Cai Xiaowan is a "family education expert" from Zhejiang. In 2008, he became famous for introducing his 24-character parenting to parents across the country on CCTV's "Sunset Red" and Phoenix SATELLITE TV's "Lu Yu You".
Cai Xiaowan raised a total of five sons and a daughter. Five of his six children are PhDs and one has a master's. As a result, his family is also known as the "Talent Satellite Launch Base."
In 2010, Cai Xiaowan published "My Career is a "Father"" to introduce his lifelong educational experience to the public. At present, Cai Xiaowan is already a 79-year-old man. He and his children are very low-key, not appearing on public shows for a while, and enjoying themselves at home.
1. Cai Xiaowan and his parenting scriptures
Chinese has always attached importance to family education, and in ancient times, many celebrities have left "family training" to help future generations and cultivate their descendants to become materials.
For example, during the Southern and Northern Dynasties, Yan Zhitui's "Yan Family Training", the Qing Dynasty's "Zeng Guofan Family Book", the modern "Fu Lei Family Book", etc., have been of great help to family education.
Among them, the "Letter of Zeng Guofan's Family" is also a desk book given by Chiang Kai-shek to his son Chiang Ching-kuo. But
Because these books are written in chinese, modern people read them, and there are some barriers.
Therefore, it is difficult for ordinary parents to draw the essence of educating their children from the book.
Because of this, Cai Xiao's experience in family education for decades, writing books and teaching the "Parenting Sutra" to the Chinese people, was immediately popular throughout the country.
So, how did Cai Xiaowan educate his children? Let's take a look at his twenty-four-word parenting scripture, which is:
Early education education, ambition from an early age, cultivation of self-study, first learning to be a person, happy education, love and communication!
1、
The importance of early education
Zhang Ailing, a famous master of romance novels in the Republic of China, said: "To become famous early, we must be early", and if you want to "become famous early", you cannot do without "early study". Learning knowledge is based on good "memory".
In a person's life, the best memory is at the primary and secondary school stage.
Therefore, if you want to educate your children to become talents, you must seize the time from an early age. Children must not be allowed to waste time in the "game".
2、
Man has no ambition
To become a talent, a person needs to make an ambition first. Because
The ocean of knowledge is boundless, and you have to find your way forward before you can dock quickly.
Unless it is a genius, "erudition is difficult to be multi-talented". To make children understand what they like to do, they have to work hard all the time. Jobs said:
Simple, focused, you will succeed.
3. Self-study effect is better
Teachers often say:
A person's active learning is twenty-seven times more efficient than passive learning.
As long as you are interested, you can learn it well. Don't put a knife on your child's neck and force him to learn badly.
4, being a person is a university question
"If you want to learn to be a writer, first learn to be a person",
This is standard Confucianism. Only when a person knows how to behave in the world and has insight into human feelings and sophistication, can he have a deep understanding of book knowledge, and can he achieve "human sentiment training is an article"!
5. I like to learn from the bottom of my heart
Cultivate children's interest in learning,
Let children treat learning as a game, take the exam as a competition, and take the exam ranking as the ranking of the glory of the king.
He realized that learning is no more difficult than playing.
6. Love and communication
When the child does not want to learn, do not force him, but should carefully guide him. Lead him from play to learning. Put down your parents' stature and chat more with your children.
Second, Cai Xiaowan and his six children
Cai Xiaowan was born in 1941 in Ruian, Zhejiang Province, and his father was a doctor at that time. Cai Xiaowan was later admitted to a key high school, but was brushed off for various reasons.
Unable to go to school, he found his own high school books and ended up teaching himself.
First as a doctor, then as a university math teacher.
Cai Xiaowan and his wife have always attached great importance to preschool education.
In the 1980s, their family was very poor, and the family was crammed into a small house of 20 square meters, and the room kept leaking water as soon as it rained. In this case, he insisted on the wall of the room, plastered with portraits of Marie Curie, Einstein and Edison. In order to let these celebrities appear in the lives of children, always serve as role models, and inspire them to become talents.
Before Cai Xiaowan became a university teacher, he inherited his father's medical skills and became a well-known local doctor. In the mid-to-late 1980s, when the family's income was increasingly large, he desperately bought books for his children. He likes to buy some like
"100,000 Whys", "5,000 Years Up and Down"
, as well as books on the introduction of ancient Chinese scientific knowledge for children.
These books are written in a simple and simple way, which not only enriches the children's knowledge, but also entertains the children's body and mind.
Among Cai Xiaowan's six children, four of them "skipped" to further their education. This is not an accidental phenomenon, but should be closely related to his words and deeds. Once when he was on "Lu Yu has a date", the host Lu Yu once asked him one thing, that is:
Cai Tianrun, Cai Xiaowan's fourth child, once aspired to become a monk at the Shaolin Temple during his middle school years.
The boyhood of the fourth Cai Tianrun is the era when Chinese mainland martial arts movies are rampant. Many young teenagers, like Cai Tianrun, do not want to study, and dream of going to the Shaolin Temple to learn martial arts when they grow up. Cai Tianrun wrote on a note: I don't want to study, I want to learn martial arts at the Shaolin Temple and defend the country. Lu Yu asked Cai Xiaowan if he was anxious when he saw the performance of the fourth elder. Cai Xiaowan smiled and said: "I must be in a hurry!" Because the reading atmosphere at home was very strong, everyone read, so he didn't read.
However, Cai Xiaowan did not take a tough attitude in the face of the naughtiness of the fourth elder.
He believes that the correct guidance of children, just like Dayu Zhishui, should only be sparse, not blocked.
Therefore, Cai Xiaowan really sent his son to the Shaolin Temple.
Cai Tianrun went to take a look, only to find that the real Xi Wu was not what he imagined, and finally obediently went home.
Cai Xiaowan said: There are tens of millions of ways to become a material, there are some children who can't study, if they can learn martial arts and become Jackie Chan and Jet Li, then what is so bad? Therefore, sometimes the child is too sharp, parents should not be hard, should first let the child do a thing, let him judge for himself, whether to continue.
epilogue
The last time Cai Xiaowan appeared in front of the public was in 2010. This year, he is 79 years old. Five sons and one daughter, all mature, he also happened to retire at home, including yi to play with his grandson.
In fact, when it comes to parents' education of their children, the most important thing is to lead by example. Cai Xiaowan himself is a "self-taught strong general", he was admitted to a key high school that year, because of various problems after being brushed off, he has been insisting on hard self-study after returning home. Later, when I became a teacher, the whole family was wrapped in the atmosphere of books. In such an environment, children can naturally become talents.
Of Cai's six children, the eldest son, second son and youngest daughter all work in the United States.
The eldest son, Cai Tiantian, is a "tenured professor" at the University of Pennsylvania, and the youngest daughter, Cai Tianxi, is a "tenured professor" at Harvard University. The second eldest, Cai Tianwu, was a vice president of Goldman Sachs in the United States, and is currently starting his own business. The third and fourth elders of the Cai family have graduated from the doctorate, given up studying in the United States, and stayed in China, and the fifth is a master' degree.
Cai Xiaowan laughed at the outside world and called himself "Confucius", and judging from the success rate of his personal education, he was indeed very proud!