The "Pacesetter Dormitory" of China Southern Airlines Institute of Technology has aroused heated discussion, on the excellent road, who are you willing to walk with?

The "Pacesetter Dormitory" of China Southern Airlines Institute of Technology has aroused heated discussion, on the excellent road, who are you willing to walk with?

In the winter of 2021, in the Department of Optoelectronic Information Engineering of the School of Science of Nanjing University of Aeronautics and Astronautics, four undergraduate students in the same dormitory not only successfully achieved the undergraduate stage of publishing SCI-high-level papers, but also four papers at a time, and they were also the first authors of the papers. In colleges and universities, there has always been such a saying: graduate students with SCI papers, "one package graduation, two package employment."

Therefore, the "record" of the China Southern Airlines foursome with a SCI second-zone paper quickly triggered a hot discussion on the whole network.

Some netizens sighed: "Only by taking these people as an example at all times can we constantly revise ourselves." Some netizens also said: "The greatest happiness in life is that there are many people around who work hard and have foresight, so they are not willing to be mediocrity in life, so they rush to catch up."

Therefore, if you want to become excellent, you may wish to make more excellent friends, look at their attitude to life, how to deal with people and learning attitudes, you will also be spurred to become more outstanding. ”

It is worth mentioning that netizens are more envious of college students to be able to meet such a boarder. However, there is a saying in China that the near Zhu is red, and the near ink is black. In everyday life, it really matters who the child is with. If the child can make a good friend, then he can play a very good exemplary role for the child, help the formation of the child's world view and outlook on life, and make the child become confident and cheerful, but sometimes, our children will also face social problems such as exclusion, bullying and ridicule.

Therefore, we need to give some specific method suggestions on the child's friendship to help the child choose friends. Help them navigate the test waters of social relations.

So, how to cultivate children's ability to get good friends?

First of all, when helping children establish a dating order, make children realize that it is okay to have their own views on friends, and let children believe in their own instincts. But if parents don't encourage them to think that way, most kids won't believe themselves. Many times, we parents often think that children should not evaluate others, and even some parents also teach children to treat others with sincerity, make friends with their hearts, and teach children some ways to make friends with practical actions.

Admittedly, this is a basic social moral norm, and parents teach correctly, but these parents neglect to listen to their children's ideas. If parents don't learn to believe how their children feel about themselves, they may never find their child in an unhealthy relationship.

By paying attention to your child's emotional cognition when expressing facts, you can help your child correctly evaluate his partner and improve the relationship, and if the problem of peers makes your child feel frustrated and stinging, parents can teach the child to believe in his own instincts and do what the instinct tells him to do. Parents need to give their children the right not to like certain "specific children".

Secondly, when helping children establish a dating order, let children realize their emotional reactions in the face of external stimuli and find out how their friends treat him. Parents are the best teachers for children, and families are the best schools for children. The key to children's understanding and control of emotions depends on the parents' example and appearance. Emotions are contagious. The bad emotions expressed between the parents' five intentions are transmitted to the child, and the child reflects the same emotions to us. To help children analyze problems, to help children distinguish between right and wrong, it is their own mistakes that must be corrected in time. Guide and encourage your child to try new ways to solve problems.

Finally, when helping your child establish a dating order, make your child realize that he can make choices. In fact, your child won't like all of them, and not all of them will like your child. Between adults, you don't feel good with a friend, and you know why, and everyone usually tries to solve the problem. If you can't fix it, you'll walk away from each other.

This rule also applies in the child's world. There are no perfect people in real life, and there are indeed examples of personalities that are incompatible and cannot be friends. Let your child understand that ending a friendship is a viable option. The friendship relationship between children is constantly changing.

Leaving a friendship today doesn't mean that next year, or next month, two kids can't be friends again. Parents can advise their children to learn to look at these things with a normal heart.

There may not be a one-size-fits-all approach to education, but some are universal rules that work for the vast majority of children. Of course, when these laws are used, they should also be analyzed on a case-by-case basis, and taught according to the different situations of children.