Written by Jonathan. Haidt, the avant-garde leader of positive psychology, tells us that happiness actually comes from investing in life, not being detached from it.
Happiness is not a hypothesis, it is real and can be fully realized. The book contains a lot of profound knowledge and stimulates our thinking on the age-old question of how to be happy. We may have heard that happy lives are always similar, but unhappy lives are different. So what are the similarities?
Happiness is what you think it is, it is what it is. Regarding the definition of happiness, it is differentiated, it is personalized, you like the mountain flower, the other party likes the sea tree, you see the mountain flower, he sees the sea tree, you are all happy.
The Russian thinker Tolstoy once said that as long as one knows how to work and how to love others, one can have a wonderful life.
Our TV station will also ask you if you are happy? Another god man replied that my surname is Zeng, and everyone may smile after listening to it. We usually see a lot of chicken soup books, preaching people to love, looking very tall, but there is no nutrition in operation.
Shakespeare once said: Things are not good or bad, it is the human mind that is at work.
The goal of positive psychology is to help everyone find the meaning of happiness, the author cites 10 ancient ideas, combined with modern research results to tell you the reasons for human flourishing, as well as the difficulties and obstacles we encounter in the pursuit of happiness.
For the pursuit of happiness, the Buddha once said, "The Dharmas are the first to lead, and the intentions are to be contrived," and the meaning here is also the thoughts in our hearts. Some things in psychology have the same effect as meditation in religion.
Law 1: Reciprocity is the most important criterion for people to get along with each other;
The second law: people are born with "moral hypocrisy", this law also explains why many people will be strict with others, lenient with themselves, mouth and their own actions are inconsistent, but also cause to look at others and see themselves used different filters;
Plato once thought that certain human emotions and passions are good, such as our deep sense of honor, which can lead us to the right path. Some emotions are harmful, such as our desires and greed.
The ancient metaphor of an animal is very useful, when we struggle with our inner emotions, we are like a person riding on an elephant, we have the reins in our hands, and we can direct the elephant to turn and stop or move forward with a single movement. But only when the elephant doesn't have his own desires, we can command and move, and once it really wants to do something, we can't fight it at all.
There is a more literary sentence: I have a tiger in my heart, and I smell the roses. By extension, when the tiger in your heart can't control it, it will only hurt yourself and others.
It also shows that something that happens in this world can only affect us through our own interpretation of the event. So as long as we can control our interpretation of events, we can control our own world.
To take a simple example, you failed the exam after one exam, and when you explain that I am too stupid to pass, then I will completely lose confidence, and if your explanation is that you are not working hard enough and not preparing enough, then you will fight again.
So everything has no facts, only feelings. We need to control our feelings, accept the suffering we encounter in its entirety, and give it a new interpretation that will surely allow us to break through the predicament. Sometimes bad luck is better for people than good luck, because people will be insatiable with good luck, but bad luck will make people stronger, although we don't like to be strong.
Psychologists have found that we react to bad things faster and more intensely than to good things, so that people actively seek out and respond to threats, aggressions, and frustrations, so we can't force ourselves to see things from a good perspective. It can be said that our hearts are a bit sadistic, the pain is unforgettable, the happiness is forgotten in a flash, and the serious is prone to depression.
There are three ways to improve this situation, the first is meditation, also called meditation meditation, which is actually the same thing; the second method is called cognitive therapy, which is to go to a professional psychologist to correct it, teaching elephant riders how to train elephants; and the third is to use professional antidepressants.
Whenever some masters of wisdom were to pick out the principles of zero price above all value, it usually appeared either love or reciprocity.
This reciprocity is very obvious between group animals, such as ants such as geese, which is how biological evolution has slowly become what it is today, for example, when we destroy the honeycomb, there will be other wasps to sting us, although after the sting is dead, it contains the reciprocal cooperation of this wasp group, and it has evolved into this for the reproduction and survival of the next generation.
Why do negative news spread so fast online? Rumors have the function of maintaining social order and indoctrination, and without rumors, our world would be plunged into chaos and ignorance.
Many species have reciprocal behaviors, but only humans will talk about the long way, and gossip news is the reciprocal way in our human society. For example, if others are cruel to you, then rumors and the pressure of reputation will make karma appear quickly, that is, what we call social death in the network, so that some people will not be so arrogant when they do evil.
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