There was a 1999 American movie: The Runaway Bride, a comedy starring Julia Roberts and Richard Keir. It tells the story of a girl named Maggie in the countryside of Maryland, WHO likes to immerse herself in the joy of engagement, and when the wedding is held, she will have a marital phobia and choose to escape marriage.
Richard Keele was a columnist, and when he heard about it, he wrote about it, and then this Maggie complained to the newspaper, saying that it was blind and ruining her reputation.
Richard Keel, in order to prove that he did not write blindly, ran to the countryside to look for evidence, looking for evidence, and the two people had feelings, so Maggie escaped from the third marriage with him. The fourth wedding is the male and female protagonists, will not run away, right? No, because it got bigger, there were a lot of reporters in New York, the bride didn't fit in, she ran away again, and the groom, the columnist who originally wrote about the girl's escape, was on the front page.
It's comedy, and it's certainly not so much fun to do something like this in life. A matter in Shanghai, men and women have known each other for more than a year, and it was agreed that the wedding would be held on October 5, 2018. And on September 30, the bridegroom suddenly said that in my heart, there was another one she couldn't put down and wanted to save it again. Oh, she arrived before you...
This thing, except for making a movie, is really not much fun.
But people have an iron heart to go, and marriage is not interesting, so let's talk about compensation. The man wrote down an IOU: "The break-up fee (youth loss, mental loss, wedding procurement fee, etc.) owed to Huang Moumou today totals 500,000 yuan, which was paid within December 31, 2018." The man's uncle and uncle signed the certificate on the spot.
The IOU written on October 2nd, the man waved his hand without taking away a cloud, leaving only an IOU.
Then, until the end of the year, a penny was also paid.
The woman's lawsuit goes to court. The court held that the "break-up fee" did not fall within the scope of the civil law adjustment, the defendant was unwilling to perform, the court could not compel, the creditor's right relationship belonged to the natural claim, and did not have legal coercive force, but the act of fleeing before marriage must cause harm to the plaintiff, according to the actual situation of the case, considering the local economic level and other factors, it was determined as appropriate that the defendant would compensate the plaintiff for losses of 80,000 yuan.
As a result, everyone has gained a cold knowledge: the breakup fee is a conscience fee, and has no legal significance. Uncle and uncle on-site authentication is also a folk form, and does not have the legal significance of guarantee.
But this matter, the judge also feels that the woman is a bit depressed, you two have to quietly break up, no one owes anyone, do not break up early, wait until before the wedding, the banquet is booked, relatives and friends are notified to go out, people have received invitations, the gift money is ready, saying that the wedding is canceled, the groom ran. In a way, it's bigger than the blow of divorce. Mainly on the face can not hang. Divorce, everyone thinks that the family has a difficult scripture, and the escape before the wedding is particularly eye-catching because of its rarity. The severity of slapping someone at home and slapping someone in public is still different. The sympathetic part of human nature is: the face.
I have a few thoughts on this.
1.
Love is casually discussed, and marriage should be more cautious. There are more things between two people in love, and marriage is a social behavior. A wedding is a ceremony with a marriage contract for everyone to see. Children know that they are tinkering with something, and they don't let their parents peek at it before they finish it, and they only offer treasure when they get it done.
2.
There is a white moonlight in my heart, I didn't hit the south wall and wanted to hit it again, such a mood I understand, the feeling of this matter, unfinished is to make people scratch their ears and scratch their cheeks. Originally felt that I did not have the courage, I could think again, seeing that I was going to marry someone else, I felt that we would be old if we were not crazy anymore, that feeling.
Understanding is understanding, you must also understand the harm to others, do your best to make some compensation and apologies. What if I don't have any money? Kneel down and let people see your sincerity.
3.
From the girl's point of view, it is indeed a great embarrassment in life. It is reasonable to compensate, but the amount of compensation really depends on the economic level and willingness of the other party. One is that this is not protected by law, and the other is if he is not willing to pay, or has no money to pay. In case of such a situation, I also advise the injured person to loosen his or her own restraints and not to feel that he cannot be a person. Every day there is news and gossip, people pay attention to your business for three or two days, you just have to live well, don't give yourself pressure to come out.
Love and marriage are both a bet, there are wins and losses, and leaving the market in time when you lose is more important than anything else.
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Author: Lu Jin Radio host/columnist