The tragedy of Mu Nianci in "The Legend of the Archery Hero" is not to meet Yang Kang but to change a person's obsession

Yi said that the gathering place for women's growth, may you not wear armor, you can resist thousands of life is not easy, welcome attention.

Did Mu Nianci's tragedy all his life because of Yang Kang? Like the misfortune of commenting on women in reality, whether it is not to meet a good person, to pay the heart wrongly, or to shed tears after marriage are all the water in the brain at the beginning.

The law of attraction in psychology is very effective in relationships, that is to say, the people you meet, or the people you can have feelings with, are all for a reason, are attracted by some of their own needs, so if you want to change, you need to start from yourself.

Or back to Mu Nianci, for Yang Kang, the two women who love him the most in this world are his mother and wife. The mother is Bao Xi weak, interested small partners can move three brushes "The Legend of the Archery Hero" Bao Xi Weak did what wrong? Don't be a good person in your feelings, your wife is Mu Nianci. Pity for the weak, read kindness, the name seems to imply fate in the dark.

Yes, from a certain point of view, Bao Xiweak and Mu Nianci have a lot in common, so when Yang Kang treats Mu Nianci, he can always grasp Mu Nianci's mind just right, so that Mu Nianci can't stop loving. Is it also very similar, the end of Yan Honglie to Bao Pity weak.

It can be said that Yang Kang and Yan Honglie are very aware of the weaknesses of Mu Nianci and Bao Xi's weak personality, so they can also let the development direction of things firmly grasp in their own hands, let the woman they love deeply entangled in contradictions, and cannot break free of the love network and cannot make active choices.

However, Yang Kang truly loved Mu Nianci, which was never doubted, but from the perspective of righteousness, the gulf between the two of them was very deep, and it could also be said that the three views were inconsistent. Originally, two people with inconsistent three views could not go together, but Mu Nianci had an obsession, that is, to bind love and change, thinking that using love can change each other and make each other's prodigal son turn back.

So, does love really have such a magical power? Looking at it, yang kang, after knowing his lineage, under the joint action of family feud and love, did make a choice, he went out of the palace to be the poor Yang Kang. However, the cruelty of reality comes quickly, and a person who has been pampered since childhood without any life experience can easily be defeated by five buckets of rice, and soon cannot bear to fall into the dust of contempt.

When Yang Kang was frustrated by the change, Mu Nianci did not know how to help Yang Kang, except for bitter persuasion, she did not know that the most useless thing in this world was reasoning, obviously Yang Kang was beaten in the face by the cruel reality, but she wanted to tell him that this was your life.

Here is not to excuse Yang Kang, his problems have always been, and it is not worthy of sympathy, but from the perspective of lovers getting along, Mu Nianci's obsession and inaction have not promoted their relationship, but made the relationship more contradictory and entangled, and they are in trouble.

If Mu Nianci can clearly see this relationship, the two people cannot come together because of the difference in the three views and because of the difference in identity positions, then at least she will not live in contradiction and entanglement for the rest of her life. The biggest tragedy of her life is not to meet Yang Kang, nor is it that Yang Kang has mistakenly paid her true heart, but that she always wants to change each other with love, become obsessed, and also turn into delusion.

Much like some girls in reality, in love, discover each other's problems, find problems in the relationship, always think of solving problems by changing each other, and link the degree of change of the other party with the depth of love.

How much the other party has changed for me, that is, how deeply they love me;

What kind of person the other party was, compromised and gave in for me, that is, loved me;

The other party gave up some things for me, that is, to love me;

So, what about the other way around? Does not change, do not compromise, do not give up is not love?

Indeed, the process of falling in love is when two people attract to each other and then run into each other, and finally get along. In this process, there are changes, compromises, and concessions, but these are their own active choices, not sacrifices made for the sake of the other party or feelings that are passive.

As long as it is not their own active choice, there will be grievances and knots, which will become the weight of two people calculating the weight of love. For Mu Nianci, she had always expected Yang Kang's change, giving up the glory and wealth of the royal palace, and living an ordinary life with her, but she had never thought about what Yang Kang really wanted.

In the end, Yang Kang did not change, Mu Nianci's disappointment reached its peak, but she still loved Yang Kang, they also married, putting aside all external factors, in the hearts of both of them, they recognized each other's identity, that is, husband and wife.

Perhaps in Mu Nianci's view, as long as Yang Kang does yang kang, the biggest obstacle between them will be lifted, but she has not thought that according to Yang Kang's life experience from childhood to adulthood, being an ordinary couple and her street art is not the life that the other party wants.

Everyone who wants to change their partner mostly only identifies with their own judgment in their hearts, and never thinks too much about how the other person feels. Therefore, no one can succeed and will be disappointed in love. Throughout his life, Mu Nianci may not have thought about it, thinking that he had paid wrong.

The beauty of love is not that it can change each other, but that it can affect each other. In stark contrast to Mu Nianci is Huang Rong, and next time we can talk about Huang Rong and Guo Jing.

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