What is love? Asking a hundred people may have a hundred answers, and people's understanding and pursuit of love are also different.
There is no fixed definition of love, and even if he is a highly learned professor, his understanding of love will not be recognized by everyone.
Love is not an arithmetic problem, there is no unified answer, there is no unreasonableness, no match, no skin color, age, culture, etc., only one sentence you are willing, I am willing.
Love is so mysterious and elusive, everyone longs for love, everyone wants to protect love, and in different ages it has been given different meanings.
Of course, people's understanding of love naturally has a lot to do with the times, the growth environment, and life experiences.
Jiang Fangzhou once revealed her views on love in a show, and she said that she has always liked uncultured boys.
No culture, people will feel that this boy is a street at the first time when they hear such a word, and the girl is rustic, so is this what Jiang Fangzhou said about no culture?
Why she would say such a thing again naturally has a lot to do with her own personality and experience.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="3" >01 "Genius Girl" Jiang Fangzhou</h1>
I believe that many people are not unfamiliar with Jiang Fangzhou, and some people think that she is the darling of heaven and a natural writer.
Jiang Fangzhou, born in 1989 in Xiangfan, Hubei Province, is a modern young writer.
Compared with her peers, Jiang Fangzhou has had extraordinary insight since she was a child, coupled with her strict requirements and guidance for her writing, she has a certain writing foundation.
Jiang Fangzhou's mother herself was very fond of writing, and at that time she was also a well-known writer, under the guidance and influence of her mother, she began to write at the age of 7.
It sounds a little incredible, but it is true that she published her first "Open the Skylight" at the age of 9, and it was the advent of this work that made this ordinary girl come to the fore, and thus doomed her extraordinary life.
This book is mainly about a 9-year-old child's colorful dream of the colorful world, which allows children to learn to write essays.
In June 2001, the book was listed by the Hunan Provincial Education Commission as a quality education book for primary and secondary school students, and became a columnist for many newspapers and periodicals.
Jiang Fangzhou not only stood out among his peers with this work, becoming a role model for them to learn from, but also opened a door for himself on the road of writing.
Achieving such an achievement at a young age is indeed a place to be praised, but for a child who is not yet ten years old, she does not have too deep a concept.
She only knows that her writing has been praised, and she has become a celebrity, which is also an encouragement to herself.
Next, with more and more media reports, she became a well-known "celebrity", which also indicated that she was no longer free, and she must have an extra layer of roles and pressures that her peers did not have.
She needs to live according to her family, the media, and the public, and bear the discussion of people at an age when she should not be, and of course, bear the speculation and doubts of others about her literary ability.
Is Jiang Fangzhou really a writer with real talent and practical learning? Quite a few people have questioned that they don't believe it was written by a child under the age of ten.
Soon after, her second work, Developing, was a juvenile book for all readers of adulthood or underage, and the publication of this work produced a different voice at the time.
At that time, at the beginning of the 20th century, some media commented that the book was one of the top ten bad books, and Jiang Fangzhou was considered a "child with dirty thoughts", and different voices naturally had a certain impact on her personality.
In addition, the reason why she was questioned was related to one person, that is, her mother.
When Jiang Fangzhou began to write, her mother chose to quit, which made many people begin to doubt, coupled with Jiang Fangzhou's silent attitude, it also deepened people's doubts about her literary writing ability.
She is packaged by her family and the media as a figure in their hearts, and she needs to behave herself according to their requirements, and people are more certain of their own speculations in the face of the media market.
Although she has experienced controversy in her childhood, due to her young age, she does not particularly understand the malice of human nature.
But with the accumulation of knowledge as she grew older, she was also affected to a certain extent, and began to become less confident in writing, constantly denying her ability, not very like to communicate with people, it should be said that her heart is lonely.
She envied those who could follow her heart, and the desire and rebellion in her heart were prompting her.
Some things can not be realized in real life, only in the virtual world to get emotional satisfaction, she does not like the outside world to set herself, want to break through, the result is often not ideal.
She gradually got used to such a state of life, still trying to do herself, publishing her ugly photos on the Internet, "getting married before 30 will definitely cheat", liking "no culture, more social, fighting boys" and saying that she is a flattering personality, often blackening herself on the Internet, publishing her ugly photos.
Studying, reading, writing, and media accompanied her in elementary school, junior high school, high school, and college, and one work after another was also published under the tip of her pen, and more and more people knew Jiang Fangzhou, the post-80s female writer.
She published 9 books before the age of 18, in addition to which she has her own columns in several publishing houses.
The voices of praise and doubt have been tearing each other apart, some people envy her outstanding literary style, glorious life, and some people question the hypocrisy of her literary writing ghostwriting.
In the face of the outside world's voices, she still chooses to be silent, wants to prove her ability through works, still blackens herself from time to time, the loneliness in her heart, and the rebellion in her bones make her obviously different from ordinary people.
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I like uncultured boys, and if this sentence is spoken from an ordinary population, people will feel nothing, but it will feel abnormal and different from the mouth of a public figure.
In fact, the lack of culture that Jiang Fangzhou thinks is not that it is morally corrupt and that everyone shouts and beats up the little bastards.
The depth of a person's knowledge is not a measure of a person's moral level, and a person with a low level of education is not necessarily a street asshole full of hooliganism and dirty words.
In their eyes, there are people who are sensible, have ideals, and have ambitions, and it is not uncommon for hypocrites to be full of knowledge.
The culture here is the kind of social people who have responsibility and responsibility to live out their own lives, it does not matter in the face of the small things in life, interesting and courageous, such a passionate life is definitely liked by many people.
And in the face of major events, they are not in a hurry, and they have enough courage to bear the responsibility to deal with it, and who in such a society does not like it.
The ordinary life of chai rice oil and salt will affect the relationship between husband and wife for a long time, and the occasional wave will bring certain fun to life and enhance the feelings between each other.
It is often said that people love "bad men" because of these "bad", of course, there is a clear difference between bad and bad in the traditional sense.
The bad here is the small bad, and they often easily wander among the female group and are favored by women.
Some psychologists have also shown that their "bad" favored by women is actually the masculine charm that emanates, rather than the "bad" that harms the society of others.
They have a unique charm compared to those who are honest and responsible, deep into women's minds, such a person who makes women guess, will naturally get their attraction.
And Jiang Fangzhou is exactly like this, the loneliness in her heart and the rebellion that hides the deepest, coupled with the reason of age, she gradually yearns for new life, youth, and vitality.
And those "bad" boys like to try new things, like challenges, pursue excitement, and they will lead girls to experience a different life.
This is also one aspect of their attraction to girls, and Jiang Fangzhou put aside the identity of a writer, she is just an ordinary girl, and she also has her own views and pursuits on love.
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Everyone has a different view of love, at different ages, the times also have different performances, Jiang Fangzhou is also she once said that young and middle-aged people are not worthy of her, only the old man can be worthy of her.
Because in her opinion, only men over the age of 70 have the wisdom to communicate with her spiritually.
People are like this, facing feelings is strange, different experiences of love will also change differently, but one thing we should not forget is our own heart.
In life, there will be many factors that affect your pursuit of love, perhaps because you are not confident, you will shrink back on the way to love, you will not see your own advantages, and you think that your conditions are far from each other.
Before it has begun, you have chosen to stop moving forward, in fact, you don't have to do so, overcoming your heart is the first step to get love, give yourself some encouragement, and believe in yourself.
At the same time, we must firmly believe in the existence of love, must not be affected by the things around us, can not see friends and relatives choose to get married and have children, they will begin to compromise, such a result can make themselves really happy.
Whether it is Jiang Fangzhou or us, in the face of love, we should follow our own hearts, and we must not do things against our hearts because of the urging of the outside world and our family and friends.
After all, we come to the human world for a while, in addition to the people we meet are supporting roles, what we have to do is to please ourselves and enjoy life, not because of someone, a certain sentence depressed, waste of time.
Life is not easy, then cherish the present, embrace life, bold love, love with heart, do not hurt others worthy of themselves.