The most comfortable thing for a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along is to keep a bowl of soup at a distance. My family does not have this condition, I have lived with my mother-in-law for 6 years, 0 quarrels. I have some experiences to talk to you about.
1. Lower the expectation
No matter how good your mother-in-law is, she is not the mother who gave birth to you and raised you. Not comparing mother-in-law with mother-in-law, this is a necessary inner foundation.
2. Talk less
More words are lost. I basically only communicate with my mother-in-law on a daily basis, and I don't talk much about idle things. If you say too much, in case it hurts her.
3. Remember her birthday
Buy her a birthday present every year and let her feel our intentions.
4. Pay attention to what your mother-in-law says
For example, she tells someone that my phone is not working. Okay, send her a new phone. For example, she said that your aunt uses moxibustion to work. Well, the moxibustion instrument will be home in a few days. Come whenever you want, and who can be unhappy?
5. Confinement
Listen to me, please sister-in-law! In my confinement, except for the children's crying and anxiety, there was no other unhappiness. I was poor and hired an ordinary sister-in-law with low fees. At that time, I was determined that my sister-in-law could not save, and I did not want to leave a heart that could not be passed in the future.
6. Parenting generation gap
Raising children, there are a lot of differences between us. The mother-in-law is strong, and I am a stuffy gourd. But at that time, I plucked up the courage to say to her: Mom, if I give you advice and say something serious, don't be too careful, I don't mean anything else, it's for the sake of the child. She immediately said Oops I understand I understand! It turns out that this sentence is important. She used to say to my daughter, "Your grandmother has never lived to be wronged, except for you." "Sometimes she'll throw tantrums with her son
7. Don't make her feel like she has no place at home
Children can't watch TV when they are very young. I took the initiative to install one in my mother-in-law's house, not to deprive her of her hobbies, not to make her feel that we only care about our children and ignore her.
8. Teach children to thank and respect Grandma
Make her feel loved. The love of a child is obviously direct and heart-warming! As soon as I spoke, she would take care of the children, and in the cold winter mornings, she often took the initiative to send the children to school.
9. Do what you don't trust your mother-in-law to do yourself.
Rural mother-in-law hygiene habits are poor, and childcare is also an old concept. From the very beginning, the child's diet was all controlled by me, and I never let her interfere. Over time, I have become accustomed to performing my duties. Outside, she does not buy snacks for her children casually, and others refuse to give them.
10. Mother-in-law's tolerance
I have cleanliness and obsessive-compulsive disorder, and I pay attention to various hygiene habits. She must not be happy to be supervised like this. But she can basically do it after the reminder. So she was very patient with me.
11. Maintain a good relationship with teammates
Conjugal love is a weapon against everything.
Sometimes I hear her showing up with others what my daughter-in-law bought! I will be sad in my heart, she is also living a careful life!
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is actually an equivalent exchange. You're good to me, and I'm good to you. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are generous and patient, empathetic thinking, and gratitude are the keys to harmonious coexistence.
Dear, clever, make your mother-in-law happy, she can help you more !!!
