In life, I believe you should have met some arrogant and rude people who may be customers or leaders.
When you greet them warmly, they are cold and indifferent— their eyelids are not raised, just a soft "um" in a nasal tone, even if it is a response to you.
When encountering such arrogant and rude people, many people are actually very unconvinced in their hearts. But we can only swallow our anger, who makes us need customer orders, need the salary of the leader?
As the saying goes: a hundred people, all kinds.
In interpersonal communication, we always encounter all kinds of "weird tempers". Dealing with these people is often an intolerable thing. However, due to their own interests, sometimes they have to get along with such people.
How can we open the hearts of these arrogant and rude people and put themselves to value while ensuring their own interests? There is a very famous case in history, which is worth learning from.
Li Shi's "magic trick" to rule Liu Bang
According to the "Records of History", during the period of the Chu-Han war, Liu Bang went around looking for talents in order to seize the world.
As we all know, Liu Bang was a hooligan in his early years, not doing his job, hanging around, and often scolding others.
Moreover, Liu Bang also looked down on readers very much. Even if he is recruiting talents, as long as he sees the hats worn by those who read books, he wants to rip them off and urinate inside - which shows the extent of Liu Bang's arrogance and rudeness.
Although Liu Bang is so arrogant, it is such a clever reader who can understand the disposition of Liu Bang, the "leader", and is valued and reused by Liu Bang.
In the Gaoyang area at that time, there was a man named Li Shiqi, who went to meet Liu Bang in order to realize his ambitions.
But Liu Bang did not treat Li Shiqi like other ancient kings, but half lying on the edge of the bed, stretching out two thighs, letting the two women wash their feet - such a state, how can it be rude? It can be said that it is an insult to Li Shiqi.
Seeing this scene, Li Yiqi did not bow down and bow down, but said, "Do you want to help the Qin state fight the princes, or do you want to lead the princes to destroy the qin state?" ”
As soon as Liu Bang heard this, his arrogant nature was revealed again, and he directly scolded: "You slave Confucian, the Qin Dynasty has made the people of the world suffer so much, so we resisted the violent Qin, how do you say that I helped the Qin State to fight the princes!" ”
Li Zhiqi replied slowly, "Since you are recruiting talents and are determined to resist the violent Qin, you should not treat the elders with such a rude attitude." ”
After hearing this, Liu Bang quickly stood up, sorted out his clothes, apologized to Li Shiqi one after another, and invited Li Shiqi to the seat of the guest.
I have to say that Li Shuqi's way of dealing with arrogant "leaders" is really clever.
In today's workplace and life, we can take a similar approach to leaders and customers who have no one in sight. You can try the following three methods.
3 ways to get along with arrogant people
First of all, speak concisely and clearly, to the point, and use the least amount of language to tie the interests of the other party to yourself. In this way, the other party will think that you are a person who has little room for bargaining, and tighten your own shelf - the above-mentioned lishiqi is adopted in this way.
Second, minimize the time you spend with each other. After expressing his opinions and opinions, he turned decisively and left. Let the other person stay there and think hard about what you say.
Third, if you have to get along with arrogant people for a long time, you must learn to pull the other person down from the "high" position. For example, you can often invite these people to sing, eat, drink... Don't talk about work, just talk about home. Over time, the other person will show his own original appearance, and he will no longer be arrogant and rude to you.
Conclusion
Li Shiqi understood Liu Bang's disposition and not only successfully realized his ambitions; moreover, liu Bang later missed Liu Shiqi very much when he divided the meritorious men, and even made an exception to make Li Shiqi's son the Marquis of Sorghum.
The same is true in modern life, in the face of arrogant and rude leaders or customers, we can never meet one and stay away from one.
Many times, we only have to grasp each other's habits and then take appropriate methods to make ourselves reusable and realize our ideals.