Introduction: Wen Li and Tong Zhi in "Golden Marriage", they are married based on love, in the words of the current fashion, that is, Wen Li married love, and Tong Zhi also married love. And one of them is a primary school teacher, one is a senior technician in the factory, there is love, there is also a material foundation, it is said that such a marriage should be very happy, but Wen Li and Tong Zhi's fifty-year marriage, in fact, is not happy, and can even be said to be OK, in the end why they will come to this step?
Wen Li and Tong Zhi's fifty years of ups and downs in marriage, looking at the long time, but in fact, there is really nothing to envy, the length of their marriage is enough, but to say quality, there is really nothing to envy. Their concept of that era was relatively conservative, and if they were now, they would have been divorced two hundred times.
Compared with the marriage of Anjie and Jiang Defu in "Parental Love", that is called happiness! The marriage of Wen Li and Tong Zhi cannot even be compared with the protagonist in "Wang Gui and Anna", at least Anna and Wang Gui know how to manage marriage, and the quality of Wen Li and Tong Zhi's marriage is getting lower and lower, the reason is that the two of them will not run a marriage. It is not easy for the two to come together, because of the combination of love, marriage also needs to be managed, it needs to be maintained, and whether it is Tong Zhi or Wen Li, it is not enough to make each other happy in running a marriage.
Wen Li thinks of herself as high, and always returns to her mother's house when there is nothing to do
Wen Li herself is beautiful, and is the youngest daughter of their family, she has been favored since childhood, after marrying Tong Zhi, as long as Wen Li has some unhappiness in the marriage, she likes to go back to her mother's house to complain. Even the privacy of the matter was told to his mother, which made Tong Zhi very faceless. The old saying that husband and wife fight is a bedside fight and bedside, no matter how there is a contradiction, it is also a contradiction within a small family, if you run back to your mother's house to complain, this is the contradiction to expand and complicate.
In reality, there are indeed many such women, after getting angry with their husbands, always like to run back to their mother's house to complain, and they have to wait for their husbands to come to three or four times to apologize before they are willing to grind and chirp and go home with their husbands. However, after the husband and wife quarreled, they would soon be fine, but if the mother's family intervened, this matter would be complicated. It is also very likely to cause discord between the husband and the mother's family. Wen Li's practice of returning to her mother's house without moving is not advisable, and it is also a very unwise approach, isn't it?
Tong Zhi evades the problem and does not face the problem directly
After Tong Zhi's mother came to their house, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law itself was very complicated, but after this mother-in-law came, she saw that Wenli was a nose instead of a nose, and her eyes were not eyes, and she was always picky about Wenli. And Wen Li is not adapted to the life after her mother-in-law comes, and the contradiction between the two people is inevitable. But at this time, Tong Zhi avoided the problem and did not actively solve the problem. In addition to the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Tong Zhi also adopted an evasive attitude in the face of family fetishism, and later directly applied to the first-line factory and escaped from home to the factory. The mother-in-law contradictions and everything in the family were lost to Wen Li, as a man, he did not have the responsibility of a man, and let Wen Li bear everything alone.
When things go wrong, they don't actively solve problems, but complain to each other
Tong Zhi and Wen Li every time there is a contradiction, Wen Li this person, every quarrel always like new hatred and old hatred together, every time to turn over the old account, it is originally a small contradiction, the result is that she turned over the old account, will be more and more noisy and fierce. And Tong Zhi is not a fuel-saving lamp, almost every time with Wen Li tit-for-tat, in the long run, even the best feelings have slowly faded.
Conclusion: Every time I watch "Golden Marriage", the editor feels that this work is not a praise for married life, but a criticism. Wen Li and Tong Zhi's marriage is not worth enviing, they are united because of love, but they have made the marriage a hated appearance of everyone, probably criticizing them for not running a marriage, what do you think?