Late one night a few days ago, I received a consultation from a reader, which was more appropriate than a consultation to complain and talk:
She and her boyfriend met on a blind date half a year ago, and the two of them had a good impression of each other in the past six months, and the parents of both sides were also very satisfied, seeing that it was almost the end of the year, the two sides began to talk about getting married.
Everything was going well, but just a moment before the license was collected, the two sides disagreed over the marriage examination. The boyfriend insisted on going to the marriage examination, but she did not dare, which caused the boyfriend's family to be very unhappy now.
It turned out that she had talked about a boyfriend at the time of college. At that time, because contraception was not done well, I accidentally became pregnant.
After all, he was still in school at the time, and his ex-boyfriend was very irresponsible, so the child was forced to miscarry.
Although it has been four or five years since this incident, she vaguely felt uneasy at the thought that the marriage examination might be checked out...
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="14" > I didn't know my wife had AIDS until she was pregnant</h1>
Marriage examination, or premarital examination, refers to the routine physical examination and genital examination of both men and women before marriage. This system existed many years ago, until the implementation of the new version of the Marriage Registration Ordinance in 2003, when compulsory marriage inspections were withdrawn from the historical stage.
The current marriage examination adheres to the principle of voluntariness, that is, before marriage, the two parties discuss whether to have a marriage examination. But in real life, the disagreement around the marriage examination has never been broken, some people are determined to marry the examination, some people are unwilling to marry the examination from beginning to end, and even there is an aggressive and strange thing of "wanting a marriage examination or me".
Like the reader above, it is indeed painful to leave a bad encounter because of the unladylike encounter with someone before, but now this boyfriend is the one who wants to live together in the future, and should be honest with each other. In addition, miscarriages are not written into marriage examination reports, and they are not as unforgivable as other infectious diseases.
What is really frightening and infuriating are those who deliberately conceal their infectious history. I've seen a news like this before:
Kobayashi met his girlfriend on a blind date, and within two months of knowing his girlfriend, he urged him to get married. The Kobayashi family hollowed out the family foundation to give the bride price and buy a wedding, and it was difficult to finish the marriage, and as a result, the family could not be happy.
It turned out that not long after marriage, his wife became pregnant, and when he accompanied his wife to go for a maternity examination, Kobayashi inadvertently saw that his wife's case was impressively written with "HIV positive" and several big words.
But anyone with a little common sense knows what HIV-positive means. Later, under the questioning of the Kobayashi family, the wife confessed that she had been infected with AIDS before marriage, but she had been hiding it in...
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="94" > why many people are reluctant to get a marriage test</h1>
Obviously, Kobayashi just suffered the loss of no marriage examination, so that when the child was about to be born, he knew that his wife had AIDS. Even more hateful is the fact that mother-to-child transmission is one of the main routes of HIV transmission, which means that children who have not yet been born are also very likely to be infected with HIV.
In reality, there are many tragedies that occur because there is no marriage examination. But even so, many people are still very contemptuous when they hear the word marriage examination, why is this so? There may be several reasons for this:
(1) I think the marriage examination is useless
Many people who are reluctant to get a marriage exam often think that the marriage exam is just a formality and has no substantive use. In addition, there are too many various things before marriage, so I don't want to "waste time" going to the marriage examination.
(2) There are hidden secrets that are difficult to say
There are still many cases like this, such as the reader at the beginning of the article is the most typical example. Nowadays, premarital sex and premarital cohabitation abound, and many people who are reluctant to marry may be afraid of finding out what will happen in the marriage examination.
(3) Deliberately concealing something
There are a very small number of people who do not want to marry the examination, may be carrying infectious diseases such as hepatitis B, AIDS, syphilis, etc., so they are not willing to go. This cause is often the most abhorrent, a deception of the other half, or even a criminal act.
(4) Fear of affecting feelings
Some people may attach too much importance to the feelings of both parties and feel that going to the marriage test is distrustful of themselves. There are also some people who have some minor diseases themselves and are afraid that once the marriage test comes out, the other half will mind.
(5) Psychological disorders
There are very few people who have an inexplicable fear of physical examinations and hospitals, especially the cold environment in the hospital, the strong smell of disinfectant water and various examination instruments, which will make them feel afraid, so they are afraid to do various examinations.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="95" > how risky it is not to do a marriage test</h1>
After the marriage examination changed from mandatory to free choice, the parties to the marriage did have complete autonomy to choose, but do you know how big the hidden risk of giving up the marriage examination is?
(1) Increase the number of defective children
The "China Birth Defect Prevention and Control Report (2012)" shows that since the abolition of compulsory marriage testing, the rate of newborn birth defects in China has doubled in just 10 years.
You know, before this, marriage examination has always been the first barrier to prevent birth defects. But after that, the first barrier was lost, and the rate of neonatal defects continued to rise.
(2) Concealing the history of infectious diseases
Infectious diseases, which mean contagious and inherited diseases, such as hepatitis B as we know them. Once we give up the marriage test, it means that we have no idea whether our other half carries hepatitis B or not, and we are more likely to pass on our disease to the next generation.
(3) Concealing sexually transmitted diseases
Sexually transmitted diseases, most typical of syphilis and AIDS, etc. Once we give up on the marriage test, it means that we have no idea whether the other half has this type of virus on them. In real life, many people do not do a marriage examination before marriage, and after marriage, the other half is found to have venereal diseases, and there are not a few people who divorce.
This kind of disease will not only affect the health of the other half, but also infect the other half, but also infect the next generation!
(4) High-risk working parents are at risk
If one of the parties to the marriage is engaged in high-risk occupations such as paint, rubber, plastics processing and has been exposed to various chemicals for a long time, it is very likely that the next generation will be at risk of cancer. At this time, the marriage examination can detect various problems as soon as possible and take corresponding measures as soon as possible.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="96" what is the main check for marriage examination >? After the STD is detected, will the doctor tell the other half? </h1>
The following picture is some of the items of the marriage examination.
At this time, someone must want to ask, then in case of sexually transmitted disease found in the marriage test, will the doctor tell your partner?
Please rest assured that the doctor will not tell the partner, because this is the privacy of the patient, and the doctor does not have this right.
However, just because doctors don't say it doesn't mean they can hide it. The relevant laws have long stipulated that once they are found to have a venereal disease, they are obliged to tell the other half. If it is concealed, it is a "malicious spread of statutory infectious diseases". For the "malicious spread of statutory infectious diseases" before the news has reported cases of sentences, it is a criminal act!
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="97" >Dr.X says</h1>
Marriage inspection does not represent suspicion and mistrust, on the contrary, marriage inspection is a responsible performance for both parties.
Although the marriage examination is now free, I hope that all the men and women who see this article can stay awake, responsible for themselves, responsible for the other half, responsible for the children, the marriage examination or the marriage examination!