My name is Qiao Jie (pseudonym), I am 29 years old this year, and I see that I am about to enter the ranks of 30 years old, but I have not yet made a boyfriend who is serious, and I am very anxious.
In fact, before this, I had also been in love several times, but after the other party and I were together for a while, they finally proposed to break up with me.
I have a fairly good condition, a stable job, and a good look, but I don't know why, they are not willing to continue to associate with me.
My parents also nagged in front of me all the time, saying that if I didn't fall in love and get married, I would become an old girl, and I also wanted to meet a man who suited me sooner, but I couldn't find it.
Now it's the end of the year again, my feelings are still not settled, I am really distressed, am I not the type of man in the eyes of the like?
This is a private message sent by a netizen, from which you can feel that she is very helpless and anxious.
Yes, every woman hopes to meet a perfect love, but true love is difficult to find after all. Many times, obviously the two get along quite well, but in the end the man chooses to leave, and when the girl wants to save, the other party will also show the mentality of avoiding and fleeing.
This makes many girls do not understand, their own conditions are still reasonable, even better than each other's conditions, but why is no man willing to continue to associate with themselves?
Today I will summarize with you, what kind of women do men not like to associate with? These three types of women discourage men.
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The first is a woman who is particularly dependent.
If a woman is particularly dependent, she will entrust everything she has to the other party when she is in love, whether it is at work or in life, she will be overly dependent on the other party.
Some women will also feel that two people are in love, and men should protect and take care of women, which is the one thing that makes women feel happiest.
But she never thought that she should use the same love to give back to the other party, only to enjoy being loved and cared for, but she never thought that she should also give the same love.
Such happiness is only for you alone, and over time, any man will feel tired. Coupled with the fact that the pressure of life is so great now, he still has to think about you everywhere, and under the pressure, he will of course choose to escape from you.
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The second type is a woman who is obedient to her boyfriend.
Many people will think that men like docile women, so some women in love, because they love each other too much, in order to get each other's happiness, they try to make themselves a gentle and obedient little woman.
In fact, such an idea is also wrong. Because men like each other to be obedient to themselves when they are in love, but this obedience is only limited to the beginning of love.
After getting along for a long time, your obedience will become a burden to him, after all, no one can succeed in a relationship.
In the case that he has not yet determined whether he has the confidence to stay with you for a lifetime, your kindness to him will only make him feel guilty in his heart, and he does not know how to face your good, so he finally chooses to leave.
There is a saying to you that anything that goes too far will be counterproductive.
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The third, selfish, petite woman.
We often hear the term "princess disease", which is typical of princess disease in this type of woman. Usually when getting along with boyfriends, they always want to get each other's attention.
In their hearts, they always think that it is natural for their boyfriend to care for her, so once the boyfriend does not do what they expect one day, she will lose her temper with the boyfriend.
If the two of them quarreled because of this, she would make an endless fuss until the other party bowed her head and confessed her mistake, and she would not give up, otherwise no one would think about it that day.
In short, this type of woman usually wants more, wants you to listen to her for everything, what time you have to come to see her every weekend, etc.
Such a delicate and sloppy personality, not a man wants to change can change, not to mention that love is two people equal payment, no one wants to play a slave in front of each other, you say right?
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Of course, I am not saying that when in love, women should not rely on men, should not be too good to men, but say that nothing can be overdone, because women who do everything too extremely often make each other fearful, when men have fear in their hearts, they will naturally choose to flee.
Therefore, if you want to firmly tie a man's heart, you must also know some love skills, have your own opinion in the relationship, not humble, and have a degree in everything, so that men can really fall in love with you.