What if a child can play with adults but can't play with their peers?

Many parents feedback that their children are happy when they play games with their parents at home, and they also have good interaction with their parents. But in the playground or kindergarten, when you see other children playing games, you will only watch from a distance. Even if they are encouraged to join, they will not be able to play with other children.

Why?

01, what is the difference

First of all, we need to analyze what is the difference between "playing with adults" and "playing with children".

First, play with adults. The rules of the game are set by us, and the initiators are also us.

Let's recall that when we play with children, is it that in most cases, the rules of the game are formulated by us, the active initiator is also us, and the child only needs to follow our guidance? When there is a problem in the game, we will also lead the child to solve it.

Second, play with the children. Children first need to actively join the game, and even lead the game, tell the rules, and assign tasks.

When playing with other children, children first need to take the initiative to join the game. When a companion makes a request, it is also possible to respond appropriately. At the same time, it is also necessary to be able to adapt to changes in the rules of the game and negotiate with peers to solve problems when encountering problems. You even need to dominate the game, tell the rules, and assign tasks.

Although it is all play, it can still be seen that "playing with children" requires much more skills than "playing with adults".

02, how to transition

So what can we do to help children make a smooth transition to peer play?

1. Role switching. Encourage your child to dominate the game.

First, pay attention to role switching. When the child can play well under our leadership, we can switch roles and encourage the child to lead the game. For example, when playing the game "What time is the wolf and the wolf", the child can play the role of the wolf. Children need to tell us where to stand, what to do, and tell us the rules of the game.

2. Deliberately making mistakes. Exercise your child's problem-solving skills.

At the same time, in the process of playing the game, we can also deliberately make mistakes or disobey the child's arrangement, giving the child the opportunity to solve the problem. For example: roll the dice to 5, we need to take 5 steps, but deliberately take 6 steps. See how the child solves it.

3. Step by step. It needs to go through a process from assist to removal.

It should be noted that even if the child can dominate the game when playing with us, when he enters the peer environment, we still have to go through the process from assist to removal. For example, when a child wants to join a game and does not know how to communicate with his peers, we can take the child to join the game together, and we can also help the child prepare some fun toys to attract the interest of the peers. When the child encounters difficulties in the game and cannot solve it independently, we also need to help the child solve it. Slowly, when faced with some problems, we can wait and observe appropriately to see if the child will solve it by himself, if we can, then we can safely and boldly let him play with the child.