Believe in your own children and say "You're awesome"

Concern the child

Concerns education

I know that moms and dads nowadays often use the phrase "You're awesome!" "To motivate the child, but I have never opened this "golden mouth" in my son. My colleagues said that I was too strict with my children and that my children were too restricted; my mother was always dissatisfied with me and criticized my approach every five minutes. But every time the words came to the lips, they stopped, and somehow they couldn't say these words.

A few days ago, I was chatting with colleagues in the office, and my son happily pushed the door in, holding a pile of stationery in his arms, and as soon as he saw me, he said: "Mom, I am the champion of today's upside-down ball, upside down 1582, this is the coach award for me!" ”

"What, you topsyed the ball the most?" It's true? ”

My questioning made my son feel aggrieved, and as if tears had already appeared in his eyes, he flattened his mouth and said, "Really! Don't believe you can ask the coach! ”

"I'll ask." I still couldn't believe it.

I also never believe that my son can get the first, from the time he first entered the table tennis team, my vision of him has been shattered, the running test is not as clever as the girl, jumping rope only 5 jumps were shouted by the test teacher to stop... How can too much unsatisfactory make me fantasize again? Think for yourself, you should put your mindset at peace: just let him play, exercise by the way, and mix it up.

My mentality was not balanced a few days later, my son came back and told me that he was going to have a bumping game in two weeks, when he could only topple five or six, the most upside-down balls in his group was more than 1,000, after listening to my son's words, I felt that it was a basin of cold water, and then I was glad that I had already settled the mentality. So, since then, I haven't said a word of encouragement.

It was also from then on that my son was particularly attentive to the upside-down ball, and as soon as he finished his homework, he took the ping-pong racket to practice the upside-down ball, and asked me for a notebook to record it myself every day. I "turned a blind eye" to what he was doing, only when he was idle. Suddenly, one day, when he excitedly told me that he could topple more than 20 balls, I simply responded: "Good, keep practicing." My son practiced silently in my "blind eye"...

But now, my son actually said that he won the first place... Not likely, right? Is it that the coach deliberately gave him more prizes in order to encourage him? All the thoughts that had nothing to do with the child's efforts popped up one by one. Look at me, a mother, how can I not trust my son so much! I was suddenly ashamed of my "bad thoughts", and my mouth involuntarily said over and over again: "Son, you are awesome!" "My colleagues laughed at how happy I was.

Yeah, I was too happy.

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