The beautiful love in the world is tantamount to "you are making trouble, he is laughing." He will always understand your joy, and you will always understand his mind. As stated in the marriage vows, we will "love each other for a lifetime."
Anyone in the world hopes that they can have romantic and sweet love, and even some people can't have such a love in real life, so they like to use the plot depicted in the book to fantasize about their love.
When we were young, when we were still full of ignorance and longing for love, we once defined the appearance of love because of a sentence. "Every time I think of you, a grain of sand falls from the sky, and the Sahara is formed. Every time I think of you, a drop of water falls from the sky, and the Pacific Ocean forms. This sentence, in an instant, became the best description of love for many people.
This is what Sanmao used to use in her books to depict her love affair with her lover. However, after many years, those young girls who were once touched by Sanmao's love also met their own love, entered the palace of marriage, and could not help but wonder, at that time, was the love between Sanmao and Jose really as sweet as she described? But her neighbor said that such sweet love was actually her wishful thinking.
Childhood experiences and hobbies have made a writer Sanmao
Sanmao was born in 1943 in Huangjue, Chongqing, a turbulent era and an era of upheaval and displacement. When he was very young, Sanmao settled in Taiwan with his parents. When he was a child, Sanmao especially liked to read, and it can also be said that he was full of poetry books.
Because for her, reading books can make her have a safe corner and a world of her own. For Sanmao, who is willing to read, learning should be happy, but because the math teacher suspects that he is cheating, he tests her with a super-outlined roll, and even in the case that Sanmao will not, write two "0s" in ink on her face, which is undoubtedly a huge harm and shame for a child who is still in adolescence, and since then, Sanmao has chosen to leave school and leave school.
Since then, Sanmao has been studying ancient Chinese and English, and has also found a famous teacher to guide him, and has also begun to learn to paint. Later, through his own efforts, Sanmao also studied in the philosophy department of Taiwan Culture University founded by the well-known scholar Zhang Qiyun. At that time, Sanmao's results were very good.
Later, she chose to study in other countries, studying at the University of Madrid, the Goethe Academy in Germany, and even working as a teaching assistant at in the University of Ino in the United States for a while.
His childhood obsession with literature and his years of study abroad experience laid a solid foundation for Sanmao to become a writer. It also allows us to see the rise of a generation of outstanding female writers.
Although it is bumpy, it has the love of envying others
People always say that for a woman, the best skin care product is love. Even if Sanmao is a maverick, unpretentious, not kitsch woman, she has not escaped the shackles of love. For Sanmao, her love is not smooth sailing.
Her first meeting with Jose was her own in Madrid, Spain. It was at a party when she met Jose in a French hat. At that time, Jose was eight years younger than Sanmao, still a high school student, but sometimes love is so incredible, at that time Jose fell in love with Sanmao at first sight, and even later in order to see Sanmao often skipped class.
But at that time, Sanmao did not have any feelings for Jose, who was eight years younger and even a child. But what people did not expect was that Jose seriously told Sanmao that he would let Sanmao wait for him for six years, hoping that he could marry Sanmao after six years.
Such a confession frightened Sanmao, so he issued an eviction order to Jose and said not to come and pester her. Since then, they have rarely seen each other, and Sanmao has continued her travels, reading, and writing.
In fact, before Sanmao and Jose reunited, Sanmao also had emotional experiences, but it did not go well. She was once deeply attracted to a Taiwanese painter, but after dating, she found that he was a husband with a wife, so she left in anger. Later, I met a German professor, and when the two were about to enter the palace of marriage, the professor suddenly left her unexpectedly, and such a blow had made Sanmao miserable.
In this way, six years have passed, but what Sanmao did not expect was that six years later, Jose really appeared in his life again. Jose soothed sanmao's inner pain with his sincerity and gentleness, and when Sanmao wanted to go to the Sahara Desert, Jose resolutely decided to follow her to the Sahara Desert. So in 1973, they chose to marry in the Saharan town of Ayoune.
For Sanmao, although the road of feelings is not smooth, in the end, her love with Jose still blossoms.
Is her love really a one-man show?
From Sanmao's text, we can see the love between her and Jose, those bits and pieces of getting along, the scene of each other can't help but make people feel that their married life is as sweet as soaking in a honeypot. But fate always likes to tease people, Jose died unexpectedly at work, and for Sanmao her entire sky has collapsed. Later, Sanmao, who was only 48 years old, also passed away.
After Sanmao's death, many people were extremely interested in Sanmao's love and the road they had traveled, and they all wanted to explore her story, and even some people suspected that Sanmao's love with Jose was made up by her. Among them, Ma Zhongxin traveled to the places where Sanmao had been before she was born, learned everything about her, and later wrote in his book that the love described by Sanmao was actually a scam.
Because for Sanmao's description of her love with Jose, it can be said that Jose is the lover that many girls yearn for. But it is said that In fact, Jose is not so romantic, and the neighbors also say that the relationship between them is not so good, and even Jose will often avoid Sanmao.
And these things are completely different from the situation described by Sanmao. Therefore, in the eyes of many people, sanmao's sweet love with Jose may be just a one-man show of her.
Love, not only romance, but also chai rice oil and salt
In reality, we all know that love is not always full of passion and romance, it will also have the troubles of chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, and there will also be disputes and quarrels between lovers. And Sanmao gilded her love with Jose with a layer of light, throwing away all unhappiness, leaving only sweetness.
But for those of us who live in reality, we can't really take such a life as the standard of our own life and the requirement for our other half. Life, more than that, still wants to work together after forbearance.
Sanmao's talent makes us admire, we envy and envie her love, but this cannot be part of our mate selection. We can allow ourselves to have a poetic world, but we still have to return to real life and carefully manage our own love.