This baby is really very difficult to bring, can not be beaten, scolded also can not be scolded!
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When they don't agree, they run away from home, looking for death and life...
Many parents are very puzzled by this problem, why are today's children so vulnerable!
HKUST wants to say that in addition to the influence of the environment, there is also a type of child who is really sensitive.
Note that it is sensitive Oh, not the so-called pretense...
They love to cry, nervous, and have a lot of things, but they are careful, kind, and considerate...
When it is difficult to bring, it is a special waste mother, and when it is considerate, it can always be ironed into your heart!
Studies have found that almost 15% to 20% of the world's people belong to highly sensitive people, which means that one in 5 people is highly sensitive.
How do you know that your child or yourself is too sensitive?
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These options are perfect if your child accounts for more than 13, then it is absolutely appropriate for highly sensitive children.
Whether your child is highly sensitive or more sensitive, they will have different degrees of pain.
Mothers of sensitive children are sure to have self-doubt every day:
Sensitive kids are smart!
They can easily know what others think, and can even predict the behavior of others, making many adults ashamed of themselves!
But this has two results:
First: they can easily let others have an interest in interacting with them.
Second: Because they have accepted too many other people's feelings, they can't get rid of it, which makes them often unable to distinguish which are their true feelings, and they gradually lose themselves.
(It's like being able to walk into real life after making a movie.) ）
Lin Daiyu, who buried the flowers, is a representative of the sensitive world.
What's even more painful is that they will:
He is particularly prone to frustrated emotional reactions because of an incident or the incomprehension of the people around him, and is a proper perfectionist.
It could be Virgo Honza!
Because emotions cannot be understood by others, and even blamed and rejected, they become more afraid to express themselves.
For people who are naturally highly sensitive, they may be really not good at communicating, but they will be very concerned about what others say.
Every word that others say, even if it is just an unintentional joke, can bring harm to their hearts.
This is the pain of highly sensitive people, who care too much about what others say about themselves, and are afraid to criticize others, so they have endured a lot of pain!
So, how do we heal and save sensitive babies?
If you have a highly sensitive child in your family, collapse and fatigue are definitely the norm for you to bring a baby!
Wear clothes that are disgusted with seams;
Sleeping rooms can hear noises that cause irritability;
I want to have a lot of friends but never dare to try...
You may find their fears and sensitivities puzzling.
But you have to know that all of their situations are not intentional, but innate.
The first thing parents do to raise a highly sensitive child is to accept their status quo.
Please try to understand your child! Instead of trying to change their behavior.
When you start listening to their thoughts and concerns, you can better understand what worries or upsets them? What makes them calm and reassuring?
If when the child is still very young, the parents can adopt the appropriate attitude to face the sensitivity of the children, they can avoid the child from having more negative emotions.
The best thing to do is to embrace the high sensitivity of accepting your child.
1. Help your child prove himself
If there is a sports game in the class and the child loses, then a large number of low emotions will drown the child, self-blame or self-doubt, and it is necessary for the parents to help them divert their attention.
For example, if your child does well in math or writes a great essay, it reminds them of an unusual advantage in another field.
2. Protect children's sensitivity
If you encounter a project that your child is afraid to try, forcing the child or trying to help them "overcome their fears" can backfire.
Of course, don't let someone force your child to do something he's not ready to do.
Forcing a handful has no effect on highly sensitive children! What they need is for Mom and Dad to spend more time cultivating their self-confidence.
3. Develop your patience
Highly sensitive children may be tangled and very careful in choosing things, so when you are about to lose patience, be sure to take a deep breath!
Always remember that your harshness can make a child break down at any time.
Because highly sensitive children are themselves harsh self-critics, when they get into trouble, they quickly condemn themselves as "bad" or "useless."
Only gentle advice and communication will work.
4. Cultivate children's emotional boundaries
As mentioned above, highly sensitive children are too susceptible to a variety of emotions.
Excessive empathy, too deep into the drama, always overflowing with empathy, and the words of others are like bombs, which cannot be recovered after being affected for a long time.
To put it bluntly, it is to torture yourself with the negative emotions of others, but to ignore the real self.
Mom and Dad need to teach their children to be responsible only for their own actions and emotions, not for the actions or emotions of others.
The book "High Sensitivity is a Talent" says: The world needs highly sensitive children who are well raised.
How much we need people who can think carefully, feel deeply, pay attention to details, and finally construct a panorama.
We just need to do one more thing, and that is to give these people the courage to say what the non-sensitive people have not seen, thought, and felt.
To be honest, this book is not about teaching me how to "correct" highly sensitive behaviors, but about how to accept, help him accept, and help him be accepted by others.
High sensitivity is neither a disease nor a disorder, but an innate trait, a manifestation of a person's rapid response to subtle things.
We may wish to see the high sensitivity of children as an advantage, a delicate side of their hearts.
If you can make good use of this characteristic of children's sensitivity, I believe that in the future, the child's life will be very different.
After reading the article, will you find the best interpretation of your own sensitivity, reconcile with yourself, and don't need to let yourself change!