There is such a story:
In a country, when the wind and rain are smooth, the grain is abundant, and God blesses here, the people praise and praise the king. Say he is wise and well-led.
But one day, everything did not go as expected, disaster struck, and the water quality was polluted.
Only the king's water was clean, like a little black among the whites.
People no longer sang the praises of the king, but felt that he was incomprehensible, an outlier. The king lost the people.
Once he went to the people's heap, because he was thirsty, drank a cup of water from the people's house, and the people cheered again until their king had returned and was "normal."
In an environment, most people indulge in the loneliness of others and their own loneliness.
They are afraid of being excluded, of not being welcomed, of not being socialized. It is considered "outlier".
During college, I found a very interesting phenomenon.
In the dormitory, no one else bought a mirror, and it just so happened that I bought a few sides to stick in the closet so that I could reflect the whole body.
As soon as my roommate bought new clothes, he would come to me to take pictures and ask, "How do you see?"
When there is a voice of approval, he will not be able to hide his smile. When someone says something too ugly or something, he will be very uncomfortable and will find various reasons.
For example: "I think it looks good when I look at it, but the store sends it wrong" or something like that.
Poor people, buying clothes for others, unhappy, but also depend on others.
Don't dare to face your heart, dress for your heart, and sweep away the dust for your heart.
Makes people think deeply about when we live for others. When you are reading, you spare no effort to cater to it.
Eventually you have to separate, you have to face your chai rice oil salt, he wants to drink his champagne.
What's more interesting is that you used to play games with them, talk about colloquialisms, and talk about the gentle beauty of which female classmate.
One day you change, and it doesn't matter what theory you change. You become reticent, indifferent to unnourished words, and the game is never on the chart again.
Instead, when they continue to play games and talk about the world, you are looking at philosophy. They stay up late brushing dramas and wear out your body when you are meditating.
At this point you become an "outlier" in their eyes, and they will initially think that you are pretending to be C.
It is only when you have been rationalizing reading books, exercising and fitness, and changing your temperament for several months in a row that they slowly closed their mouths.
What they are afraid of is that the girls they like are occupied by their friends, and when they see them showing their love, their hearts will collapse, overturn the river and the sea, such as the mouth cracking in winter, itching and hurting.
And similarly, you live like someone else's ideal, and you may make him more uncomfortable than the girl who takes advantage of him.
Most people like more and lose less, you pay a piece of cake to him, and he wants to give you a date is sentient.
It will be affected by the emotional bubbles that bubble up in the brain, and when you get it, you will get tired of it.
I still remember when my sister got married, my father was very disapproving, saying that this person was very careful, and you would be unhappy in the future, but my sister married my brother-in-law without hesitation.
Finally, I responded to the sentence "When my boyfriend raised me, now I double my support for him." ”
My sister went to work numbly every day, and the original aura gradually disappeared from her eyes.
The Peace Warrior is based on Late Night Gas Station Meets Socrates.
Friends who have seen the original book may know this bridge section, when the protagonist Dan knows that in ordinary life, the mind will disturb people's hearts.
He will have inexplicable thoughts every day, such as sudden fantasies, no interesting things when walking, but he suddenly laughs, etc., and as a result, within a few days, he will have to buy a notebook again, and find that his thoughts are too much and too chaotic to remember.
This is true when it's quiet, not to mention everyday life.
People who are reluctant to break illusions in life are often prone to inferiority, anger, and neuroticism.
Just like I used to! When I was in the dormitory, I got up in the morning to wash up, and I heard someone I hated get out of bed loud and make all kinds of noises, and I would think that he was targeting me, all kinds of fantasies in my head, he was thinking about my shortcomings and so on.
After blowing his hair, he went to class, and when he came to the classroom, he was laughing with others, and he couldn't help but think that he was their joke.
When no one is paying attention, get your hair up and tidy up your clothes.
It will be sullen all morning, and the morning boredom is thicker than the dark clouds.
Later, when I watched the Analects, I slowly endured the change, but I was still very passive, and I would not take the elevated person, and I would move my steps in a crooked way, and I learned to tolerate it.
It can be seen that it accumulates over time, deeply understands, and brings the theory into the life experience to know that "it is indispensable" and that "it is not complaining about the sky, not being special".
Later, I came into contact with the Pure Sutra and began to cultivate my mind. I still remember the first time I meditated, and I meditated in my heart
"Thinking is forgetting, body weakness is luck, heart is dead is god and life, yang is yin and yin"
This sentence is from the "Danyang Xiuzhen Quotations" [Yuan] Lingyin Zi Wang Yizhongji (Danyang Zi is Ma Yu Ma Daochang)
By the next day, the usual humorous self could not bring up the interest of joking with others and playing hooligans.
Slowly, I didn't want to talk to others more and more. Desire is also getting less and less, but in reality, the estrangement from friends, the soul wants to not stain the world, slowly become a contradiction. The two concepts are on the same page, and only one can be preserved.
Philosophical difficulties are difficult in the heart, the heart can not let go, depression is often accompanied by the body.
Later, I became darker and darker day by day, but I did not give up looking for answers until I saw the Pure Heart Sutra.
After reading it a few times, people looked a little opener and felt that the troubles of all things in the world originated from the heart, so they began to meditate without thinking about any scriptures.
At this time, I began to understand human nature and felt that at the beginning of man, nature was inherently evil. That friend is dispensable, willing to come, willing to go. The heart is quiet, but it is also disappointed in life.
Looking at life is like a backwater, lifeless, emotionless.
Although there are no negative emotions of anger and inferiority, there are no positive feelings of positive and optimistic.
Even if you make a mistake, you will think it is irrelevant and do not care.
After a period of silence, one night I began to blame myself, and the pain swept in again.
He began to seek a way of salvation, and then a Sangha Sutra changed this state. I began to copy the scriptures, and I slowly had new thoughts about the meaning of life.
In the past, I thought it was someone else's fault for the garbage on the road, but now, whether it is right or wrong, I pick it up and send it to the way home.
At this point, it is difficult to improve, and the mind will only examine the past and the future, and will not be able to work on the present.
I feel that I have a lot of time, but at the end of the day, my heart is very empty and cannot be filled.
I put down the scriptures and fell silent for a while, suddenly remembering the movie I had seen before, "Soldiers for Peace", which contained some Chinese wisdom.
I brushed it a few times, but I was still not satisfied, so I bought the original book - "Late Night Gas Station Meets Socrates".
This time, I am no longer worried about the future, I am no longer upset about the past, I think about my different perceptions at that time, and I get different results.
Now committed to the present, as the book says, you have to endure "You are a captive before we can plan your escape." ”
The self, the personal thoughts, the history and the identity, will eventually die, and if they are still haunted by these things, they will always be painting the earth as a prison, a prisoner, a prisoner.
Now I am still on the road of exploration, and I don't know when I will be completely unaffected by the mind.
Let's be here today! Walk together.
Author: Ru Feng Xiaogui