According to reports: On December 29, a mother in Beijing shared her parenting experience, which caused heated discussion among netizens, and the mother in the video said: She and her husband are both masters of 985 University, but under such good educational conditions, the son taught is a "scum", and then the mother said that although the child is so tired of learning, she only hopes that the child will grow up healthily.
This mother's child is 18 years old, push forward eighteen years, probably they are married around 2000, have a baby, then the parents can get a master's degree from 985 University before 2000, in that era, it can be said that it is a real senior intellectual, to know that the master's degree of that era, it is possible to directly enter the university to teach, and now if you want to enter the university, you need a doctorate.
Like this kind of intellectuals who have taken a high degree, many of them actually have very high requirements for children, and there is a general idea that "my child can at least not be worse than me", so they are generally very strict in the education of children, such as my graduate school tutor, she trained babies that is really strict, there were subject tutoring classes before, and now they are not allowed to go, they go to learn to draw, learn to play badminton, the exam must be close to full scores, 91, 92 points that are not enough to see.
These high requirements and high evaluation standards of parents should be taken by parents, but from the perspective of children, they will become the high pressure of children, and many children's ability to withstand pressure is not good, some children will seek short-sightedness, such news we see a lot, and some children will rebel, the more you say so, the more he does not do this.
Shouldn't parents who do this kind of thing first reflect on their own educational models?
This goes back to the initial function of education, what is the purpose of education?
Is it to shape the child to become a bully? Or make him a man of both moral integrity and ability?
In the video, I saw the mother's complaint, the child from the first grade was followed by the father to write homework, until the third year of high school, during the child's rebellion, the father also had two heart attacks...
Of course, poor parents in the world.
I agree with my parents' original intentions, but I do not agree with this parental education model at all
Sitting on the high-quality educational resources in the Dongcheng District of Beijing, my parents are still high-quality students who graduated from 985, I think parents should have a lot of psychological advantages, and feel that their children will definitely be able to stand out under their own education, but the fact is unexpected.
Maybe you don't understand education at all, let alone children, as minors of course need to supervise from the outside world, but too strict education, suppressive educational concepts, will only cultivate a rebellious and loveless child.
Again, I still hope that parents can give their children a little more space, do not take the test as the only indicator of raising children, really not everyone can take a high score, not everyone is suitable for a high score.
Children need to rely on learning to get excellent, even if they have strong IQ genes, they need to be polished and work hard the day after tomorrow to stimulate their potential. As a parent, you should have enough patience to guide your child, develop your child's interests and hobbies well, and develop your own strengths. Instead of complaining, and constantly expecting, the higher the expectation, the lower the fall, and the ordinary mind needs to be patient and need to have.