When people reach middle age, they must understand the "law of the flock"

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Since ancient times, we have praised others with "standing out from the crowd". That is to say, whether a person is excellent or not can only be reflected by standing with ordinary people and comparing them with each other.

Teacher Zhao Yuping once put forward such a point of view in the "Hundred Family Forum": "If a crane has to go with the chickens, then the final result is only two: either forced to die by the chickens, or assimilated by the chickens." ”

There is a way that the circle a person is in is his real life. If you want to go far and fly high, you have to get out of the lower circles.

When people reach middle age, life is bitter and tired, don't trap you in circles. If you want to have a happy family, you must understand the "law of the flock".

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Stick to being alone, and you'll stand out.

Many years ago, there was an idol team in Taiwan called the Little Tigers.

Together, they sang popular songs such as "Green Apple Paradise" and "Love", which were popular all over the country for a time.

Later, the Little Tigers were disbanded, and Su Youpeng, Wu Qilong, and Chen Zhiming developed their own. Years later, the Tigers became our fond memories, but the three members did not fade, but developed better.

In a program, Su Youpeng talked about the dissolution of the Little Tigers that year, saying: "The Little Tigers had no way to achieve his lifelong aura, and at that time, he wanted to become a powerful artist, so he finally chose to quit. ”

Someone to accompany you for a while, no one to accompany you for a lifetime. When life develops to a certain extent, you will find that those who are on the same road as you become uneven, and if everyone continues to develop in groups, they will be tied to each other and it is difficult to move forward.

For example, in school, the classmates are similar, on a starting line. Twenty years after graduation, looking back, you will find that some students have become big bosses, some students are farming in their hometowns, and some students are working... The level of people is clear at a glance.

The New Yorker wrote, "Drowning in this great city of thousands, I feel truly free—a freedom to be alone and unheeded." ”

When a person stands in the bustling crowd but insists on walking alone, he chooses his own path, has his own direction, and will eventually leave the crowd.

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Be a humble person, you will appear noble.

As the old saying goes: "Three stinky cobblers, one Zhuge Liang." ”

Grasping the "law of the flock" is not to make you an empty-eyed person, nor to make you above others, but to be in the flock, but not to be assimilated by the chickens, and to be good at borrowing power.

During the Warring States period, Meng Yijun was a minister of the State of Qi, but he was a kind man, and there were many poor people, who turned to him and became a doorman.

There are two doormen, who have done the thing of stealing chickens and dogs, and are often ridiculed by other doormen.

One year, Meng Yijun was ordered to send an envoy to the Qin state. The King of Qin believed that Meng Yujun was very capable, and if he stayed in the Qin Kingdom as an errand boy, it would be good. Therefore, Meng Yijun was put under house arrest and was not allowed to return to the State of Qi.

A doorman stole a fox fur coat from the warehouse of the Qin kingdom and gave it to the concubine of the King of Qin. After the concubine's maneuvering, Meng Tianjun finally escaped; a doorman learned chicken barking at the pass, making the soldiers guarding the pass think that it was dawn, opening the gate, and allowing Meng Tianjun to leave the Qin state smoothly.

Posterity jokes, chicken song dog thieves, is also a talent.

When people reach middle age and want to do great things, they must learn to use the power of the masses. As the saying goes, "The crowd collects firewood and the flame is high." ”

Colleagues around you can help you complete heavy work; customers can help complete orders; ordinary people can help you increase your popularity and make a deal.

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Find like-minded people and you can go further.

William Muir, a biological evolutionist at Purdue University, conducted an experiment in which a flock of chickens was divided into regular chickens and super chickens, kept in different places.

It turned out that the super chickens were fighting each other because they were competitive, and finally there were only a few left; the ordinary chickens were safe and well, and continued to lay eggs and multiply. This is the "flock effect".

Judging from the conclusion of the experiment, the competition between groups has always existed, but it is necessary to grasp the strength of competition. If the competition is white-hot, it will hurt each other; if it is through technological improvement and quality improvement, it will be outstanding.

When people reach middle age, there are opportunities everywhere, and there is pressure and competition, so we must turn pressure into motivation and competition into opportunities.

On the road of life, when you have developed to a certain level, you will join the group at the same level and actively strive to surpass the group, so that the development path is the real "people go to a higher place".

The ancients said, "Different Ways do not conspire against each other." ”

Keep throwing away people who are different ways, giving up people who pull you back, and then making friends with people who can help you, people who can cooperate, step by step, in order to go far.

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There is a saying in the book "Influence": "First take out the cheap things, and then take out the expensive things, which will make the expensive things seem more expensive." ”

The tall buildings rise from the ground. A person who is high up in the sky, originally a very humble person, has the power to transcend the ordinary through a long period of development.

"Stay away from the flock" and "stand out from the flock" are dialectical unity relations, not always in opposition.

To stay away is to keep a distance mentally and mentally, to stick to one's own direction and ideas, to stand together is to complement each other, and cooperation and competition go hand in hand.

I have seen a fairy tale: a swan egg is mixed among duck eggs, and after the swan is born, it is ridiculed by the ducks, thinking that it is extremely ugly; the little swan helplessly hides in the depths of the pond and lives a lonely and miserable life.

One day, two white swans came to the pond and said to the little swan, "You are so beautiful." "Since then, the little swan has a new circle and has become noble.

The progress of life is never-ending, neither trapped by the circle, nor blindly out of the circle.

When people reach middle age and want to become a crane, they must have the courage to fly alone and the wisdom to join the group.

Author: Cloth coarse food.

Follow my words and go into your heart.

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