As the saying goes: no one is perfect. Everyone has certain shortcomings, but some people can control their shortcomings, while some people just indulge their shortcomings and eventually enlarge them infinitely. The difficulty is not the shortcomings, but the determination to recognize the shortcomings and correct them. If a person can control his shortcomings and correct them, then his achievements must be very high. For example, "one day three provinces and my body" Zeng Guofan. In fact, he also has many shortcomings, but he dares to face up to his own shortcomings and find ways to correct them. One of the biggest disadvantages is lust, lust for men is actually relatively normal, as a normal physiological needs, if you want to quit, its difficulty can be imagined. So how did Zeng Guofan, the "perfect man of all ages", quit color?
Zeng Guofan was actually not smart when he was a child, and he was even a little stupid. Once, one night, a thief sneaked into his room and hid on the beam, trying to steal something after Zeng Guofan fell asleep. But this thief waited, waited, waited until late at night, and did not wait for Zeng Guofan to fall asleep, it turned out that Zeng Guofan was memorizing an article, and he did not memorize it for a long time. Finally, the thief really couldn't stand it, so he jumped out and said to Zeng Guofan, "I can already memorize what books you are so stupid to read." After saying that, he left breathlessly.
Zeng Guofan
But Zeng Guofan is diligent, and the phrase that diligence can make up for it is not false at all. Later, if he could not pass the examination once, he would take the exam twice, and if he did not do it twice, Zeng Guofan continued to take the exam. In the end, Zeng Guofan took the exam seven times before he was admitted to the jinshi. After Zeng Guofan won the Jinshi, he was naturally proud of the spring breeze and some fluttering. After all, I was young at that time, and it was the time when the flesh and blood were just in place. Zeng Guofan also took his father to live in the capital together, and when he saw that his son was proud of the spring breeze, as a father, he was naturally very happy, so he followed his son to the capital to enjoy the blessings.
But not long after, his father did not quit and returned to his hometown in Hunan, leaving only a letter. In his letters, his father advised Zeng Guofan: We must remember the beliefs in our hearts and not indulge in some men and women's affairs and affect our future. Zeng Guofan suddenly woke up, remembering that he had regretted all the ridiculous things he had done these days, and he was also very ashamed.
After all, it was hard to win the jinshi, and the whole person relaxed at once. Just like the current students after the end of the college entrance examination, the whole person suddenly relaxed from a state of high tension. This is also understandable, but Zeng Guofan realized the big problem, and it turned out that he was busy reading and ignored the small problems in his body. Now as soon as I relaxed, it was all exposed. Corrections must be made in order to achieve great things.
Zeng Guofan also summed up several problems because of this incident, the first is that he loves to talk big, which can be slowly corrected. The second is that he has an impatient personality and cannot sit still. Zeng Guofan thought that this was not a big problem, and it could be corrected. The third is lust, and as soon as he thinks about it, Zeng Guofan realizes the seriousness of the problem. As the saying goes: a knife on the head of the color word. If it is not controlled, the consequences are unimaginable.
After all, lust is the long-term affection of people, so why does Zeng Guofan think that this is a serious problem? Because Zeng Guofan's lust, not the general lust, has far exceeded the needs of normal men. For this point, Zeng Guofan once wrote: On December 11 of that year, his friend Naji, who wanted to have a strong view, was disrespectful. Smell and envy, really beastly.
What's the problem? That is to say, Zeng Guofan especially likes to see beautiful women, and his liking is not the kind of like that of ordinary people, but the kind that he can't control himself at all. Every day at home, I can't sit still, and I always have to go to the street to see beautiful women. But in the feudal Qing Dynasty, ordinary women would not go out casually, and often there were few women on the street, let alone beautiful women. However, even this is not difficult to defeat Zeng Guofan. This brings us to the passage he wrote himself above.
For example, sometimes when he heard about his friend Xinna's concubine, Zeng Guofan couldn't wait to see Fangrong. Every time I bring a gift to a friend's house to find out. Ostensibly to visit friends and reminisce with friends. In fact, the two eyes are always inseparable from the concubine of a friend. Zeng Guofan also scolded himself for this: animals and animals are not as good as people.
And every time he was not satisfied after watching someone else's concubine, when he returned home, he would always find his wife to vent, and his heart could calm down. He also once recorded that he was in a bad mood at night and tired of moaning. It means that his wife is sick, and when it comes to the middle of the night, she is so uncomfortable that she can't vent. Therefore, I was extremely irritable in my heart, and when I saw my wife turn over and cough from time to time, I was very bored, and I couldn't sleep at night. From this point, we can find that Zeng Guofan's lust is very serious.
Zeng Guofan also often reflected on his behavior in his diary, and he also thought of many ways to quit the bad disease of lust. However, it is not enough to rely on one's own supervision, zeng guofan wrote a lot of diaries such as this, and often scolded himself. But whenever bad thoughts came up, the ten cows could not be pulled back. Zeng Guofan also realized that if this problem was not solved, sooner or later it would delay his own major affairs. So Zeng Guofan tried to find someone else to supervise him, and from time to time spurred himself on.
Zeng Guofan first thought of his friends, but there was some embarrassment between friends in this regard, plus he liked to see beautiful women. As a result, friends may develop resentment towards themselves. Moreover, the affairs between husband and wife, friends can not supervise, after all, it is a family affair, and it is embarrassing to pass it out. The friend's path was impossible, and Zeng Guofan thought of his elders. After all, it is perfectly normal for the elders to advise themselves, after all, they are all family members, and they are not afraid of jokes. So Zeng Guofan found elders to supervise him, and sure enough, the situation improved.
Under the supervision of the elders, Zeng Guofan's lust was controlled, and whenever there was such an idea, the elders were always able to stop it in time. However, it is not enough to rely only on the supervision of the elders, and the elders also have negligence, and once they are negligent, Zeng Guofan will take advantage of the loophole and break the ring if he is not careful. This is similar to quitting smoking, although someone supervises effectively, but it is not a long-term solution, after all, the person supervising can not always watch over you, a pack of cigarettes can be bought everywhere, and there is always a time when you can't help but face temptation. And Zeng Guofan's wife is around, she is lustful and always faces temptation, so it is difficult to quit.
Therefore, although it is a good way to find someone else to supervise, it does not solve the problem fundamentally. It is mainly necessary to start from oneself and find one's own causes in order to fundamentally solve the problem. Zeng Guofan thought that the reason why he was like this was that there was always a time when he was idle every day, and his energy was too exuberant. If you can't get busy every day, you won't think about these things.
As a result, Zeng Guofan would find many things for himself to do every day, such as practicing calligraphy and reading books. Every day I was so tired that I couldn't get tired, so tired that I just wanted to sleep when I went to bed. Slowly, Zeng Guofan gradually reduced his desire for that aspect, and kept insisting, and finally changed his lustful problems.