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The wise are far-sighted, and the foolish are eager to make quick gains.
Everyone wants to be helped by noble people, otherwise there wouldn't be so many people gathering to eat and drink, and no one would cooperate with each other.
But there are always some people, and the more you snub him, the more you will disgust him. People who are touted a few times and float away are superficially well-connected, but in fact they are hypocritical people and cannot be trusted.
As the saying goes, "Put a long line and catch a big fish." ”
Converge on the inflammatory trend in front of you, and strive to enlarge your own pattern, in order to find like-minded people, go down together, and win to the end.
Therefore, the really reliable way of socializing is not to inflame the situation, but to burn incense in the cold temple.
02
Take care of the poor with backbones, moderately satisfy their vanity, and give enough face.
Cao Kun, the leader of the warlords directly under his family, was very poor when he was a child. When he was young, he made a living selling cloth.
Even if life is difficult, Cao Kun's bones have always longed for a rich day, as long as he has a few dollars in his hand, he will invite three or five friends to eat a meal in the restaurant.
One day, Cao Kun invited a friend to dinner and ordered only a plate of peanut rice, some pickles and a bottle of wine. On the next table, it is very rich, and the sound of pushing cups and changing cups is very loud.
Because there are not many guests in the restaurant, the two tables of people are particularly layered.
The restaurant owner suddenly realized something and asked xiao er to add a few dishes to Cao Kun. When the dish was served, the shopkeeper also loudly reported the name of the dish.
The wine and vegetables were enriched, and Cao Kun's face was also enough. After Cao Kun developed, he called the restaurant owner a brother and brother, and gave double the return.
In real life, we scorn the poor, thinking that being friends with them will drag us down.
In fact, there are two kinds of poor people - poor people with poor hearts and poor people with backbones. If you associate with poor people with backbone, you will get a lot of rewards, and you will also feel the power of "backbone".
Look down to please the poor, you will appear very unqualified, but you can take care of the face of the poor, so that their sense of hierarchy is higher.
In life, when dealing with the poor, let them sit and drink, give them some say, praise their progress, and help them achieve a small wish. You don't have much to give, but the rewards in the coming days will be great.
03
Lend money to people in need of emergencies, move them, and get long-term returns.
As the saying goes, "Saving the emergency does not save the poor." ”
When a person encounters an emergency and you have the ability to help, then don't hesitate. Even very rich people have difficulties. If you help him survive, you will be his nobleman in the future, and you will rise rapidly with his help.
When Zhu Yuanzhang was young, several relatives in the family died of illness, and he was helpless. Ask anyone to help, you can't. A rich local man named Liu De said as soon as he opened his mouth: "Your relatives have passed away, what does it have to do with me?" ”
Another person, Liu Jizu, moved his heart of compassion and helped Zhu Yuanzhang bury his relatives. After Zhu Yuanzhang became emperor, he posthumously awarded Liu Jizu the title of Marquis of Yihui, and his descendants received a steady stream of favors.
A person in the most difficult time, as long as they survive, will make a lot of difference. If you figure out such a routine, you will understand that helping others solve the current difficulties is to survive together, and you can enjoy the results together in the future.
Help people emergency, just like pushing others over the mountain pass, to the top of the mountain, you can see the mountains and small; after crossing the mountain pass, you can feel the scenery thousands of miles away.
04
Make friends with people who like to read, progress together, and get a meritorious name.
In ancient times, people called the readers "acid show talents, poor students". It can be seen that readers are very unpopular. Even if some readers will become masters because of their meritorious names, the things that "become famous in one fell swoop" are, after all, a minority.
With the discovery of the times, "cold window hard reading" has become a smooth road to success. As long as you are willing to read, you will definitely make a difference.
People with brains will take the initiative to be friends with readers. Even if the other party does not achieve a career, he will read more books, mix better in society, and his character will be more decent.
As the saying goes: "Those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black." "When you immerse yourself in the world of books, you will find that you have not only made noble friends, but also learned a lot of knowledge yourself.
For example, in the story of "chiseling the wall to borrow light", the wall of Mr. Wen's house was chiseled by Kuang Heng, and he was not only not angry, but let Kuang Heng come to the house to study, let his son and Kuang Heng study together, and be friends.
When Kuang Heng's reputation was getting bigger and bigger, Mr. Wen's family was also stained and got the praise of many people.
05
Help the boss who is temporarily "cold" and leave a long-term emotional card.
"Cai Gen Tan" has a saying: "Let one step be high in the world, and step backward is to progress Zhang Ben." ”
In the workplace, ups and downs are a very common thing. However, we are accustomed to pursuing powerful people, and it is logical that we will crowd into the lively office and take an evasive attitude toward those cold bosses.
In the "Warning Of the Everlasting Word", there is a story: during the Song Dynasty, Su Shi was demoted to Huangzhou, and the officials of the Huangzhou Hefu went to the city gate to greet him, and chose a good day to let him take office. Chen Jichang had close relations with him, and he was not afraid of Su Dongpo being a degraded official, nor was he afraid of causing trouble.
Facts have proved that Su Dongpo has been degraded many times, but the end of his life is still beautiful, whether it is the achievements in the official field or the achievements in literature, they have been recognized by posterity.
Falling into a well and rejoicing, such an act, seemingly reasonable, is actually blocking its own back road. Once the person who has been left out has turned over, it is inevitable to take revenge and turn around and give you a pair of small shoes. It is better to get along with Yan Yuexi, leave a line of human feelings, and see each other in the future.
06
Man, thirty years of Hedong, thirty years of Hexi.
Politician Charles de Gaulle once said: "The friendship of those who have suffered a lot together can be called unbreakable." ”
Instead of trying to admire someone who is much higher than you, it is better to look up to the low-level person and give some alms to the person who is downcast.
To make friends, you need to have foresight, and you don't have to rush to make quick profits.
The people you despise can also become the people who crush you in the future.
People who need to squeeze their heads to meet you will not look at you at all.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.