I once saw an interesting video: the world in the eyes of animals is not the same as the world in our eyes.
For example, the world that dogs see is not as distinct as we see, and the world they see has a feeling of "fading"; and the grass that cows see is not green, but orange-red...
It has been said that men and women are two different creatures.
So, a lot of times, men and women see the world differently and the results are different.
Especially when looking at women, women in men's eyes are not the same as women in women's eyes.
Friends said that she went shopping with her husband, those beautiful women who let her husband see her eyes straight, but in her eyes is nothing, she does not understand, why in her eyes is obviously very tasteless women, in the eyes of her husband is a special thing in the world!
This is the result of the different eyes of men and women in looking at the world.
Vision is one of the important bases for us to make choices and judgments.
For men who have an affair, deciding whether they will choose a wife or a lover in the end is generally decided by them after examining and comparing the two women.
In the eyes of a man, the three differences between a wife and an extramarital woman often determine his choice.
The first difference: whether it's more sane or more emotional in the moments that matter.
In general, most men like to spoil women, so some people say "spoiled women are the best life".
For men, women are killers, often making men lose their strength, and women succeed again and again.
But some women tend to walk into a misunderstanding and equate coddling with emotion.
Some women are easily emotional, tears are not valuable, cry when they cry; often do not carry things, as long as they encounter tricky things, they are helpless except for emotional collapse; when arguing with men, they tend to act hysterical.
Yang Lan once said that marriage is a kind of righteousness. Husband and wife are more like a kind of comrade-in-arms relationship, fighting side by side and carrying things together. The so-called "husband and wife are in the same heart, and their profits are broken".
But women who are easy to be emotional are obviously not men's "good comrades-in-arms", as long as they encounter the storms and waves of life, emotional women are easy to vent their emotions, rather than actively coping with men.
This kind of woman can easily make men feel tired, and even make men feel that she is a burden and trouble. Therefore, whether a man with an affair chooses a wife or a lover, he has to examine and compare, and in the end he often chooses the rational woman who is not in danger and can stand in his position and fight with him.
Xue Baochao and Lin Daiyu in "Dream of the Red Chamber" are good examples. Xue Baochao is calm and composed, while Lin Daiyu is easily emotional, often making small characters cry and cry. In the end, Xue Baochao successfully joined the RongGuo Mansion, while Lin Daiyu could only incense the jade and die.
The second difference: do you know how to make concessions at the right time.
A woman's occasional little willfulness and small temper is a cute performance, which will make the man who loves himself love himself more. But this kind of small willfulness and small temper must also be measured, and it can be stopped in moderation.
At the critical time, women should let go of their own small willfulness and small temper, but make concessions at the right time and learn to "understand things", which can make men more trustworthy.
Some women don't understand that they obviously love their husbands so much and devote themselves to living with him wholeheartedly, why is he still cheating? What the hell is that woman out there!
Maybe the woman outside, in front of the man, always knows how to make concessions at the right time, and will never be stubborn.
It is said that women are like water. But there is a huge difference between water and water.
Women who know how to give in at the right time are like a gushing spring in the eyes of men, gentle and delicate, refreshing; and women who never give in and are stubborn, in the eyes of men, are simply a flood beast, terrifying waves.
In this way, the answer to which kind of woman a man will choose is clear at a glance.
As the old saying goes: It is a blessing to let one step be high in the world, and to treat others with a generous point.
A woman who knows how to make concessions at the right time seems to give in, but in fact, it is a kind of wisdom to retreat into progress, and further preserves the marriage.
Many times, marriage is not a woman right, stubborn, no doubt pushing the marriage into the cold abyss.
The third difference: there is not much emotional communication with yourself.
Some people say that many couples have a relationship, walking and walking is like touching the right hand with the left hand, and there is no longer any feeling. There used to be endless words, but then there was nothing to say.
Many couples in a marital crisis feel this way: they have nothing to say to their partner.
The so-called "talking about feelings" lies in the word "talking", and most of the feelings are talked about. When two people gradually have nothing to say and nothing to talk about, the feelings fade and disappear.
The reason why a considerable number of men have extramarital affairs is because they have nothing to say to their wives, they are lonely and lonely inside, and they want to find an outlet for their hearts through extramarital affairs.
Therefore, many times, women do not communicate emotionally with men much, which determines men's choices.
There is no doubt that men are more inclined to choose the woman who communicates with their feelings more, and the more they communicate, the more men feel that they can be understood and understood by women.
Understanding and understanding is an important magic weapon to warm up feelings. At the same time, understanding and understanding is something more desirable than love.
The reason why a man who has an extramarital affair is more willing to communicate feelings with his lover and talk about love is because in his lover, he feels understood and understood.
The ancients "know each other and win every battle".
When a woman understands how a man who has an affair will choose, she will know which kind of woman to choose.
To sum up, when a man is faced with the dilemma of his wife and lover, he is more inclined to choose the person who is rational in case of trouble, knows how to make concessions at the right time, and knows and understands him better.
If a woman can do the above three points, I am afraid that her husband probably will not have an extramarital affair, after all, marriage has given him enough respect, tolerance and love, as well as understanding and understanding, then why should he cheat in marriage!
It is said that "soft" is a woman's nature. Whether it's a wife or a lover, men tend to be more inclined to choose the softer woman.
Of course, softness does not equal weakness.
Softness is a kind of wisdom and temperament, and it is also a kind of realm of being a person.
Many times, in order to maintain the happiness of marriage, women must learn to use the "soft" kung fu, understand the soft and powerful, and use soft kegang, so that the relationship between husband and wife can be relaxed and measured, and the happiness of marriage can be achieved for a long time.
Text/Fenghua
Which difference do you think a woman makes from a woman will also determine a man's choice?