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Presumably, after the breakup, many people hold the dream of compounding, bent on reconciling with their ex and starting a new journey.
I have to say that such people are too naïve, they think that as long as they are reformed, everything can be restarted, and the other party can also accept themselves as if nothing has happened, but in fact, most of the compound is just repeating the same mistakes.
When two people first came together, they were determined to go with each other for a long time, but in the end they often dispersed for various reasons, and the reason why they came to the step of breaking up, there must be irreconcilable contradictions in them, and finally parted ways.
I think you may have tried countless ways in this process, and you also thought about whether you should put up with it anymore, maybe you can go on? People who have seriously managed a relationship will not be willing to let go of each other's hands easily, but when a relationship has been torn, it is not a forbearance that can pass.
Everyone who decides to leave you has experienced countless times of spiritual construction, has given you countless opportunities, and finally saved enough disappointment to choose to give up. Of course, the reason why they will break up is certainly not one person's fault, it is the common behavior of two people that leads to the final ending.
A person is determined to leave, even if the other party does not give up, there is no way to make the other party change his mind, since she has made sufficient psychological preparations when she leaves you, then it is easy not to turn back.
In "Xiao Min's House", although Xiao Min was originally ordered by her mother to come together with Jin Bo, when she chose to marry him, she thought of living a good life with him, but she did not expect that Jin Bo always liked to drink and spill, and chilled her heart again and again.
Finally, because of his distrust, there was a farce, Xiaomin chose to divorce, cut off contact with the people in his hometown, and went to Beijing alone to work.
After many years, Jin Bo came to Beijing, bent on reuniting with Xiao Min, even if he lived in Xiao Min's house shamelessly, doing everything possible to create opportunities, even if he finally reformed, it would not shake Xiao Min's heart at all. Although it is said that Xiao Min has already lived in Chen Zhuo's heart later, in fact, even if there is no Chen Zhuo, Xiao Min will certainly not reunite with Jin Bo.
It is said that the husband and wife are still the original match, but in most cases, two people decide to divorce, it will not be easy to reunite, even if one party is not dead, after all, it will not be able to return to the past.
Whether it is a lover or a husband and wife, even if you are in love, even if you change your former vices, few people can come together sweetly again.
People are forward-looking, even if time can smooth out the scars, even if both of you later become mature, but it is very rare to want to get back together.
In most cases, compounding is a repetition of the same mistakes, the old problems are improved, new problems will be frequent, and the final outcome will not be satisfactory.
There is only one situation in which you can reunite with a person you love deeply, and you can still be happy after you are reunited. That is, two people are very happy when they are together, calm and decent when they break up, and still think of each other after breaking up.
Just like Chen Zhuo and Xiao Min in "Xiao Min's Family", the two of them are very sweet when they are together, the two people heal each other and rely on each other, Chen Zhuo heals Xiao Min's sad past, and Xiao Min is also giving Chen Zhuo spiritual comfort, both of them have experienced a failed relationship, understand each other, and cherish each other.
Later, they broke up not because they did not love, but because various problems were mixed together, the two sides said goodbye with tears, there was no contact for a year after separation, but they remembered each other, encountered the slightest embarrassment again, still smiled and greeted, and could continue to get along with the identity of friends, these are all signs of compounding, in fact, the two people finally succeeded in compounding.
The above three conditions are indispensable, and it is precisely with the deep feelings when in love as a foreshadowing, the decent support when breaking up, and later both parties are still concerned about each other, which makes the compound more logical.
Two people together are very sweet and heal each other
Good feelings must be able to heal each other, warm each other, bring each other upward strength, and make each other better and warmer people.
Xiao Min was once a person who was tied up by past memories and was very unhappy, Chen Zhuo was like a beam of light for her, shining into her life, his humorous sunshine, his trust and understanding, all unconsciously infected her, making her willing to accept the past and completely reconcile with the past.
Chen Zhuo and Xiao Min's days together are also his happiest times, and both of them are shining on each other and are indispensable beings in each other's hearts.
Of course, they will also quarrel, but the occasional haze will not hinder the sweetness between them, when a relationship finally brings each other good memories, then there is a possibility of compounding, if two people together in the end only left to torture each other, after separation will not look back.
The way to break up is very decent, and two people can calm down and be free
Generally speaking, the way to break up directly determines whether two people will get back together.
I've seen a lot of people break up and make a lot of trouble, some people are stalking and beating each other' warmth, some people attack each other, they say the most cruel words to each other, and some people spread each other's bad things everywhere after breaking up, and everyone knows it.
Maybe these people just used an inappropriate method because they didn't want to end up, but they blocked the road, and after such a reaction, the other party will never be able to reunite with you again.
It is better to be decent and free when breaking up, since the other party already has the intention of breaking up, then it will not turn back because of your retention, the more you stalk, it will only make him go more firmly.
Give each other a little time, if it is true love, two people will eventually meet again at a certain node one day.
After the breakup, think of each other
One person cannot maintain the relationship between two people, and one person's worries cannot make each other turn back.
As long as one party completely lets go, then even if the other person does not want to worry about it, it is useless.
Maybe when you are crying because of his sadness, the other party has already started a new life, only you are trapped in the same place, in this case, you must decisively give up the idea of compounding, otherwise you are sad only yourself.
You have to make sure that the other party is the same as you, and always maintain a deep love for you, rather than quickly finding a new person after the breakup, and after going around, remembering your goodness, and then choosing to come together with you.
As long as two people think about each other and care about each other, then the reunion is a natural thing that will happen.
In the vast sea of people, it is too easy for two people to get apart, it may just be a quarrel, just a blurted out angry words, or a temptation, a distrust, and finally let the two people go their separate ways.
It is too difficult to reunite after dispersion, even if the two of you are in the same city and have a common circle, as long as one party has an iron heart and does not turn back, it will not help if you are in love.
Only when both parties remember each other, the beauty left by the past experience of being together, and the breakup did not make a lot of trouble, such two people have the opportunity to reunite, and they will be very happy after the reunion.
If these conditions are not met, you are advised not to easily compound, and in the end it will only be a repetition of the same mistakes.