When director Bai in the TV series "Ode to Joy" established a relationship with Qiu Yingying, Qiu Yingying's neighbors were very unfavorable to them, on the grounds that Director Bai gave people a very obscene and casual feeling.
When several of them were having dinner, Director Bai also came, but as soon as he entered the door, he looked around at the neighbors with a squirrel's eyes.
The desire in her eyes was about to overflow, but at that time, Qiu Yingying was completely in love, and felt that Director Bai was the only one in her life.
Therefore, it was not until Director Bai and other women were vaguely caught by her that Qiu Yingying saw the true face of the other party.
In a relationship between the sexes, a casual man actually means that he is unfaithful to his feelings, is to see different thoughts, to like the new and tired of the old, to look at the flowers, is to see a love one.
In short, with such a man, we can never experience what it is like to be cared for, nor do we know what it is like to be happy with each other.
Therefore, in order to avoid unnecessary harm, we need to see the small things when dealing with feelings, check and fill in the gaps.
The way a person speaks reflects the cultivation he has carved into his bones
01), He Jiong is a well-known high emotional intelligence in the entertainment industry, when participating in the variety show "Longing for Life", guest Peng Yuchang threw away some strawberries that looked a little bad and dirty.
He Jiong felt that these strawberries could still be eaten, so he picked them up again, at this time, Peng Yuchang felt that he wasting food, and he felt a little guilty and embarrassed.
And He Jiong took the strawberries to feed the geese, and said that these strawberries were originally very good, but Peng Yu wanted to give them to eat, so he deliberately said that they were bad, and he broke the siege in one sentence.
Another time, when the female guest was serving a meal, she accidentally overturned the rice due to the hot hand, and she was at a loss for words and did not know what to do.
02) At this time, He Jiong comforted her and asked her to clean the scraps on the floor, because he knew that when a person has a sense of guilt, he must make up for it in some way to ease his inner emotions.
Therefore, He Jiong warms everyone in his own way, and because of this, He Jiong is liked by many people, and everyone who has been with him feels that he can bring himself a feeling of spring breeze.
The mouth, the portal of the heart, how a person speaks, what flowers he says, are actually a way embodied in his innermost upbringing.
Therefore, the way a man speaks reveals what kind of person he really is.
A man, whether casual or not, can see it as soon as he opens his mouth
Some men are shy and nervous when they first date girls, so they are always stumbling when they talk, or they are very clumsy.
Before each sentence is spoken, it will be repeated many times before it will open its mouth, for fear of bringing bad emotions to others.
And some men, no matter when they talk to girls, will feel that opening the yellow cavity is a particularly humorous behavior, and their words are full of disrespect for women, as if the other party's yellow humor that hates themselves is false and serious.
Such a man does not know what respect is, nor does he know what etiquette and shame are.
In their world view, they will feel that speaking without measure is the norm, so such men naturally do not know what is responsible, and they will not understand that love must be gradual and serious.
Marx once said: "It seems to me that true love is manifested in the implicit, modest and even shy attitude of the lover towards his idol, and by no means in the casual expression of enthusiasm and premature intimacy." ”
Love is like a tree, slowly growing to thrive, and those casual men, even if they are with them, do not have the opportunity to experience the feeling of being loved, because the other party is self-absorbed, weak and unethical, does not understand love at all, and naturally cannot give love.
For the rest of your life, be sure to be with a man who is loyal to love
01), the writer Zhang Xiaoxian said: "When choosing the other half, that man, he can be poor, can not be handsome, can be very ordinary, but he absolutely can not, no responsibility." ”
The essence of love is actually to return to reality, it may not be so romantic, it may be as calm as water.
But its appearance will make people feel an incomparable beauty, and this beauty needs to be real, it needs loyalty, not what can be given casually.
When we choose the other half, we should not be confused by love, but should pay more attention to a man's character, because all love needs to rely on character and kindness to maintain it in the end.
02), therefore, do not easily listen to men's rhetoric, and do not be carried away by love.
Don't know that a man is a casual person, and still refuse to get lost, and refuse to stop the loss in time.
I feel that I must be that special person, and I will definitely make the other party change from evil to righteousness.
In this way, it will only be yourself who will be hurt in the end.
Only by valuing the scarcity value of a man will we not star in the tragedy of love.