A few days ago, a video of a mother practicing with Meng wa went viral. In the video, Meng Wa made a mistake during the practice of the piano and was criticized by her mother, but Meng Wa "taught" her mother to be gentle in reverse.
The conversation between Meng Wa and her mother is as follows
Meng wa: I think you should still be gentle
Mom: Well, but what if you keep playing wrong?
Meng Wa: Always play wrong, you gently tell me, baby, it doesn't matter if you play wrong
Mom: I should say that
Meng wa: Hmmm, will you do it? I feel like you're not going to do it all the time
Mom: You feel like I can't do it
Meng wa: Hmm
Mom: I'll do it, I'll cheer you up, okay?
After a while, Meng Wa cried bitterly
Mom: What just happened to me
Meng wa: You just didn't do it (demonstrated the look in your mother's eyes)
If the vote is "the most grinding thing", it is estimated that the "sparring" will be on the list. "Every time I practice with my child, it is a tempering of my heart and blood pressure", which basically expresses the voice of most sparring parents.
Therefore, after watching the "gentle mode" in the video, parents all said that this communication method between Meng Wa and her mother was too good, and also said that "I don't want to be angry, but I can't help it!" The focus is on the angry words that we say "on the spur of the moment" that can easily hurt the child, and parents who realize this will switch between anger and regret.
So how to avoid getting angry with your child during sparring?
1. The most important thing for parents to recognize is not to practice with their children as a sacrifice of their own time, to treat it as a matter of enjoyment and relaxation, after all, it is more meaningful than playing mobile phones
2. Parents should learn to control the emotional learning process will inevitably encounter obstacles, encounter difficulties and problems, parents must calm their minds, avoid excessive expectations, do not be impatient, and can not be scolded. On the contrary, once the child has made progress compared to before, he should give affirmation and praise.
3. Parents are best to be interested in music, if parents themselves are interested in music, it will subtly affect the child, can learn and practice together, find consensus, better understand the child's problems, and it is easier to stimulate the child's love for music from the heart.
4. Let the child become the focus of the piano when practicing According to the "Hawthorne effect", the observer will optimize his behavior tendency after knowing that he has become the object of observation, and also let the child feel that practicing the piano is an important thing. In addition, after being often the focus of attention, children are less likely to be stage frighten.
5. Parents should learn to control their children's emotions, children do not love to practice is a very normal thing, after all, monotonous and boring, very test endurance and self-control. You can use the reward and punishment system to let children develop the habit of practicing the piano. When children have strong resistance, they can "divert their attention, take half-time, stop talking" and avoid "catching ducks on the shelves".
After reading this article, I hope that parents can "calm down" sparring ah ~ ~ ~
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