes two young souls. Slowly, Qing was forced into the industry of Miss.

After the first pick-up, Qing did not say a word, took a bath for a long time, and cried for a long time. Key hugged her and said to her, You are the purest, you are the cleanest, and I will love you for the rest of my life.

However, such a vow of the Sea Oath Mountain Alliance, after all, was not fulfilled on that day, but witnessed them going farther and farther.

By chance, she discovers the secret of the key: he actually holds other women. What broke her even more was that Key actually had several girls like her at the same time, and he used these girls to make money as a lady and live the life he wanted.

When Qing angrily landed the key, the key hit her for the first time, and after the fight, the key began to coax her, beg her, and even kneel down and swear true love for Qing. But at that moment, all the vows and sweet words to heaven became pale and powerless. In the face of reality, Qing's heart is broken!

She was suddenly confused. Suddenly, I found that for a few years, except for this self-righteous love, it seemed that nothing was left. It's not that nothing is left, it's just a disease.

Because of the difference in vision, she was no longer the poor little girl, she had her own thoughts. In the end, Qing chose to leave. But she suddenly found that she didn't seem to know anything but being a lady.

Looking at her tearful face, my heart was broken, what is wrong with this society, hey!

Later, an old customer "New" always came to him, and after a transaction, asked her, do you still know me? She thought about it for a long time and didn't remember it. Finally, Xin told her that they were classmates, but at that time, she was cold and proud, and he did not dare to pursue her, so he could only hide his love in his heart. However, now that he finally has the ability to raise her, he also promises to give her a stable and happy life, and hopes that Qing will not do it and marry him.

At that moment, Qing said, it was too sudden, that feeling did not know whether it was happiness or fear, anyway, the tears were blurring her eyes again and again. She said she used to think she had no tears anymore, and she thought she would never cry again.

I asked her, then she and the new...

She did not speak, only that she had saved some money this year, because of the new appearance, and now she is no longer a lady. As for the new proposal, she didn't dare to think about it, and she felt that she didn't deserve the new, so she once again chose to leave. However, God seemed to see that it was not easy for her, and actually let the new find her again.

When xin appeared in front of her again, Qing said that she was really touched, but also very confused. She longs for such love, but she is also afraid of such love! Longing because of the new sincerity, fear because of sincere and beautiful things, she is really worthy of a young lady, really grasped steadily?

I asked her, "So this time, will you choose to leave again?" ”

Qing said that she and Xin once again talked about their identity, but Xin said he knew, but he didn't care. Xin also said that from the beginning of Qing's understanding of the key, he knew that Qing was deceived by the key, and he also left her a note, but unfortunately Qing in love did not pay attention to himself.

It turns out that the foreshadowing of love is so deep...

I burst into tears and listened to the story. I don't know what I can do, and I know that all languages are weak and superfluous at the moment. I silently accompanied her and silently supported her.

At the end of the consultation, she told: "Never mind, bet again!" Anyway, I don't have anything to lose! This sentence, she seems to be telling me, and it is more like telling herself.

A truly fearless person is the most sincere and pure person. In the face of love, especially. I admire her

Courage also silently blessed her in her heart.

One day a few years later, I received another call from Qing, and she was very grateful for the help I had given her in that consultation, and she was now living very happily. Although there are occasional quarrels, they are all very normal. They are now living in peace and have a cute, well-behaved daughter. At the end of the call, she knew that I had a hobby of writing and asked me to write a story about her experience and tell more people, hoping that her story would encourage more people, not to give up on myself, not to give up any hope of saving myself.

After hanging up the phone, my mood could not be calm for a long time: the accompaniment had such a great power! When I sit there and listen patiently, it is a kind of support for the client, a kind of treatment.

"Counselor's Notes" is a novel written by Mr. Yao Qing in July 2013. The novel takes the growth of psychological counselors as the main line, shows the magical, touching, indignant and regrettable counseling cases in Yao Qing's career, and tells the personal growth history of a psychological counselor from youth to maturity. It should be noted that all the names of the visitors, consultation cases and related materials in the text are processed and created on the basis of real cases, and the consent of the parties is also obtained. This is the ethics of the psychological counseling industry, but also the code of practice, please rest assured that you should not sit in the right seat.

About the Author:

Yao Qing, chief consultant of Mirror Shadow Psychological Counseling Studio, national second-level psychological counselor, deputy director of Shanghai Family Education Guidance Center, secretary general of Hainan Psychological Counselor Association, has long served as a psychological consultant for many companies and schools.

Editing and organizing:

Zhu Meimei is a consultant of Mirror Shadow Psychological Counseling Studio, a national second-level psychological counselor and a university teacher.