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Watching "The Legend of the Archery Hero", the time point of the heroine Huang Rong appeared relatively late, and the first impressive thing was Yang Kang's mother Bao Xiweak, because this weak and kind woman led to the tragic fate of the Guo Yang family. I saw that some netizens said that everything Bao Xiweak did felt that he had done nothing wrong, but he felt wrong.
In fact, in order to survive, the choices made by individuals in the torrent of life are not right or wrong, only whether they are suitable in the moment, whether they can have a better life. From this point of view, Bao Xi weak did not do anything wrong? But judging from the results, Bao Xi weak is a tragedy, not only to make himself tragic, but also to bring his children.
In the TV series, many details are not reflected, but back in the novel, many details can see the changes in Bao Xi's weak heart.
The peaceful life of the Guo Yang family was disrupted on a snowy night, and many years later, Bao Xi weakly realized that it was not an accident, nor was it a disaster caused by the two men fighting unevenly, but because of her, she saved a person. This person is Yan Honglie.
Before watching the TV series many times, I felt that Bao Xi was weaker than Jin Jian went with Yang Kang's biological father, and this time I reread the novel, I felt that she was more of a guilt, and I felt ashamed of the Guo Yang family, and only by going with her husband was a relief.
Bao Xiweak is a very kind woman, her kindness has neither strength nor sharpness, just like in reality we often say that the good people are abused. There is nothing wrong with kindness, but kindness loses judgment and loses reason, and it is likely to become a soft knife. Her tragedy began with kindness.
If Bao Xiweak found out that the injured Yan Honglie, did not know who he was, would instinctively want to save him, this is not wrong, but then she did not tell her husband, concealed this matter, it is her fault. As can be seen in the novel, this concealed action, she actively chose to do so.
The finished Yan Honglie in the TV series does not have much appearance, but in the novel is also a young man, not to say that Bao Xi is weak at a glance to empathize with others, but to say that he is injured in front of his eyes, and the teenager with good looks does make Bao Xi weak and has a good feeling, so she does not want to tell her husband, subconsciously afraid that her husband will hurt this person.
Her kindness knows no boundaries, so she neither questions the identity of the man who was injured late at night, nor is she aware of the dangers of danger. If, the next day, when she found out that the man was gone, tell her husband about this matter, with Yang Tiexin's thoughts, it is very likely that they will move away from the current place.
Unfortunately, there are no ifs in life, only the present moment that is underway. At the moment, yan Honglie met a woman who made him fall in love at first sight when his life was at its most critical, so he did not hesitate to have her at all costs.
Is this love? No, it is just a realization of possessiveness, and true love will not pick flowers, but will only appreciate and water and moisturize.
From this point of view, Bao Xi weak could not escape the love network that Yan Honglie had painstakingly woven. Yes, Bao Xi weak can't escape, in fact, she has the opportunity to escape, but her personality determines that she can't escape at all. On the surface, Bao Xi is weak because of the weakness and lack of opinion in her personality, in fact, when she and Yang Tiexin separated, there was a change in her heart, and this change affected her emotions and also affected every decision she made in the future.
The fates of Yang Kang and Guo Jing are different because the two mothers have different ways of education, and the two mothers have different moods from the beginning. Guo Jing's mother Li Ping is watching her husband die tragically in order to let them leave safely, that grief and hatred can not be eliminated for many years, this emotion into strength, support Li Ping to live, and from childhood to tell her son Guo Jing, so that Guo Jing from childhood is very clear sense of love and hate.
And Bao Xi is weak, why she is not so hateful, not that her personality is not as strong as Li Ping, but that she and Li Ping are experiencing the same thing, and the result is that different feelings will not be the same. It is written very clearly in the novel that Yang Tiexin has taken Bao Xiweak and prepared to leave on horseback, and as a result, seeing that the eldest brother Guo Xiaotian died tragically to protect them, what he thought at this time was that he must save the eldest brother's wife and children, and there can be no more accidents, even if he abandons his wife and children, this is how righteous and thin it is, but for Bao Xiweak, what a thin feeling.
Bao Xi weakly looked at the people who protected themselves and went to save others, and he instantly became a lonely and lonely person, with a feeling of leaning against the wall and falling against the wall. Don't laugh at this idea of Bao Xi weak, this is not selfishness, but the real feeling of a person when he is isolated and helpless in danger, even if he understands his husband's approach, but the feeling of being abandoned is still very cold and uncomfortable.
Who gave Bao Xi weak warmth, is the end of Yan Honglie. Since Yan Honglie saved Bao Xi weak, Bao Xi Weak was repeatedly forced by the objective situation, seemingly unable to do expedient measures, followed Yan Honglie back to the palace to live temporarily, in fact, from her heart, there may be a subconscious feeling that only this man in this world can rely on, because he will not hurt her.
Bao Xiweak's father is a teaching gentleman, although not everyone's bridesmaid, but also by his father's reading, has a delicate emotional need, Yang Tiexin is a person who learns martial arts after all, and Yan Honglie's careful care for Bao Xiweak is irresistible to Bao Xiweak.
It can be said that Bao Xiweak rejected Yan Honglie, but she has been living in the palace and is known as the princess. In her emotional world, there is also a place for Yan Honglie, not her abusive feelings, but her character weakness, resulting in her hesitation in her feelings, in the treatment of people and things, it seems that she is a victim, has been in a passive choice, in fact, everything she has caused.
The biggest tragedy of Bao Xiweak is that she has brought her son Yang Kang, who has never told Yang Kang about her origins, which can also be explained from another angle that she accepted Yan Honglie. The father, who had been shouting for more than ten years, suddenly told Yang Kang one day that this was not a biological father or an enemy, and from the perspective of human nature, it was normal for Yang Kang not to accept it.
After combing through Bao Xi's weak feelings, you will find that she is very much like in reality, those who hesitate and waver in their feelings, it seems that they can't bear to refuse, afraid of hurting others, and the results are all hurt, and they still feel very wronged.
It is said that do not be abusive good people in the workplace, and the same is true in feelings, and indiscriminate good people cannot be done.
In the feeling of not knowing to refuse when refusing, hesitating when the boundary is drawn, the essence behind it is that she does not know the needs of the heart, just like Bao Xi weak for a long time, she herself can not figure out what her needs are, and she does not have a good sense of boundaries, even if others have crossed the line, they do not know themselves, and even ignore some principled things, blur the boundaries, only see the sheepskin can not see, or do not look at the wolf heart inside.
In this way, Bao Xiweak seems to have done a lot wrong, no matter whether it is right or wrong, she cannot escape the fate of tragedy after all.
Remember, kindness should be sharp, and feelings should not be abusive good people.
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