"The Legend of the Eagle Shooter" Revelation: How to Protect Sun Zhuo

Recently, the abduction and trafficking of Sun Zhuo in Yanggu County, Liaocheng City, Shandong Province, has aroused the continuous attention of public opinion.

What makes many people happy is that the attitude of sun zhuo, the party, has gradually undergone many changes.

When he first learned of his death, Sun Zhuo did not choose to return to his own parents, but decided to continue to live and study in Liaocheng, and he said that his feelings for his "adoptive parents" had not changed, he had not hated his "adoptive parents", and if the "adoptive parents" were sentenced, he would be very angry.

Sun Zhuo's biological father, Sun Haiyang, showed great wisdom and patience in handling this matter. On the one hand, he and the whole family used a grand welcome ceremony and heartfelt love to gradually impress Sun Zhuo and awaken the temporarily sealed blood and kinship; on the other hand, he gave Sun Zhuo time to adjust and adapt, and agreed that Sun Zhuo would temporarily return to Liaocheng to continue his work and study.

But at the same time, on the issue of principle, Sun Haiyang did not infinitely accommodate Sun Zhuo, and he firmly rejected the proposal to coexist peacefully with Sun Zhuo's so-called "adoptive parents" and demanded that his legal responsibility be investigated.

According to online sources, Sun Zhuo's "pseudo-parents" are now admitted to the hospital and one is criminally detained. Sun Zhuo has also made a big change, willing to go to Shenzhen with his biological parents to study, and the Sun family is currently actively handling its transfer.

After Sun Zhuo, who has been abducted and sold for 14 years, there have been some virgins on the Internet calling for not to embarrass Sun Zhuo, calling for understanding Sun Zhuo's feelings for his "adoptive parents", calling on everyone to respect Sun Zhuo's choice, and even thinking that Sun Zhuo's "adoptive parents" should be forgiven.

At the beginning, Sun Zhuo was unwilling to return to his biological parents and did not want to accept the punishment of the law by his pseudo-parents, and some netizens criticized Sun Zhuo's behavior as a thief as a father.

A big V wrote an article because of this, arguing that netizens should not criticize Sun Zhuo. He took Yang Kang in "The Legend of the Eagle Shooter" as an example, thinking that it was normal for Yang Kang to have feelings for Yan Honglie, who raised him, and it would be good to kill Yan Honglie and let Guo Jing kill him, so why bother Yang Kang?

I don't think this analogy is appropriate, because everyone did not ask Sun Zhuo to take the initiative to send the pseudo-parents to the Public Security Bureau, but everyone just thought that he should not take the initiative to protect the "pseudo-parents" and should not ask the biological parents to forgive the "pseudo-parents".

If you really want to make an analogy, this is probably equivalent to Yang Tiexin wanting to kill Yan Honglie, and Yan Kang will not hesitate to stab Yang Tiexin in the mouth in order to protect Yan Honglie.

Isn't this a confession of a thief as a father?

Some people say: Yang Kang is innocent, you should not hurt Yang Kang.

However, what did you ask Guo Jing and Yang Tiexin, as well as the onlookers, to do so as not to hurt Yang Kang?

As long as we simply deduce it, we will find that as long as Yang Kang still regards himself as a complete Yan Kang, as long as the finished Yan Kang still regards Yan Honglie as the "adoptive father", as long as the finished Yan Kang cannot give up the deformed feelings with the "adoptive father", any demand for justice will inevitably "hurt" the finished Yan Kang in the end.

Some people say, don't let Yang Kang kill Yan Honglie, let Guo Jing kill it?

I think so.

If Yan Kang still regards Yan Honglie as his adoptive father in his heart, if Guanyan Kang still has deep feelings for Yan Honglie, will you let Guo Jing kill his adoptive father, which will not cause serious "harm" to Guanyan Kang?

If Yan Kang intervened to stop Guo Jing and asked Guo Jing to spare his adoptive father, then did Guo Jing agree or not? If Guo Jing did not agree, would it "hurt" Yan Kang?

In the face of Yan Kang's request, if Guo Jing refutes it and tells Yan Kang that his behavior belongs to "confessing to being a thief as a father", then should we accuse Guo Jing of not being considerate of Finishing Yan Kang? Should Guo Jing be accused of "hurting" Yan Kang?

Well, in order not to hurt "Finish Yan Kang", Guo Jing decided not to care about what was right and wrong, not to kill Yan Honglie, what about Yang Tiexin?

If The family who was killed by Yan Honglie was separated from his wife, and Yang Tiexin, who had a feud with Yan Honglie, wanted to kill Yan Honglie, wouldn't that also be a "harm" to Yan Kang?

If in the face of Yan Kang's obstruction, Yang Tie said to Yan Kang in pain that you are a thief as a father, should we accuse Yang Tiexin of "hurting" Yan Kang?

What are we going to do? In order to protect Yan Kang from being hurt, ask Yang Tiexin not to repay this blood sea deep revenge? Unrealistic, right?

Well, in order not to "hurt" Yan Kang, Yang Tiexin knocked down his teeth and swallowed into his stomach, not to repay this bloody sea of deep revenge. So what if Yan Honglie didn't let Go of Yang Tiexin?

After looking at what Yan Honglie did to the Yang family, can you expect such a vicious person to suddenly change his sex and share Bao Xi weak and finish Yan Kang with Yang Tiexin? What if Yan Honglie used Yan Kang to hurt Yang Tiexin again? At that time, in the face of the conflict between the "adoptive father" and the biological father, how could Yan Kang not be harmed?

We take ten thousand steps back, even if Yan Honglie also turns sexual, both sides are not going to kill each other, then Yang Kang will not be in pain? The biological father and the "adoptive father" do not share the same heavenly enemy, and the "adoptive father" harms the biological father's family, the wife is separated, how do you let him usually deal with the relationship between the two sides? How do you let him get rid of the pain and entanglement of this feeling in this life?

As long as he chooses to continue to do Yan Kang, he will suffer for a lifetime no matter what.

The only way to help him get rid of his pain is to help him completely get rid of the deformed and wrong feelings of Yan Honglie, and help him truly complete the transformation from Yan Kang to Yang Kang.

As long as he can't get rid of it, he is doomed to suffering.

Many people do not understand a simple truth:

The real source of Yang Kang's suffering, the main culprit that makes Yang Kang continue to suffer emotional torture and mental harm, is Yan Honglie, not Guo Jing and Yang Tiexin.

The emotional torture and mental harm that children are forced to experience when they are rescued after years of abduction are part of the harm caused by the crime of trafficking.

The emotional dependence of trafficked children on pseudo-parents is actually a Stockholm syndrome.

Stockholm syndrome is a phenomenon in which kidnapped hostages develop feelings for robbers, think that gangsters are good people, and even be grateful to them.

Why is this happening?

After the hostages were kidnapped by the kidnappers, all freedoms and rights were stripped away by the kidnappers. All the needs of the hostages depend on the "gifts" of the kidnappers. If you want to drink water, you need to be given by the kidnapper; if you want to eat, you need the kidnapper to give; if you want to go to the toilet, you need the kidnapper to give; even if you just want not to be abused, you need the kidnapper to give.

As a result, some people regard the "gift" of the kidnapper as a kind of kindness, as the kidnapper is good to himself, and then become emotionally dependent on the gang, believing that the kidnapper is a good person.

He forgot that all this was what he deserved, that the gang had forcibly deprived them and then "given" them.

The same is true of trafficked children.

From childhood to adulthood, he ate with pseudo-parents, and he mistakenly thought that pseudo-parents had nurturing grace for him. But in fact, he already had these things, and it was the pseudo-parents who deprived him of what he deserved and gave them to him.

The emotional dependence of trafficked children on pseudo-parents, like the hostages' emotional dependence on their kidnappers, is a deformed pathological emotion that needs to be corrected rather than condoned.

If Yang Kang no longer suffers and if Sun Zhuo is not continuously hurt in the future, the only and fundamental way is to let them truly distinguish between right and wrong through psychological counseling and emotional correction, so that they can truly understand that there is not only no so-called "nurturing grace" between themselves and their pseudo-parents, but also deep hatred.

Only by allowing them to completely cut off and get rid of the deformed and wrong "family affection" and get rid of the pathological emotional dependence on the pseudo-parents can they be truly liberated.

Otherwise, no matter how they choose, they will be tormented by entanglement and pain for the rest of their lives.

Feelings are not unbreakable, not unchangeable, not uncorrectable.

How is Stockholm syndrome treated for trafficked children?

First of all, we must resolutely cut off their ties with their pseudo-parents, avoid them from continuing to be brainwashed and deceived by their pseudo-parents, avoid them from becoming hostages in the hands of pseudo-parents, and use them as a bargaining chip to bargain with their biological parents, and even escape the punishment of the law.

Let the child stay with the biological parents, let time gradually awaken the flesh and blood affection sealed by the years in the blood, and rebuild the feelings with the biological parents. Psychological counseling for children, slowly explain the reason to children, let them recognize the evil face of pseudo-parents, get rid of that wrong Stockholm plot, and help children achieve spiritual awakening.

Only in this way can the child be truly spiritually saved, and can he truly get rid of that ethical dilemma and emotional pain.

What needs to be emphasized is that in this process, the law and public opinion must not be absent, let alone deviate.

Human emotions are not static, they can be changed and corrected.

Human emotions are deeply influenced and influenced by traditions, customs, public opinion, morals and values.

Law and public opinion play an extremely important role in the emotional direction of rescued children.

If our laws choose not to act on the crimes of pseudo-parents, if our public opinion endlessly instills in children's ears such as "This is your adoptive parent", "It is normal to have feelings with your adoptive parents", "The grace of parenting cannot be forgotten", "Let Yang Kang hate Yan Honglie is hate education", and even preach that "it is inhumane for abducted children to hope to severely punish their adoptive parents", then the child's Stockholm syndrome will probably only become more and more serious, and the child will probably never be able to get rid of emotional entanglement and spiritual pain in the future.

On the contrary, if our law severely punishes the crimes of pseudo-parents, if our public opinion makes Sun Zhuo clear and reasonable, lets him understand that the so-called "adoptive parents" are actually criminals who buy and sell human beings, and are bad people who harm him and his biological parents, let him understand that emotional dependence on pseudo-parents is a pathology and mistake, and let him understand that standing on the side of pseudo-parents instead of his own parents is to admit thieves as fathers, then the child's Stockholm syndrome has the hope of being completely cured.

Getting the child out of this pathological emotion is a painful process.

This suffering is part of the harm caused by the criminal act of child trafficking, not the harm inflicted on the child by the child's biological parents.

We must be as considerate as possible with the child, we must give the child the maximum time, and we must minimize the child's pain.

But this in no way means that we have to give in on the principled issue of right and wrong, that we must continue to indulge our children in pathological and wrong emotions, and that we must abandon the treatment of Stockholm syndrome in our children.

We must tell our children clearly, unambiguously: Your false parents are evildoers who have lost their conscience, they have no nurturing evil to you, only blood and deep hatred, if you choose to defend them and hurt your biological parents, it is to confess thieves as fathers!

As for the virgins on the Internet who are full of compassion, I just want to say one thing:

If your child has been abducted and you choose to forgive the pseudo-parents, choose to accept the child and treat the pseudo-parent as an adoptive parent, or even accept that your own child and the pseudo-parent continue to live together, then you are the Virgin.

But if someone else's child is abducted and you ask others to forgive the pseudo-parents, ask others to accept that the child regards the pseudo-parents as adoptive parents, or even accept that your own children and the pseudo-parents continue to live together, then you are a virgin with a purity of 24K!

Finally, congratulations to Sun Zhuo for finally returning to his biological parents!

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