Night reading丨 Happiness is not because of having more, but because of less calculation

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There is a saying in "For sleepless nights": anger at every turn, indicating that you are too naïve to control yourself.

A person's open-mindedness is reflected in the time of downfall; a person's cultivation is reflected in the time of anger.

Don't worry about the past, and don't worry about the bad things in front of you. Control yourself, less temper, more sanity, know that happiness is not because you have more, but because you think less.

Less resentment is wisdom

Man always cherishes what he has not received and forgets what he has. When faced with something that cannot be changed, complaining will not play any role, but will make the emotions terrible.

I've seen such a story.

There was a young man who had to leave his hometown and go elsewhere because of his family's fall.

One day, he came to a village, and the village was washed away by the flood. He looked at the devastated village and couldn't help but feel sad, feeling that his fate was like that of this village that had been washed away.

As he walked, he saw a farmer standing by a flooded field, smiling, without complaining or grieving. The young man felt very strange and asked the farmer, "In the face of such a natural disaster, why don't you grieve for the submerged crops?" ”

The farmer said: "These are already things that cannot be changed, and it is useless to complain." Although the flood flooded the crops, it also brought a lot of nutrients, the land became fertile, and I believe that there will be a good harvest next year. ”

To be a human being requires the wisdom of a farmer, not to complain blindly, but to find life from pain.

Saion lost his horse, and he knew that it was not a blessing. Have a normal heart for people and things, and don't be harsh on others to do as perfectly as you imagine.

Gold is not perfect, no one is perfect, don't always complain about others. Change yourself and don't immerse yourself in complaining.

Learn not to complain, learn to find a way to survive in adversity, and learn to face everything with peace of mind.

Less anger is a kind of cultivation

I have seen such a sentence: "When the people around us are good and amiable, we can also be meek and courteous, and if the people around us are evil and abnormal, we will soon become teeth and claws." Anger is the emotion at the top of a person, a person full of anger, the IQ is basically "zero", and being able to control one's anger is a rare cultivation.

A camel trudgs through the desert. The midday sun made it hungry, thirsty, and anxious.

At this moment, the fragments of a glass bottle slammed the soles of its feet, and the tired camel was furious, lifted its feet and kicked the fragments out, resulting in the soles of the feet being cut open by the glass blades, and the bright red blood immediately stained the sand grains red and rose up a puff of smoke.

The angry camel limped along, and the blood trail along the way attracted vultures in the air. Terrified, the camels rushed up despite their wounds, leaving a long trail of blood in the desert.

As they reached the edge of the desert, the thick smell of blood attracted wolves in the nearby desert, and frightened camels rammed like headless flies. In a few moments, the poor camel fell to the ground in blood.

Before dying, the camel regretted it and said, "Why should I be angry with a small piece of broken glass?" ”

In the moment of anger, people will lose their minds and hurt others and themselves. At this time, calm after patience is often more effective than anger.

When angry, dozens of times before opening the mouth, if you are unusually angry, count to a hundred. Therefore, calm your mind, let the anger pass by yourself, and leave a pure peace for yourself.

Less idleness is a way to live

Life is the process of sweeping the snow in front of each door, instead of getting angry with others, it is better to take care of your own acres and three points of land.

Someone asked the writer Yu Guangzhong: "Li Ao looks for your stubble every day, and you never respond, why is this?" Yu Guangzhong groaned for a moment and replied: "'Scolding' me every day shows that he can't live without me; and I don't care, which proves that my life can be without him." ”

Regardless of idleness, not being idle is both polite to others and respectful to oneself.

Many times, looking back on a lot of bitter things, in fact, they are competing with themselves.

A person's cultivation is not when the heart is calm, but when the heart is impetuous; one's rationality is not when the wind and waves are calm, but when the crowd is noisy; one's compassion is not when one is condescending, but when people speak softly; the respect between lovers is not when they are idle, but when they have different views; the love between husband and wife is not when the moon is under the flower, but when the great trouble is imminent.

Life is to go step by step, throw away little by little, what comes out is the road, and what is thrown away is the baggage. In this way, the road will go longer and longer, and the mind will go quieter and quieter, so that it can leave a little time for itself to think.

Learning to be less angry is a kind of maturity, but also a kind of wisdom.