Recently, a video of a hot pot restaurant in Taiwan's New Taipei City triggered many people to watch and discuss.
On November 29, a couple dined at a hot pot restaurant and somehow got into an argument.
The man was momentarily out of control, pressing the woman's head hard and pressing it into the hot pot. The woman screamed in panic... The picture is very shocking.
After the clerk called the police, the man picked up the bag and left.
Later, when police and ambulance arrived, the woman refused to reveal the identity of the violent man, insisting it was a misunderstanding.
It is difficult for everyone to understand, but it is also emotional:
"Whoever is right and who is wrong should not be so out of control and hurt others."
In life, we will encounter various setbacks and problems, and emotional fluctuations are inevitable. But no matter how bad the situation is, you must calm down and deal with it, and rescue yourself from negative emotions in time.
Emotions are demons, and if you don't control them, they devour you.
Learning to control emotions is a compulsory course for adults.
If you can't control your emotions, you will be swallowed up by emotions
The author Liu Na said:
"Emotion is a gun, and when we pull the trigger on emotion, we will find that the muzzle of the gun is actually aimed at ourselves."
One thought of heaven, one thought of hell. If a person can't manage his emotions well, it is easy to make a big mistake.
Recently, there was a news on Weibo, which was very deplorable.
Ms. Li of Wuhan, Hubei Province, is a mother of two children, with a daughter of 10 years old and a son of 7 years old. On November 29, Ms. Li tutored her son with homework until late at night.
During this time, the son resisted a few words.
The two immediately had a fierce argument, and Ms. Li suddenly had an emotional breakdown, lost her mind, rushed into the kitchen, picked up a kitchen knife and scratched her son.
Fortunately, the daughter stopped her mother at the first time and called the police. The police arrived in time, and the son received timely treatment and was out of danger to his life.
Calming down, Ms. Li regretted hurting her child, and then her emotions spiraled out of control again, and she eventually hanged herself.
In this tragedy, multiple emotions and pressures are intertwined, and the inability to let go is the root cause of the tragedy. When encountering things, deal with emotions first, deal with things later, and if emotions are not handled well, it is an abyss.
You know, problems can bring emotions, but emotions don't solve the problem. When things are only cathartic, they often do not help, and even make things more chaotic and uncontrollable.
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Emotional outbursts are an instinct, but being able to properly control emotions is a skill. If emotions are not controlled, he is a flood beast that will devour all goodness and happiness.
Only by controlling emotions can we control life
Napoleon said that he who can control his emotions is greater than taking a city. Only when people go forward, suffering will go backwards.
Choose to be the master of your emotions, so that you will not be swayed by emotions.
Last year, I saw a video. Mr. Liu, who lives in Zhengzhou, is permanently stationed in a foreign country because of his work, and rents a house in an old residential area. After returning to his residence on a long business trip, Mr. Liu found an extra bag of garbage at the door. He didn't go to his heart, and he threw the garbage into the garbage can downstairs. Subsequently, Mr. Liu returned to Zhengzhou for a week.
When his career was hindered and his family was sick, he dragged his tired body back to his residence and found that there was garbage piled up at the door. Mr. Liu was immediately angry, but after calming down for a minute or two, he still controlled his emotions. Pick up the trash and get ready to throw it away. At this time, Ms. Li, who was facing the door, came out and she said:
"I see that you have not been at home for a long time, and the people in our community are multi-eyed, and they put garbage in front of your house so as not to attract thieves." Mr. Liu quickly thanked him and thought to himself: If you get angry before things are clear, won't you be wronged?
As the saying goes, "Peace of mind is wise, and wisdom is accomplished." ”
If a person is unable to control his emotions, even if he has great ability, it is futile. Controlling emotions is a kind of cultivation, but also an attitude towards life.
Li Jing, a famous host, resigned to start a business when CCTV was a little famous, bearing millions of foreign debts. At first, she faced various difficulties, to pull investment, find customers, make plans, often until late at night, without any clue, physically and mentally exhausted.
On difficult days, she had been drunk and had collapsed and cried.
However, as soon as she arrived at the door, she let go of her emotions and faced her family with a smile. Today, her career has stabilized and she has become a winner in her life.
People who are emotionally stable can calmly face various problems, not afraid of other people's words, not afraid of the world, and firmly follow their own path. In this life, emotions determine mentality, and mentality determines life.
Don't be trapped in the heart, don't be chaotic, and control your emotions well, in order to control life.
People who have the ability have long since quit their emotions
Once, Baidu President Robin Li was giving a speech on the stage.
Suddenly, a man rushed up and poured a bottle of mineral water off Robin Li's head.
Robin Li was poured out of his heart, but he did not get angry. He wiped the water from his head with his hand, calmed his emotions, and continued his speech:
"You can see that on the way forward, there will still be all kinds of unexpected things happening." Then, the scene erupted into warm applause. Then, Robin Li finished the remaining half-hour speech in soaked clothes.
As the saying goes: The weak are easily reduced to the slaves of emotions; the strong have long since quit their emotions. If you don't control your emotions, you will be blinded by emotions and lose your judgment; and controlling your emotions will keep your mind clear and calm at all times. In the book Douluo Continent, it is written:
"A truly strong person must first learn to control himself, especially his breath and emotions." The really powerful person is not without emotions, but he knows that the goal is more important than the emotion. No temper, not innate, but the responsibility on the shoulders overrides everything.
They understand that getting angry and throwing tantrums is about punishing themselves for other people's mistakes, and often the gains outweigh the losses.
Nietzsche said:
"The way to be free is to learn self-control. If the emotion is always out of control, it will be led by the emotion and lose freedom. ”
Emotions are a double-edged sword, hurting others and hurting themselves.
A mature person must be a person who can control his emotions well, and at any time, he can face life calmly.
For the rest of your life, please manage your emotions, be the master of emotions, and get the initiative in life.
Author: Xue Lao'er, original manuscript for readers.