Hello, brother. Do you know why some people can make girls like him in a short period of time by chatting, while some people can't even chase each other after a few years of kneeling and licking? The difference is that the former belongs to high emotional intelligence boys, more experience, knows how to measure, has many skills and routines, while the latter will only be good for girls.
Then if the average person wants to change, the simplest is undoubtedly to learn routines, skills, but routines, skills are dead, if you will not be flexible, then it is useless, then today I will teach you how to become an intellectual boy who knows how to measure, mainly talking about chat and talking.
First, do not overdo it
Pouring out, generally pointing to others to spit bitter water and spread negative emotions, is a thing that pleases oneself and makes others miserable; while listening is a thing that pleases others and makes oneself miserable. And the essence of pouring out is an act of taking, it does not need to use the brain, just need to vent with the mood; and listening is essentially an act of giving and giving, which requires you to continuously give the other party the emotions you need, to be empathetic, to understand, encourage and respect the other party.
The most important thing about chasing girls is that you have to make girls happy so that you can better advance the relationship. Therefore, the best way for you to get along with girls is to become a listener, but occasionally make a cameo appearance as a talker, and the two take turns to grasp the right to speak. In this way, you and the girl both have to give and return, and to achieve a balance in the dynamic can avoid many problems.
I know that many boys will often short-circuit the brain in the face of the girls they like, do not know how to attract girls, if the brothers really can't find a way, then you come to my public number: Wang Baiyi, give you a high emotional intelligence strategy, hand in hand to teach you to read the subtext of girls, easily hold their careful thoughts.
Second, do not force sharing
Unlike the previous point, the main thing here is to respect each other. I have seen many boys often instill their own ideas and share their interests and hobbies in girls when chasing girls, for example, he is a well-behaved child, see girls often go to bars and other places to play at night, they persuade each other not to go out so late, girls ignore him and keep talking about the harm. The internal logic of this behavior is: "I am for your own good, so I am ...", but have you ever thought about and asked, do girls need this kind of "good" from you? I'm sure the vast majority of people don't.
And I say a realistic word: "Persuasion does not make a person change and wake up, but pain can." Since she made the choice and did not ask you for your opinion, it means that she does not want to change at this time, even if this choice is "wrong" and "harmful" to us and to you, but she is only in your opinion, perhaps she has long been prepared to bear the pain, perhaps she still believes in the last glimmer of hope in her heart, and the "faithful" licking dogs are not the same.
So, if you really like someone, you have to learn to respect the wishes and choices of the other person.
Third, do not ask about private topics
Privacy and secrets are actually not asked out, but the other party takes the initiative to share and wait. Because these topics of privacy are actually related to a person's bottom line and boundaries, if you take the initiative to ask, it means that you are crossing the line. Maybe you will say that she is not a big star, a big person, is it necessary to be so sensitive? But think about it from another angle, if a person comes up and directly asks you about your background, how many times you have been in love, whether you are a virgin, will you still have a good feeling for this person?
So, if you want to attract a girl, then in normal times you need to control your curiosity, gossip, pay attention to your words and deeds, although we say to be a real villain, but if there is a choice of true gentlemen, who will lower their identity?
Fourth, do not overexpose your sense of need
The first three are all aimed at girls, and this one is for yourself. Another explanation for knowing the measure is to have a degree of retreat, that is, you have to learn to leave yourself a way back, because no one in the world can win every battle, then when you encounter setbacks and failures, it is better to give yourself a choice to readjust, fight again, or give up directly.
At the same time, this behavior is not only a protection for yourself, but also a kind of protection for girls.